Is it normal i don't meet girls expectations about my personality

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I'm a guy, i'm 18 years old and still a virgin. Well, I've been told i'm quite shy and withdrawned with people I don't know. However, now i've grew to be a little more sociable but still it's not easy for me to connect with people and I get tired easily.

But you know this isn't the real problem. In fact, the problem is with girls. My friends are all boys, I have no girl as a friend. I feel like it's harder to socialize with them because I don't have to much to tell them. Usually, I don't have to much things in common with girls so there's not something consistent I can share with her and if I joke about something chances are high that she get offended. Of course, not every girl is like this. Also, it get worse when it comes to flirting because I can't seem to interpret correctly the signs she's sending. Sometimes, I just can't understand them.

However, I've been told i'm good looking and girls tend to look at me in public places and in college. Also, I'm well built because i've been training mma for 2 years. So, when girls see me the first time I have the impression they expect me to act dominant over them but i'm a peaceful, nice and soft kind of person so they get turned off almost instantly. I know i'm confident and I'm proud of being myself. It's just with girls I tend to get a little nervous and withdrawned.

I think this is not normal so if you could give me some advice it would be nice :)

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  • Aeon
    9 years ago

    I don't know the type of girls you meet dude, may be tehy are the wrong type for you, but i don't think one can expect anything from someones personality, just because they look certain way. It's kinda shallow. You won't meet people's expectations ever, and when you do, they will want more... sadly. So i guess it's normal. Try searching for different girls. Men and women are not that different.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    Your a virgin?

    You have a small dick?

    OH! your an MMA fighter...now it makes sense.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    You know, there are all types of varieties of girls out there. I know women who love submissive men and women who could only love dominant man.

    I know a lot of men (especially on this site) LOVE to believe that there is only one type of woman out there and she is only into one type of man, but that is so far from the case that it is almost sickening to have to hear that. Maybe YOU'RE going after one type of woman but trust me, there are PLENTY of women out there who are totally wet for masculine looking shy guys.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    You don't sound much different from any other teenager. You've just got to remember that the girls are just as nervous around guys as guys are around girls.
    There are not many women who want you to "act dominant over them", early in a relationship, though they do expect you to have enough backbone to be able to pick a restaurant or movie, if she states she has no preference. If you can't do that, then you aren't going on too many dates.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    You already have the physical part down so girls are attracted to you but you say that your personality is the deal breaker. All I want to say is you don't have to change your personality for girls to like you. You will find a girl who will appreciate you for who you really are, both on the inside and the outside.

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  • WishIWasHere
    9 years ago

    I was the same way when I was young. Stop worrying about so much and just talk to them like a human being. You will get so much further if think of them as just another friend when it comes to talking to them.

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  • Viz
    9 years ago

    Basically your a big teddy bear

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  • megadriver
    9 years ago

    Be funny, crack a joke or two. Girls like that.
    And be confident and somewhat dominant. Women like men that can make a decision and know how to handle things.
    No need to worry man. Trial and error. And if one turns you down, big deal! Another won't!

    Nothing is easy!

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Be cocky and funny. It creates sexual tension. 80% of all women love it.

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    • EccentricWeird
      9 years ago

      I have a big dick.

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      • green_boogers
        9 years ago

        It's a paradox, but a big dick doesn't make you cocky. It only makes you cool. Ask any babe.

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        • Viz
          9 years ago

          Eh. I'm a woman and I disagree. Size doesn't matter too much, you know.

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  • Thatguy777
    9 years ago

    Dude you're lucky you're built. I'm 5'4 and skinny as an anorexic. Eating and working doesn't help either. I'm in the same boat as you, but I don't have nah confidence because I'm always put down, usually by girls because I still look like a young teen. I wish we could switch because you could get girls so easily where as I'm friendzoned the second I say hi. Have I mentioned I've never even come CLOSE to kissing a girl!? And I'm 19!! One thing I have over is female friends, and honestly they do all the talking so you don't have to worry about yourself that much. In fact most of the girls I talk to only talk about themselves and don't seem to give a shit about me, so I tend to ignore them. Just act confident and you'll be fine. I've learned to fake confidence, but because of my looks it doesn't matter, because physically I'm the last option a girl would ever choose.

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    • WishIWasHere
      9 years ago

      Probably because of your statement that you tend to ignore them. Try to remember somethings they say about themselves and subtly bring it up in conversation so they know you were listening... You will get much further.. Trust Me...

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      • Thatguy777
        9 years ago

        I've done this a lot before, especially when I fell in love. I'm saying I ignore them now because all girls give me the cold shoulder, and I don't even get friendzoned anymore. They just talk to me when no one else is around and I'm fucking sick of being used so I just don't talk to then anymore. They're bitches.

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