Is it normal i don't care if people think i am gay or effeminate?

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I love ballet. I am a great ballet dancer and I have had so much passion for this art for most of my life. I love musical theater, musical arts, I have starred in many amateur musicals as well and I love symphonic arts as well! I dress very nicely, and my behavior tends to reflect my musical and performing arts background.

I am not gay, I enjoy having sex with women and have a great pick of the female cast members that I work with. And after so many years of being criticized, I must say that I don't get it. Even if I am gay, why would it bother them? Why does my performing and my love for the arts bother anyone enough to accuse me of wanting sex with men? I associate with plenty of men in my career field, gay or straight, and I would not have relations with any of them!

I don't understand why anyone would call me gay without knowing my romantic background, so I am under the impression that the people that insult me must be full of themselves. I don't care what they think. I work with men that get really upset about being called gay, and no matter what I tell them, they take it personally, so why should I?

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  • moomus
    11 years ago

    It's just ignorance

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      Not ignorance, as they are aware that there is nothing wrong with it. It's a dislike of the unconventional.

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  • peterrabbyt2
    10 years ago

    I fucked a ballet dancer while waiting for a taxi once.

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    • peterr
      10 years ago

      She was my sister!

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  • Francophile22
    11 years ago

    You're a better man than I; I am a musician, I tend to have body language while playing that can appear feminine (if the music demands it) and for me, I don't care, EXCEPT the one time my family thought I was gay because I had some gay friends (and one sister still thinks I am, she thinks one of my straight roomies back in the day was gay and that we slept together) and THAT pisses me off, not because of the gay thing, but because they don't even KNOW me enough to know it's not true, they don't know how many times I damn near committed suicide over women that turned me down (when I was young).

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    Be proud of who you are "?

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  • ceagl
    11 years ago

    Patrick Swayze probably had to contend with the same issues as yourself and he was a married man. You seem like you are handling it the best you can and honestly I don't see how you can change everyone's opinion. Good luck to you.

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  • YawningBober
    11 years ago

    I agree. Sometimes people utter faggot under their voices, obviously trying to offend me but, it's really just funny. I used to be bothered by it actually, until I realized that it has nothing to do with anything. I enjoy doing things that many would assume is gay, for example, buying things at stores and dressing nice. For this, many have made the assumption I'm gay. Truth be told, it is annoying. I feel like some people are actually stupid enough to think they can guess someone's sexual preference based on the way they present themselves. Ignorant people will be ignorant. :-/

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  • coffeebreath
    11 years ago

    I think the people who criticise you are just ignorant, so there's no need to take anything they say seriously since they don't even know what they're talking about.

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  • Faeri_Realms
    11 years ago

    I'm a ballet dancer too! It's just the ignorant people who don't understand how physically demanding this line of work is. People think that all we do is spin around in frilly tutus. When really we are stronger and more athletic than any of them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Ignore them. You are doing something that you love & they are just trying too bring yoo down (not that there is anything wrong with being gay) x

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Do what you love, and screw anyone who hates! You sound like a hella interesting guy to me!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    haters gonna hate, who's getting all the ladies? YOU.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    Well, you already know the answer. To answer the question with a question, though, do you believe that musical theatre attracts people with certain sexualities?

    Do you also think people are stupid enough that if you say "yes", they'll assume all people working in musical theatre are gay?

    For instance, let's say 11% of people are gay. Let's say more than that percentage work in music theatre. Maybe... 12%? In everyday life I don't think people are even observant enough to judge the difference between 11% and 12%.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Musical theater doesn't attract significantly more than any other field of study or career. Maybe a few measly percentage points but it's downright silly to assume that the entirety of the population of a sexual orientation status would all concentrate heavily into one field.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    nice

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    Do what you like and fuck the people that don't like it.

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    • Justsomejerk
      11 years ago

      unless they're men because you're not gay remember.

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      • anti-hero
        11 years ago

        Just because you fuck men, it doesn't make you gay.

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        • peterrabbyt2
          10 years ago

          Oh yes it fucking does!

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