Is it normal i'd ike to date hispanics but feel they shun non-latinos?

OK all my life I have had Hispanic acquaintances, and learned Spanish (Both European and Mexican, and a little South American stuff too). My dad had a business which I worked for back in the day; and we went out of our way to hire them, as despite the crap you hear, they are very hard workers, they almost try to out-do each other, etc.

And I probably don't need to tell you I love to watch TeleMundo for all the hot chicks on there, etc.

However, and I mean I have been really friendly, etc., on business/acquaintance levels with many Hispanics, there is something about the typical Latino culture that makes me feel like I have zero chance to actually get a woman interested in dating, due to not being macho enough (whatever that means), not having a beach tan, not driving a modified car, the whole cultural thing of Latino women not dating white men for fear of what the other Latinos would think, etc., or perhaps the perception that non-Latino men are not sexy or masculine.

In my life now is a woman off-limits (married with two young kids, kids are no deal-breaker for me) and you can tell she thinks she's hot (yes, in fact, she is), and once in awhile I send out some very subtle hints and you can tell she's flattered, but you can also see that she thinks in general that I and others like me might as well be Martian or something. Of course I am keeping my thoughts to myself, I won't ever cross that line; I respect her and her husband.

Is it normal that I feel this way and is it normal I feel my appraisal of Latino culture indicates there is zero chance ever (we're not talking 3rd generation from Spain or anything like that)?

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    Do like me and go for Indian women. They look similar or sometimes better than latinas but unlike them they go for gentlemen, not macho car-tuners.

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    • BTDT. Problem is they only marry desis and even then it's most likely accomplished via a matchmaker that matches based on Caste. Forget about actually having sex with one before marriage.

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      • GoraIntoDesiGals

        That's cliche. I've dated and had sex with desi women.

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        • Perhaps so; but 100% of the desi women I know are traditionalist; will only marry another desi, and even at that, only within a specific caste range.

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          • GoraIntoDesiGals

            Keyword here is: the women you KNOW. Travel a bit. Try to meet new desi women.

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  • I only read the title, spiks do shun every other race. Just like blacks and Jews.

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    • anti-hero

      C not K on spics.

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  • FocoUS

    UMMM I'm pretty sure the reason why she isn't returning the advances is because she's married with two kids, not because she's Latina.

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    • Dude, did I ANYWHERE say I made ANY advances!!!!
      Read again!!

      I mean they know they are hot shit, they know you know (or they hope you think so), but yet it's this aloof crap.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs

    Get a tan.
    Get muscles.
    Drive a pimped out ride.
    Sit in plastic chair all day.
    Smash bishes.

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  • jwzc96

    Hey I think you should back off a bit firm his wife. You never know, sometimes it's very hard to control ourselves when sexual feelings are involved (if that is the case) but regardless take precautions.

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  • julialynn

    You must be ugly. Men, regardless of race or ethnicity love beauty.

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    • NO it's YOU who are ugly for such an uncalled for comment. I have been a connoisseur of beauty all my life. Now go back to middle school and work on your social skills.

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  • dappled

    I can't really comment on your story but it was refreshing to hear somebody differentiate Mexico from South America, and also to understand that Spanish has multiple forms.

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    • Are you serious? all Anglos today who study Spanish know all that; this is not 1960.

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      • dappled

        Ahh, I was thinking of people in general when I made the comment rather than people like you. I'm pretty sure there are people in England who think that, even in Spain, only one language is spoken. And we're only a few hundred miles away!

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        • And the reason for that ignorance is the same reason most believe that only French is spoken in France - because historically each Crown vied for total hegemony and on the top priority list of the victor was a serious attempt at erasing the language of the vanquished. Same with Breton, Gaelic, Scottish Gaelic, Scots, Cornish, Welsh (with three major dialects if my memory serves) etc., within the UK.

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          • dappled

            Definitely, although it happens for economic reasons too, without political pressure.

            Completely at odds with this, Welsh is currently the world's most subsidised language (by the English). We're doing everything we can to keep it alive as opposed to killing it off. It's going to go the way of Cornish, though. Saddening. Some of my recent ancestors spoke Welsh only, not English.

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            • I have more faith that Welsh can be preserved than I ever did for Cornish, based on an instinctual feeling that since originally the English Kings intermarried with Welsh Royalty, yet it must only be in the distant past that they also did so with those from Cornwall (I cannot recall a single instance); so somehow Welsh is a "favorite hobby" within the upper class. After all, Wales was not as greatly at odds with England with the same vigor that Scotland was. My two pence so to speak.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    My husband is white than white, but many of his previous girlfriends are latinas. I guess you should just, I don't know, not act like they are special because of their skin color. That's what he does and it worked for him.

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  • thinkingaboutit

    You speak Spanish.

    You've passed the test.

    that's it. if you push hard enough, she'll push back.

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  • Phycokitty

    maybe its easier to date latin men bc ive never had this problem then again big boobs and an ass paird with my attitude probably exuse my pale exterior

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    • Woman generally have it easier, men come up to them; the only women that ever come up to me are either totally insane or sluts rubbing stuff in my gf's/date's face.

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  • anti-hero

    You just have to know how to talk to a Latina.

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    • And exactly how would that be different than any other ethnicity?? I have talked to literally dozens of Latin men relating to business, a few neighbors, but I honestly can't remember being invited over to meet any of their families (hence none of their sisters etc.) So I'm saying I've never known a Latina other than thru business or when she's working somewhere and I'm a customer, so I have never actually talked at all with any Latin woman on any personal level whatsoever (unless you count talking about the weather).

      So what do I say?? Seriously? do I talk about Soccer (which I hate by the way)? Or the Merengue? (I can't dance so there would be no point besides she'd see right thru it) or perhaps...you get the picture. Are you saying I have to know how to flirt in a particular fashion that would be different, say, than with Scandi women??

      I guess I am intimidated by their mostly good looks, like they could get anyone, why the hell would they bother with a stupid gringo? (No offense to my Hispanic friends, it's me feeling this, not them saying it.)

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      • anti-hero

        It's not what you talk about it is how you say it. You have to be over confident to a degree that even you are uncomfortable with.

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        • In other words, act macho and pretend that I'm the best thing that ever walked the face of the earth.

          See, if you're smart (I have a high IQ) you realize that NOBODY is all that, excepting perhaps great statesmen/inventors/ Joan of Arc.

          So basically go against truth and totally bullshit your way in?

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          • anti-hero

            Yeah pretty much. Just because you have a high IQ, doesn't mean that she will.

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