Is it normal i don't like it when my friends are friends with others?

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So these other people are your average nice people, I mean people I don't talk to, but are probably nice. When I see my friends talking to people i'm not friends with like on Facebook and real life I get a bit jealous, I never speak up because I feel like this is a stupid reason even though I can't change my thoughts, i'm not that much of a jealous person but if i'm not friends with someone who is friends with my friend I feel uncomfortable and slightly hurt when I see them talking, not sure if it's because they are excluding me, the niggle of a thought wondering if they are talking about me behind my back of just jealousy. Sometimes I even try to make friends with that person. IIN??

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    When I used FB in the past as a young teen, I used to be jealous if some of my friends or family members friended my other friends. I couldn't stop thinking about them either becoming better friends with each other than they were with me, or talking about me behind my back. This kind of jealousy and paranoia is mostly a juvenile thing I think. But at least on FB now, I hear you can hide your friends list from even your friends. If only it was like that when I had FB.

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  • Cymbalism
    8 years ago

    Your thoughts are common, but they're not healthy and you don't want to encourage them.

    Your friends will generally have other friends that are not your friends. That's okay! There's a good chance that not all of your friends are friends with all your other friends, so remember that, and you'll see the whole balance of the situation.

    Making friends with the person you're jealous of, like you said, is another way to stop feeling jealous. Sometimes it'll work, and that's awesome, but even if you don't hit it off with them very well, it's still okay.

    Remember that most normal people don't have some hierarchy where they like some friends more than others. Usually people like all their friends for different reasons and they don't think about who they like more. So don't stress, don't worry, love others, and let your friends be happy. :)

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