Ask Your Question today
My husband and I got married in October and recently I don't enjoy our sex life. I'm horny but when we have sex I don't feel any satisfaction. I think its because he doesn't like to take it slow or even kiss during sex anymore?
You should be honest and open with him. Have a frank talk with him about it.
If he's not romantic at all that's definitely why you can't orgasm. Tell him you're not happy with the way he'll make love to you and I'm sure he'll try to change :)
You have to discuss with him openly your feeling know what you want something to try :-
It is a combination of some clitoral and some putting pressure just inside the vagina about two finger joints in and moving your finger as if beckoning someone closer to you a fuller bladder even very full will help this as it makes that area stick out and be hard /sensitive . Other bonus is after action letting out distended bladder will feel extremely good and bladder will super empty . Plus is getting these feeling when full will make skipping the ladies on the way to see your man so you are already full you will be already building up syching yourself for the fun to be so a sort of extended for play some nice new panties for man to discover and appreciate may add to the unwrapping fun as well . Not saying to wet or make a mess just saying to have fun enjoy yourself
Not to parrot others, but why marry a guy who doesn't turn you on? Some people also need to be trained to have great sex, so teach him the 'right' way to do things to you.
Be open with him about it. Teach him how to do what he needs to do to satisfy you. You don't have to be critical of him even, just give him a lot of positive feedback when he does something good and clear instructions when he does something you don't like.
No it is not normal, in a youthful new marriage for this kind of trouble! You have really not given enough info, but you in your heart know if he was great before then something has changed, work on finding out!
We always foreplay and yes I orgasmed before we got married and he stimulates me manually.
And what about masturbation? Do you achieve orgasm when you stimulate your genitals yourself? It may be important to know because it is a different situation if you are able to orgasm during masturbation but not with your husband or if your orgasms disappeared completely - i.e. you had orgasms before with your husband as well as during masturbation and now you are not able to achieve orgasm neither during self-stimulation nor with your husband.
Has he done anything to disappoint or disturb you lately? You might just be shutting down mentally from other things in life too or him. Idk all your situation. But def is wise to always have good communication between you two and to work it out, if its something boggling you down mentally or him not keeping or getting you horny enough to cum. If he isn't hitting your clit enough, not playing with and licking / sucking your nipples, etc that really helps get you to cum tell / explain to him. Using a toy like a cock ring with clit vibrator stubs or a vibrator, etc will enhance and get you to orgasm too. Tell him you like when he kisses you when your getting fucked by him and that hes rushing too fast if you feel its the main reason.
Try something new with him. Role play maybe. I don't know, maybe spice it up a bit. If he's not romantic enough for you, tell him you want more romance in your sex.
Your problem with the lack of sexual enjoyment and orgasm in particular may be caused by various factors. It could help to understand and figure the problem out if you answered these questions:
1. Did you experience orgasm with him before getting married?
2. What about masturbation? Do you achieve orgasm when you stimulate your genitals yourself?
3. Have you tried different sex positions and various sexual practices? Does your partner stimulate your genitals orally, manually etc.?