Is it normal i don't know what to do about rapist stalking me?

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I still live in the same town as the man who raped me in my home just over 6 years ago. He was never charged. .

In the past, something obvious has always happened on or around the anniversary of the rape, as if to remind me - like I need reminding! For example one year my woodsplitter vanished (he's a firewood supplier) and reappeared a year later - both dates on or around the date he raped me.

This year I deliberately travelled interstate so as not to be home on that date and have come home to find one half of a pair of work gloves missing from the firewood stack and some old firewood logs rolled down the slope to where I couldn't miss seeing them.

I have an Intervention Order but police have never charged him with any of numerous breaches, including trying to run me over in the street. I have sensor security lights and a security system which protects the house but I can't afford a full security system or CCTV.

Suggestions please! But not that I move away: I will not be chased out of my home town and away from family and friends by this moron. And no suggestions that I'm paranoid or imagining things either, because I definitely am not.

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    You need psychiatric intervention it seems.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      But how could he be made to agree to this?

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      • [Old Memory]
        7 years ago

        Not for him but for YOURSELF. You are paranoid and you require treatment with antipsychotics. Go now before the fear drives you mad. Antipsychotics will kill both paranoia and fear.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    You need to move on, figuratively and literally.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      I HAVE moved on! I'm still in the same town living a happy and fulfilling life except when he sporadically stalks me.

      Why should I "literally move on" away from supportive family and friends in a beautiful area I love? That's assuming I could find a rental I could afford elsewhere, which is extremely unlikely.

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        The answer is more obvious now that I know who you are. Get some meds, you're starting to lose your head. Old ladies just don't provoke enough emotion for a guy to go out of his way to stalk/attack. Your enemy is you.

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        • Ellenna
          7 years ago

          I am old but I'm not a lady and I was raped and I am being stalked. Why is that so hard to believe?

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          • Wrong
            7 years ago

            You have serious issues. I wouldn't be surprised if you made this whole thing up just to get some attention. I don't really know (or care) what happened to you in your past regarding men (obviously something traumatic)but there is something seriously wrong with you.

            Even if this is all true what sort of idiot seeks advice from this website about something like this lol.

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    If the police in your state can't handle it, handle it yourself. Stalk him back, look for evidence. When you got evidence enough, take it to the police.

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  • RoyRogers
    7 years ago

    MOVE

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    I was aware this post would bring out the morons, they're so boringly predictable, therefore I'm not surprised to be told I've made it all up for attention; it can't be true because no-one would rape or stalk an old woman; I need psychiatric help (sexual assault counselling has been very helpful, thank you, but I'm not crazy, I 'only' have PTSD).

    And some people wonder why women don't speak out about male sexual violence ........

    The reason why this predator has been getting away with it for MORE THAN 40 YEARS is that other victim/survivors and their families kept silent and/or moved away. I have done neither, which is why I'm still being stalked 6 years after being raped. I will not be silenced and I will not move away from the area I love and my family and friends.

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  • factcheck
    7 years ago

    Firstly, I'm sorry that happened and is happening to you. Secondly, I'm also sorry about the predictably idiotic responses you're getting here. This is probably not the best website for this sort of discussion.

    I would suggest you try one of these sites:

    http://au.reachout.com/sexual-assault-support
    http://www.sass.org.au/
    http://www.nswrapecrisis.com.au/
    http://www.victimsupport.org.au/services.php
    http://www.rape-dvservices.org.au/

    Even if you've moved on and recovered from the rape itself, they will still support you(which, as you've noticed, you're not going to get much of here, unfortunately) and have the resources to help you - or can put you in touch with people who can.

    Good luck!

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  • sillygirl77
    7 years ago

    I'd hire a lawyer as a legal consultant to learn all my options if I felt the police weren't doing enough

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      I have consulted a legal aid lawyer and I've exercised all my legal options.

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    Why not confront him, have your family and friends with you as support, tell him to stay the fuck away from you. After that ignore him completely.

    In your position? I´d probably kill him though, like set his house on fire or try to poison his food.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      I have thought of getting all my friends and family together and handing it over to them. Asking on here was a bit of a tryout on that process: ie, I can't think of anything else to do but others may be able to.

      I already ignore him, except when he tried to run me over in the street.

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      • (s)aint
        7 years ago

        I think it´s the safest thing to do. I understand not wanting to leave everyone behind, I have that sort of connection to my area as well, moving an hour in another diection, absolutely (Sweden got a really great and frequent public transport)

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  • hgjukbjk
    7 years ago

    Stalk him back and frame him for a crime, then you can really send him to prison. I'd recommend something easily documentable, like tax fraud.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      I don't have the time, energy, inclination or money for fuel to stalk him, although I have followed him a couple of times on the road when driving in the same direction and he didn't seem to like it, but then later I was scared I'd antagonised him into payback from him.

      He doesn't pay tax anyway and I don't think I have the right criminal type of mind to frame him for any crime. To be honest, and I do know a bit about tax law, I don't see how someone else's phony income history would be "easily documentable" without access to say, his bank records. He seems untouchable by the law anyway: he's been getting away with rape/sexual assault of women & young girls/stalking for 40 years.

      Circumstantial evidence that he's murdered at least one of his rape victims and the probable burial site has been reported to the police some years ago but he's still here.

      And so am I ....

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      • hgjukbjk
        7 years ago

        If you stalk him, maybe you can figure out how he got away with murder and do the same thing to him.

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        • Ellenna
          7 years ago

          And if you were in my position, would you take that sort of risk? I don't think so .....

          And as for doing the same thing to him, I wouldn't know how and don't care to learn

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          • hgjukbjk
            7 years ago

            I mean you should murder him and then cover it up. ALSO THIS IS PARODY FOR ANY LEGAL AUTHORITIES WHO MAY BE READING THIS. IT IS PURELY A JOKE. HA HA.

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