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So theres this girl that I'm pretty sure I'm madly in love with. I haven't been able to stop thinking about her for the past 5 years. Just last night I listened to a song that I promised would be the song that was for us if we got torgether and I'm afraid to tel my current girlfriend this cause I don't wanna hurt her...
It sucks. .. but speaking from experience the things you remember are also the things you couldn't have.
I think it is. I'm in the same boat. It's the one that got away. The one face you'll never forget.
The clue is in your own statement about "trying to forget." In trying to forget something specific, you have to remind yourself what it is so you end up remembering rather than forgetting.
Something most of us learn (apart from serial killers) is that fantasy is typically better than reality. More importantly, fantasies are yours alone, free of social pressures and a great way to self-help. Rather than trying to forget her,, EMBRACE whatever scenarios you're imagining while your g/f's asleep/out/wherever. Chances are, you'll replay the same scenarios to some conclusion you can't get beyond and will soon tire of them or at least get them into a more comfortable perspective. A bit of proactive obsessing NOW will save you months or years of trying (and failing) to forget. It might seem disloyal to your g/f in the short term, but you're doing it for long term good.
You have to move on perhaps this girl has a new boyfriend or is married and you would be ending that relationship just to make yourself happy .Just move on and cherish the love you have now.Good luck
It sucks, but it's normal. With the one that got away, you'll always wonder. Hell, I'm married, and sometimes I still think about the guy that I couldn't have, but I have learned to live with it and try not to let it affect my relationship. I try to focus on enjoying the life I have today. It helps to avoid reminders of the other person (songs, places you used to go together, etc. Anything that dredges up those memories can put you into a blue funk for days). Also, if you feel the need to talk to someone, tell a friend or come here to IIN. Whatever you do, do not tell your girlfriend. It would only hurt her. Some things are best kept to ourselves.
I would say, give more thoughts about your current GF than your EX, because mate, yesterday is history, tomorrow is mystery, but today is a gift that is why it is called present.. Don't lose faith in present or you will demolish your future and that too because of a past which is already gone............ Think about it..
It is normal but it's not fair to hide that you're madly in love with another girl to your girlfriend, she deserves to have someone madly in love with her, set her free.
Yes that happened to me too but then she got married and then i got married.
I don't like her husband and not because i used to like her but because he is a prick.
Uhhh...I think you're just really obsessed. Why do I get this feeling you've barely ever talked to her in person? Don't be pathetic.
I talked to her a lot actually. I used to talk to her at school and I'd call her on the weekends, and I'm not obsessing over her, I have tried so so hard to get over her and forget her but I can't. The more I try to forget about her the more I end up thinking about her.
Yes, it's normal. My guy didn't get away; we had a brief relationship last year. I think I miss it because I didn't actually want it to end, but eh. That's life. >_<