Is it normal i can't trust my girlfriend

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I can't trust my girlfriend. We've been together for over a year. I'm 22, she's 23. She's never cheated on me or anything but I've caught her in lies multiple times and she also likes to sugarcoat stuff (tell me what sounds good instead of the whole truth). I really love her and wanna marry her but I just can't get over these trust issues. Idk what to do. Sometimes I want to end it but I'm so afraid of losing her/her finding someone else. She says I can trust her and that she loves me yet she still tells these white lies. It really sucks because I just want her to be all the way honest so I can give her my trust. I just really feel like I can't trust her. Any advice?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You could always cut her into pieces.

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  • PapzBSlim
    10 years ago

    I went through the same thing as you recently. I am a very jealous person and take things the wrong way and my girlfriend once told me a little lie. She said she was scared that I would overreact, which I did. Now, I just play it cool and know that I can trust her. When we are not at work, we are constantly together or she is trying to come see me. Maybe you are overly jealous or may overreact at times?

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    • CforCourageous
      10 years ago

      Yea, I definitely am and I do overreact. She told me that same reason for why she told a little lie. I understand why she would but I really want complete honesty anyway. I do need to be more secure and less jealous tho

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      • PapzBSlim
        10 years ago

        Good for you. I hope you continue to work on that. If you truly believe she is in love with you, you will stop doubting what she is doing and know that she thinks about you while you two are not with one another. Give her the benefit of the doubt until you find some hard evidence.

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  • MisterDam
    10 years ago

    If in doubt, just get out

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Everybody lies when it suits them, everyone.

    We're all liars and you can't bullshit a bullshitter, so just pick a liar and marry her/him.

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  • GuessWho
    10 years ago

    You don't have trust issues, she has truth issues.

    It's normal to not trust liars. It's not normal to lie to the person you love.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    What kind of lies. Are they unforgivable lies or are they hatty fatty lies.

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    • CforCourageous
      10 years ago

      There were 2 big lies that really hurt me, and a couple little white lies

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      • Terence_the_viking
        10 years ago

        Have you forgiven her for the two big lies.

        It's all down to you really all i can really say is don't sell yourself short.

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        • CforCourageous
          10 years ago

          I've told her I've forgiven her. But deep down idk if I have. Its a tough call

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          • Terence_the_viking
            10 years ago

            At the end of the day it's your life.

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  • Ipooprainbows
    10 years ago

    Totally normal, and I know of someone in a similar situation. The sad thing is that when someone tells a lie even when it's little, it makes every SINGLE WORD that comes out of their mouth doubtful. And then if they do tell the truth no one believes them cause they are known as a lier. My advice are out of 2 options:
    (1) Tell her straight up that you want honesty otherwise you will end it since you can never go forward with trust issues
    (2) Leave her if she doesn't change since you wont be able to trust a god dam word she says.
    Why the fuk can't people be honest these days, it's soo bloomin simple! :O

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    You can't trust any woman.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    YESS. GIRLS ARE MANIPULATIVE BITCHES WHO AREN'T TO BE TRUSTED.

    I was in a relationship with one of these girls for a year, for the same reasons you are considering staying, but I have decided I will NEVER put up with a woman's bullshit ever again, even if that means staying single.

    Trust with ZERO lies is one of the few things that is an ABSOLUTE MUST in a relationship. If you don't have that, GTFO, it's not worth it, and you are just making yourself look like a hopeless idiotic loser for staying with a girl like that. And the longer you stay with bitches, the longer it will be until you find a nice girl who knows how to treat you well (i met two nice girls who I would have loved to be in a relationship with, but unfortunately i'm one of the few good guys, and didn't do anything about it because I was manipulated into loving a cheating bitch).

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  • CDmale4fem
    8 years ago

    Bottom line, if you dont have trust, you have nothing to build a relationship on.

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  • Phishy
    10 years ago

    Leave her ass.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Maybe you're just taking everything she says too seriously. Like... sometimes when I'm out I'll tell my bf I'll call him back in a few minutes but instead call him in an hour our I'll tell him what i expect to do and when plans change and i tell him he calls me a liar. If its like that for you, its insecurity and you'll have it no matter who you're with. I'm a good woman and i hate being called a liar because i can't predict the future and I'm spontaneous.

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  • flowergirl87
    10 years ago

    TALK TO HER. Seriously. YOU need to be honest about this with her. If you can resolve it and your relationship is better for it, great. If your r'ship can't survive it, don't get married. : / Good luck!

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