Is it normal i can't stop thinking about this girl?

!Warning!: It's a pretty long story and not utterly necessary to read it to the end. You may just skip it and vote it's only to give you a better impression. I do recommend to read it first if you intend to comment.

Recently I had a dream in which I was on a ship with some friends of mine, I can't remind exactly what purpose that journey had.

Anyway, I met a girl there who recently got out of a mental hospital (If only I could remember why she was in there :D) and she was pretty shy and not well-liked by the people there, rather the opposite.

However, after a while I started to talk to her (even though my friends told me rather not to; I don't know why)... After a while I became emotionally attached to her, she was also pretty beautiful, at least to me. I didn't really care about what people might think about seeing us together and I didn't bother about what might be "wrong" with her either so I didn't ask her out about the reason for her stay in that mental hospital.

The next day my friends and I got off the ship and made a party that afternoon. I was so eager to get back and talk to that girl again because by now I had fallen in love with her.
It had gotten late and when we came back she was already asleep so I lay down took a breath near her hair and gave her a gentle kiss on her neck... then I woke up :(

Now the real question: I want to know if it's normal to still think about this girl and can't stop myself from thinking about her...

Is it normal?

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83% Normal
Based on 69 votes (57 yes)
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  • KeddersPrincess

    I know you
    I walked with you once upon a dream.
    I know you
    The gleam in your eyes is so familiar a gleam
    Yes, I know it's true
    that visions are seldom all they seem
    But if I know you, I know what you'll do
    You'll love me at once
    the way you did once upon a dream

    -"Sleeping Beauty"

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  • ScooterNyne

    Love dreams have cursed my sleep for ages and I have had enough of them to pick up on "patterns" that, I find, suggest certain things. I'm not saying I am the best candidate for telling you what's normal or how to interpret this dream but I'll give you my thoughts.

    First of all, when it comes to love dreams, you can pretty much guarantee it's about someone you have already met. You may not realize it at first(I know I didn't several times), but you eventually will figure who it is in real life that is playing the character in your dream.

    Also you should establish whether it is love or infatuation(a.k.a crush). In MY experience, when I can't recognize the girl in the dream and she doesn't play a big part in the dream(she's being shy and little to no interaction is being made), then it's a girl that I have not gotten familiar with yet or hung out with or talked much with in real life. And I would say that is likely the case in a lot of dreams like that. You don't have enough "data" on the person for you to make them up in your dream. Where as if you knew someone really well they would just show up as themselves in your dream...

    and so in the first case, a girl whom you cannot recognize and has little interaction in the dream, I would say it leans towards a crush. You don't know this person well enough to call it love but you are definitely affectionate and interested. And a girl who of course is present in the dream as themselves might suggest something a little or a lot deeper than a crush.

    One last thing to look out for is repeat dreams. You may have another dream soon that is similar to this one or even exactly the same. Once again in MY experience, this may mean that you actually come across this person a lot in real life but never make contact. Like a friend of a friend kind of distance. Maybe just seeing this person though triggers dreams or at least some deep thought.

    I find it difficult to really "help" people decipher dreams other than tell them about my own experiences and the patterns that I have noticed. In my opinion, only the dreamer can decipher the dream. But sometimes people dream alike and that exchange of experience basically helps you realize what you already knew but just couldn't pinpoint.

    As I always say, your brain knows more than you do.

    Anyway I hope I helped in some way or another. Happy dreaming my friend.

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    • Thank you, though it's pretty late and I'm kinda tired this was pretty interesting to read.

      Your analysis pretty much points out my relation towards that girl, however, since I'm dreaming pretty rarely or don't remember my dreams usually I put a lot more thought into this one because it seemed pretty clear to me^^

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  • flyingfromtheearth

    okay this may sound weird but every night and in my daydreams i dream about a guy i know every detail on his face and his name.I have noticed that with my dreams they are usually long and detailed like a story in a book.Anyways,me and the guy in my dreams are boyfriend and girlfriend and i incorperate him in my everyday life like what we would do if he was real , but my dreams usually only last a week or so but this has been going on for about 2 months.And i feel like i can tell him anything and i dreamt that he dreams about me and i dream about him even though we have are own lifes.In my dreams,it's like were sharing/living in the same dream each night/day.Sometimes i think about what he would be doing right now and stuff.If this is crazy then please tell me because i think my dreams are like really good stories maybe it's because i want to be an author? If this thing sort of happens to you please reply.
    I've also had dreams like the one i just told you but with a group of friends and i'm still dreaming about right now and last night i incorperated both dreams so my friends know about him......and everynight i dream about all of them meeting me in real life and stuff.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    I had a friend that used to slap my face every time i thought of her and it helped a treat.

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  • Hooviva

    No, it's not normal to have any thought that never gets out of the mind, especially if it's there for years. That dream is a rude awakening to take an aspirin for such a headache in the morning, no wonder you have a thought obsession! On the other hand, it would be normal to meditate with some burning incense to think about something else!!

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    • Oh well actually I don't think too much about that dream anymore^^

      It's just been about 3+ days or so I kept wondering about it...

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  • ants91shearer

    i had a dream one, that i was in the program barney, you know the one with the big purple dinosaur , well any ways me n barney were best friends n he introduced me to his other dinosaur friend her name was baby pop, n the moment we laid eyes on each other we knew that it was love at first sight . the next day me n baby pop had little dino babys, n then barney got jalouse n got his other friend 2pac to shoot me, n then i woke up, n from that day on i could never stop thinking of my love baby pop. i this normal

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  • 69

    so you dreamt of a girl who is not a real girl, you fell in love with her, she is similar to a real girl you know and now you're thinking of and in love with her? now real question: is she mental or not?

