Is it normal i cannot accept love anymore?

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Since my last relationship (which ended a year ago, was together for two years off and on) I can't seem to accept love or at least make it last.
I have had a few offers this past year from very nice, sincere men. Everything seems okay at first but then something turns in me and I do my best to push them away as far as I can. I even act nastily, which isn't like me. I feel like I can't be loved and if people show such emotions to me, it freaks me out and I just want them to stop. I hate people thinking I'm some kind of perfection because I am not! I don't want to be put on a pedestal.
I seem to only want people that don't want me. In the past year, I have only chased people who have expressed that they don't want me. For the past few months, but has recently ended, I was sleeping with someone and shared a close relationship with them. My feelings developed, which I didn't intend them to since it was just no strings fun, and I fell in love. He didn't have the same feelings but begged me not to leave. So we carried on for a while but then one night he tried it on with a friend of mine so I ended things. I'm still heart broke two months on. Three men during this time have asked me to be their girlfriend but I hate it. I want him more than ever because he doesn't want me. I don't want them because I hate it when men are overly nice and almost worship me. It makes me cringe, feel sick and makes my skin crawl.
So is it normal I can't accept love from people? And I only want people who don't want me?

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    I don't understand why people want people who don't want them. Although I can get annoyed by strong emotions, I still want someone to love me with all of their fucking heart, but I can't seem to find that yet.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      10 years ago

      I hope you do someday. Everyone deserves love.

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      • Karmasbitch
        10 years ago

        Thank you.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Tis a crying shame i hope it all works out for you.

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  • ucipher8
    10 years ago

    Somehow im only attracted to those who will end up breaking my heart. then there are those in between that i admire yet, are already with someone and i wouldn't cross that line. much like you, i've given up on love yet ill open up almost immediately to anyone who brings themselves toward me. sadly, love is always the last thing on my mind because it has hurt me the most

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  • lufa
    10 years ago

    Most men don't or can't put themselves in a woman's shoes. So they don't realize their behavior, though well-meant, could be creeping a woman out.

    When I was young, I used to worship hot girls and my turning them into some kind of ideal/goddess, would prevent me from seeing reality and I made mistakes that would end the relationship. Obviously when we get older, we grow beyond such infantile thinking, at least most of us, but not all men.

    What I'd suggest is of the men who fawn over you, the one you like the most-tell him not to do that and he'll stop, assuming he's sensible.

    As for liking men who don't want you-it strikes at your deepest sense of self-worth. It's the oldest trick in the book used by men to attract women. I've done this also, but I hate myself after for being manipulative and watching a strikingly beautiful confident women, just shrivel up and become insecure and needy.

    Just not the kind of person I am. I'm just very supportive of women and would rather her reject me, than to make her feel any less about herself just to get into her pants.

    Now I've reached the point where I want a woman who's beautiful but mature and has worked out her vices. But I've also found that I can have no feelings at all for a girl, even if we were close once, which kind of scares me. Yet its also empowering since I'm not hung up on her.

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