Is it normal i don't know how to make friends??

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So before college, I participated in sports and a couple of clubs and that's how I would make friends. It was like these people would just appear in my life and BAM we became friends. Now that we're in college we sorta grew apart and I accepted it. It's common and normal, so I saw it coming. But now I don't really want to participate in sports or clubs because I just want to focus completely on my accademics. I'm now a sophomore and I have like no friends. I don't know how to open up to people I've never met before. In sports and clubs it was like I kind of had to. I mean we were a team so we had to talk and express ourselves, but now I'm too scared. I don't know how to make friends and I really want to. I miss going out with friends and having someone to talk to about anything, but it seems like I can't find the confidence to do so. Is this normal?? Also if you can give me some pointers, that would be great. ;)

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  • lufa
    11 years ago

    you should be able to make friends through school and work. I've had my friends from university, then I started making more from work-but I have no real craving for making new friends-just more obligations/events/responsibilities and relationships to maintain.

    However I'd recommend start very slowly-humor is the best way to melt the ice-then find common interests. Eventually over the weeks and months they get used to you, go to a movie and it builds from there.

    Showing that you're desperate for friends works the same way for dating, it turns people off and makes them run away from you. Act like you don't need anyone and they will come to you.

    One guy at work comes on too strong, it's obvious he wants friends-but he's extremely opinionated and although he is very funny, he comes across as a major try-hard. I also don't like his personality so I will not let him be more than a co-worker.

    I'm single and the trouble is that I have fairly high standards when it comes to dating girls-so it makes it twice as hard to date-plus I am eager to find a girl and I know I'm probably giving off the wrong vibe unconsciously. Though some cute girls do check me out-I just haven't had the opportunity to pick them up. I'm also really hard on myself so that makes it even more difficult. lol

    But opportunities can open up anywhere and where you least expect it-I'm speaking from experience. All you have to do it take advantage when it arises.

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  • hamwich
    11 years ago

    Try and make friends with the other loners.

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  • AssBurgers
    12 years ago

    Same boat buddy. I went through a year of college not really connecting with anyone in my class and it put me off going back.

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  • MRmr
    12 years ago

    All you say is hey whats up...not that difficult

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  • solidman
    12 years ago

    You should just find people who love doing stuf that you love doing.

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