Is it normal i can't tell my boyfriend i never orgasm

So, I have been dating this guy for 2 years. We're in love and engaged to be engaged. When we first started having sex, he asked me after one time if I had an orgasm and I told him yes when really I hadn't. Ever since then I have faked it everytime because I think he expects it. is it normal to just let this keep going and not tell him? I don't want to hurt his feelings.

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Based on 11 votes (7 yes)
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  • georgienne

    You know what, this me.
    Its been three years from me, and I've never come close to orgasming. He tries so hard for me, i know he does, often he spends the whole time trying to please me the he cant come (resulting in me faking to relieve him). I wish I'd told him earlier... telling him now would not only piss him off (and himself, and a little at me for not thinking I could tell him) but make him feel like hit for never managing to help me finish..
    Thanks for writing about this, I'm going to tell him next time. Hope things go well for you.

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    • Thank you so much! Regardless of all the stupid story comments, I knew I couldn't be the only one. I really don't know what to do. I kept telling myself I'll tell him tomorrow and now it's 2 years later.

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  • aduusw

    What a stupid story, just be honest with him

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  • OddBallBrat

    im just like u. but i can get to a point where im just happy to stop and ride the hormones. i havent told my bf but weve been together for along time. hes great and when we snuggle after he asks if i had and i say "im satisfied" and thats good enough for him.

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  • disthing

    It's normal, but a little dumb.

    If you lie to a guy and say you've cum, he'll think that's all he has to do to make you cum. If you are honest with him maybe he can work something out that will actually make you climax. Can you orgasm from intercourse or only clitoral stimulation? Is it him specifically, or has nobody managed to make you orgasm?

    Because you've lied already for an extended period of time because you're a silly person, you'll have to work around it. If you know what will make you cum, tell him that if he does it it will make you orgasm much harder than you've done before. That way you're not admitting to the lie, but you could get the satisfaction you want, and he'll hopefully be happy to oblige.

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    • No one has managed to get me to orgasm through intercourse.

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  • ygrowup

    It normal, but now it is time for the two of you to work together and fix this! Now!

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  • randomjelly

    Engaged to be engaged? So you're just dating? ... ... ....

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    • lc1988

      "So i've been dating this guy for 2 years"

      Dating obviously.

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