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    • Well I don't exactly remember how the girl in my dream looked like so I can only say that she's kinda similar to a real girl and maybe I'm just imagining that, I'm not entirely sure.

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      • KyleTheCritic

        You have many grammatical errors.

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        • I could care less because I'm not a native speaker...

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          • jeremybrown50k

            Oh my a dream girl? I am sooooooooooooooooooooooo touched! Get a real girl man!!!!

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            • Kill yourself!

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  • Mark92

    Yes its normal.I cant stop thinking about my ex, and I always see her in my dreams.

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    • loverofgirls33

      Then you should go be with her!!

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  • KyleTheCritic

    Every person you see in your dreams you have seen somewhere in your life. You can't make people up even in your dreams.

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    • ze_rhino

      Indeed you can't just create random people who you have never been seen before.I have never had a dream without people i have met or good friends i see everyday

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    • "You can't make people up" - That is about the dumbest I've ever heard...

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      • KyleTheCritic

        It's just what I've read.

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        • Lame excuse... If you didn't believe what's written in that article, you won't use it in an argument on here!

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    • GuessWho

      I call bullshit!

      The people that were in my dreams last night, I've never seen before.

      They must have been entirely original characters developed by my subconscious specifically for that dream.

      Maybe those who see only people they've seen before, in their dreams, are those who lack creativity.

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      • KyleTheCritic

        I was just saying what I read. I didn't believe it either, but the article said sometimes its people you have seen in a crowd. You don't have to know them.

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        • Well articles aren't always right :D

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          • KyleTheCritic

            http://www.boredpanda.com/15-interesting-facts-about-dreams-dreaming/

            Go to number four.

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  • ucipher8

    If you really like this girl this is absolutely normal. Though i've been there before and eventually you get over it and or find someone else to obsess over.

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  • EdgeFencer

    Wait so is this a girl from a dream you had or is she real but ended up in your dream? Either way it is pretty normal to not be able to stop thinking about a girl you fell in love with :P.

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    • Well she is actually pretty similar to a girl I know in real life.

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      • Mark92

        Propose to her now, cause you might not realize but you have feelings for her. People in our dreams are people whom, we have seen atleast once in our life playing different characters (watched a program regarding this on Nat Geo), and dreams shows us not what we want consciously, but our deepest desires!

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        • Ipooprainbows

          Not all dreams though! some don't make sense actually most don't and not all dreams are desires, how would u explain a dream that was a nightmare? I doubt that the dreamer would wish to have that dream fulfilled O.o

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          • Mark92

            Well they didnt discuss nightmares. But what I think is that dreams shows us both our deepest desires and worst fears. We live too busy of life to be aware of what our deepest desire is. But its known to our heart!

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            • I don't think so... How do you explain fucking weird dreams then?

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            • Ipooprainbows

              hmm that is true to a certain extent, I have had wacked dreams eg- lawnmowing with a lion in the middle of the night, like that's fuckd how would u explain that lol

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        • GuessWho

          I call bullshit!

          The people that were in my dreams last night, I've never seen before.

          They must have been entirely original characters developed by my subconscious specifically for that dream.

          Maybe those who see only people they've seen before, in their dreams, are those who lack creativity.

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          • Mark92

            Sorry to disagree with you, school going kid. But unlike you people at Nat Geo are experts. It is not possible for anyone to remember every person they have seen in life, but their images are stored in the brain like data in a hard disk. Sometimes images may be mixed to give an idea of an alternate person. And no one has control over their dreams, to imagine whatever they want and your sources, I am guessing cartoons are wrong. Try imagining a color you have never seen before. Next time come up with more informative and recognized theories. By the way you said you are called bullshit? The name suits you, :)!

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            • Coming up with a color you have never seen/a new color is impossible, yet imagining a new person is indeed possible so why shouldn't it be possible in a dream?!

              Anyway, ever heard of "lucid dreaming"? It is possible to control your dreams.

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            • GuessWho

              Firstly, learn to read!

              I wrote "I call bullshit," not "I'm called bullshit."
              This obviously means I'm calling bullshit on you.

              Now, I'll point out some more incoherent crap from your comment.

              Bullshit #1:
              "No one has control over their dreams"
              In a dream, you can do whatever the fuck you want - even if it would be impossible in the real world.
              Assuming that one resigns control over the dream to the subconscious, it is still part of your brain, which is part of your body, meaning that you ultimately ARE controlling your dreams at all times - not someone else.

              Bullshit #2:
              Your belief that there are no original characters in dreams suggests that the brain is not capable of creating, only blending things together, meaning that you believe no artist has ever made original art, no inventor has ever designed something new, and no idea you come up with is ever truly your own. - Which would also mean that copyrights and patents shouldn't exist.

              If you deny the above, then it means you believe that the brain is capable of originality while one is awake and not while asleep. This is completely illogical as it suggests that the brain shuts off completely when you sleep. If that were the case, it would stop controlling bodily functions like breathing and you would simply die.

              If you were to believe that creativity comes from conscious brain activity only, then you would also have to note that one must be conscious at some level in order to remember the dream. It would also mean that there is no such thing as spontaneous ideas and everything anyone ever made or came up with is the product of much thought and nothing ever inspired them.

              Also note the brain's capacity for automation - tasks that are performed regularly can be done subconsciously.
              Some people are more capable than others with this.
              For example: I can safely drive a car and navigate to my destination while giving zero conscious thought to what I'm doing.
              Why would this not be applied to the creative process as well?

              For anything you say to be true, it would mean that I'm some kind of super genius since I come up with many original ideas and original characters both while awake and while dreaming.

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