Is it normal i don't know how to flirt?

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I grew up with a bunch of boy cousins so I'm really good at understanding boy's/men's humor. I can talk sports, outdoors, etc..Anyway I have never been able to flirt. I'm 19 and I have no clue on how to do it. I've never had a boyfriend yet I have a bunch of guy friends. I know none of them are attracted to me because whenever I start feeling something for one of them, I tell him how I feel and the response is always something like "I don't see you like that". It's sad. Lol. I've even read magazine articles searching for good flirting tips but I never know how to actually do them. I am not a lesbian so please no comments on that. Haha I am attracted to guys but don't know how to actually show them or get them to notice me as a girl not some pal. I do have a girlie side and all but when I'm around guys I can't really seem to show it. I can make guy friends with no problem but they get carried away with the idea of me being like some bro they can never see me as a girlfriend. It's not like I dress, talk or walk like a guy. I just get along with them. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. Is it normal I don't know how to change that?.. Oh and hey if you have any pointers for me that'd be great :)

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  • LightningTechnician
    12 years ago

    I never did any flirting...probably because I'm too shy and the other reason would be I think it's kind of stupid.

    But...that's just me.

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    • indecisive
      12 years ago

      I agree. I don't see the actual point, yet i see other girls doing it and wonder why. I would never try im a shy one too.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      See I always thought that too, but lately I've been worrying if that's the reason I've been single for so long.

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  • GreenPelican
    9 years ago

    If there's a guy you like, touch him subtly on the arm when you talk to him or gently rub the side of his face/neck while complementing something about him. Do the face/neck rub quickly, just like a real quick graze. Don't just sit there caressing him for too long or he might think it's weird. Try to minimize physical space between you and him when talking to him.

    Let your nervousness flow when you're around him, it's usually a pretty big indicator that you're into him and he might make a move if he feels the same way. Try to avoid talking about "guy things" with him until after you've hooked up with him. If you're not sure if something would be too "bro", just take the safe road and don't say anything and smile at him instead.

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  • Hamaaa
    11 years ago

    Just go with him a seperate room and take off his pant and suck his dick and then lick his ass he will never leave u i know its a stupid but this is a fact really try it

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    Noatomsk is right, you should listen to noatomsk :)

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  • taciturn
    12 years ago

    I know this isn't all that helpful, but it really just depends on the person. There's no formula for effective flirting. Any 'technique' that works on most people is going to be as vague as "make eye contact" or "laugh at their jokes", and such things are obviously too ambiguous to really do much for you romantically. That said, those vague techniques wouldn't hurt either.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I'm a guy and here's what I consider flirting. To me, if a girl is laughing at my jokes and playfully asking me questions of a perverted nature, then I think she's flirting with me. I could be wrong, but that's just what I consider flirting.

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