Is it normal i do not understand guilt.

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I have never been able to understand why people feel guilty or ashamed about things. If someone feels guilty about something they did, then why did they do it in the first place? I just cannot comprehend it. I even notice people feeling guilty for things they had no control over. In my perception it is a sign of weakness. I cannot say I have ever felt bad about myself for anything. I know people compair a lack of guilt to sociopathy, but I doubt I am a sociopath because I am able to care about peoples well being even though I do not understand or care about their feelings. I also don't believe I do anything too bad unless it would cause me problems not to. Being nice is just common sense but so is not dwelling on what is already done with.

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howaminotmyself

10 years ago

You must not know many Catholics or Jews. They can be great at guilt trips.

My mom and sister both do this to me. Being accused of not loving your nephews because you can't visit every weekend is a bit cruel. Or hearing a sob story in voicemail because you didn't answer is silly, but it somehow hurt their feelings.

I know that guilt is a waisted emotion. But it is hard to overlook when people you care about make up some reason as to why your normal behavior upset them. I don't want to hurt them, but it happens. My husband is immune to them. He isn't affected by guilt trips and really doesn't tolerate that kind of behavior. It's hard for me as I was raised in that manner. It can be very manipulative to use it against people.

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  10 years ago
  
  I feel immune to guilt trips too. People complaining to me will only irritate me. It also is manipulative of people to do that and it can be very whiny.
  
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  - fluffyluv
    
    10 years ago
    
    Dude please never get married. You would SOOO end up as an abusive husband. Like god damn, I would feel seriously sorry for someone with a dad like this.
    
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      10 years ago
      
      I'm not much of an abusive person. I'm actually usually nice. I don't see whats bad about giving in to peoples guilt trips. It is weak minded to be easily manipulated and feel bad because someone says they should. I am a more independent thinker.
      
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ProseAthlete

10 years ago

Sociopaths aren't necessarily evil killers. They lack the ability to empathize, though, and if what you're describing is your honest bewilderment at other people's full range of emotions, then no, I would have to say that probably isn't normal.

Guilt is a pretty typical emotion to feel for having done something wrong, even if it was inadvertent. You wonder why they did it in the first place, but sometimes they mistook it as a right action or simply didn't know their actions would have unpleasant repercussions for themselves or others.

Never feeling guilt or regret is definitely not typical for most people.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  One thing I still don't understand is if someone did something bad thinking that they were doing something good, then why wouldn't they realize their intentions were good so logically they shouldn't feel bad. Its just basic logic to me.
  
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  - Charmo
    
    10 years ago
    
    Just because their intentions were good doesn't mean their actions were good. Regardless of intention, harm still directly resulted from their actions, and they were the cause of that harm. Hence, they feel guilty.
    
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jimrichy

10 years ago

You are a sociopath.

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  10 years ago
  
  I get told this alot but I when I read the symptoms alot of it doesn't fit me either. I am able to care about other peoples well being, and I care alot about animals and human rights. I don't lie very often but not because people think its wrong but because it usually serves no purpose to. They also say sociopaths know their sociopaths and wouldn't wonder if they are. I just notice I am missing alot of emotions that most people have and am baffled why others are so weak and sensitive and there is no reason to burden myself by being effected by other peoples senseless emotions. Honestly I feel more evolved. I do often get very angry when people cry or panic because it annoys me to be around that shit but I would also care if someone close to me died. I get told I'm mean alot and I try not to be mean but I'm unable to care about peoples feelings because to me they seem ridiculous which makes it hard to tolerate.
  
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jimrichy

10 years ago

Autism?

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  10 years ago
  
  I think that makes more sense. Ive been diagnosed with that before but it didn't seem to explain everything and most the autistic people Ive meet were over emotional and sensitive. I'm also very extraverted and hate routines which is rare for autism. I've noticed I have various symptoms or different diagnoses and what I hate about psychology is they try to catergorize people into specific catagories which just doesn't work in real life because no two people are going to be the same. I think I just have my own thing.
  
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  - peterr
    
    10 years ago
    
    You should suck me off and we would get along just fine. Believe me! Nice 7 inch cut cock!
    
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Jeaneathean

10 years ago

Surely sometime you have made a mistake and felt bad about it afterwards.

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Terence_the_viking

10 years ago

Oof.

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Is it normal i do not understand guilt.