Is it normal i don't care about anyone's virginity?

I agree with you as far as I'm concerned it really dose not matter some people come off as desperate when they worry about getting sex.
I just follow the flow and what ever comes to me in life I tend to follow it.
Life has a crazy way of working.

Anyways I also understand why some might want to wait it tends to vary but it's how some people work.

I dont care about virginity. If I was falling for a girl and found out she were a virgin it would be a slight turn off. I prefer sex crazed degenerate women.

I used to believe that your first time was important, so I didn't just do it with anybody. There were a couple of times I could've lost it but I didn't feel like the time was right (maybe I just wasn't ready for it anyway). I don't believe that anymore though, now I just think it's stupid that we put so much emphasis on the first time for sex but not for any other activity. But now I feel like it's too late to just 'do it with anybody', I've put it off for so long. It's on a pedestal so high I can't see it anymore. It's become a dream of mine now, like winning the lottery. I really feel my first time is ruined now before it's begun, no matter what kind of first time I have now I'm not going to enjoy it. I'll be way too neurotic about it. So I should really just get out there and just do it and get it over with, and then I can get over any regret I have afterwards and move on. But I'm terrified of that regret though.

My first time wasn't with the "right" person, he turned out to be a little prick who spread rumours about me. That was upsetting. But the second person was "right" - we really thought that we were in love (in the way teenagers do) and he was a lovely guy, really respected me. In hindsight it would have been better if I'd lost it to him instead of the first guy, but it doesn't really matter now. It was so long ago. I can't think of any genuinely meaningful reason why it would be worth going back in time and changing it, if I could.

I guess what I'm saying is that I agree with you - it doesn't matter as much as we might think it does. You sure can save yourself a lot of heartache though if you wait for someone who loves and respects you.

Why does virginity come up so often on here?

Personally I want my first time bro be special and after that to be plentiful. We each have our own desires on it

Having sex for the first time is something that almost everyone remembers, so it's good if it's not terrifying, painful or so incredibly awkward that it leaves you feeling like you're a total idiot.

Ideally, I think everyone would go through the process with someone who is patient, genuinely likes them as a person, and has at least some sexual experience, and it would happen in a setting where both people feel safe, secure and relaxed. Because it has so much significance for some people and because most people are worried about doing or saying something stupid or getting it wrong, it's not unusual for people to be nervous. That can lead to men experiencing erectile failure and women being tensed up and un-lubricated. Neither of those things is conducive to enjoyable sex. Both are more likely if the sex is hurried and furtive, and neither of the people really know what they hell they're doing.

I agree that it's stupid to refuse to have sex until you find the person you believe is your perfect partner. It's entirely possible for a person who is perfect for you in every other way to be totally crap in the sack. If you have no standard by which to judge the sexual chemistry between you and Mr or Miss Perfect and their abilities, preferences, and expectations, you can end up stuck in a relationship where the sex is really not that great. Odds are that, sooner or later, you're going to figure that out, and that can lead to regrets, bitterness, or unfaithfulness.

As it should be.

aaaand the post goes on to condradict the title...ok then. "safe and you both want to" is very subjective, level of comfort differs greatly. why you worried about it?