Is it normal i don't feel like i deserve love?

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Love is a disease of the mind. Attachment to things or people is the only source of pain in life. All my life I have experienced how people approach me for companionship and then manipulate me for their own gains. Closeness and intimacy makes me feel sick. I don't value myself as someone that others would want to spend any reasonable amount of time with. I don't understand why anyone would want to invest with me when they could be getting higher returns elsewhere because I don't have anything of substance to offer. I don't see how I can be capable of being loved when I don't love myself. Women are emotional, hormonal, irrational, illogical, and superficial. I'm afraid of things I don't understand. I'm afraid of being hurt by forces I can't control. I'm afraid that when she doesn't want me anymore, she can go to the authorities and say that she was raped, because the courts of law are always on the side of women. I want love but I'm afraid to make myself vulnerable like that because I don't want to be taken advantage of. Realistically, I can't desire something I've never had.

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  • PinkHairedFreak
    8 years ago

    Being unattached to people can also be a source of pain in life.

    First you need to learn to love yourself. That's the foundation. Then you can finally learn to love someone else. It can be scary, but like they say, without risk there is no reward.

    Millions of people take chances loving someone every day. Sometimes that risk pays off, and sometimes it doesn't. When it doesn't, we still get back up and try again. Why do we keep taking risks? There must be something that makes it worth it for all of those millions of people. How can all of those people be wrong?

    Just remember the first step is to love yourself. It can be difficult at times, especially in the beginning, but you feel so much better afterwards.

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  • joedoe
    8 years ago

    When you love someone and they love you, you are mutually beneficial to one another

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    I know how you feel. I wanted to share my story but it's fairly long.

    If you ever want to talk it out I'm game.

    If not all I have to say is this. Loving yourself is key. I'm still learning how to do it, but I've come a long way. Your thoughts aren't unlike my own. I really hit rock-bottom when it came to lack of self-love so I really do understand your pain especially with not being able to connect to others.

    Hope you'll find a way.

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