Is it normal i can't stop thinking about my childhood crush?

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I am currently 24 years old, and I have a girlfriend of 4 years.

I also have a childhood crush, of maybe about 15 years, and I found out 1 year ago (through a friend) that she has actually been in love with me the entire time. A few months ago, she moved a few hours away and is now in a relationship too. Did I miss my chance?

What do I do? I obviously love my girlfriend, but the "what if?" feeling in the back of my mind has been nagging me for years, and has never, ever gone away.

Let me know your thoughts, it's something that's been guiltily plaguing my mind for years, no matter how much I suppress it. Any words of wisdom would be much appreciated here.

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  • megadriver
    4 years ago

    Nah, forget about it... What's done is done.

    Sure, there's always the "what if" question, but beating yourself over it won't help. You can't turn back time, so being stuck in a faux reality you build in your mind is just wrong. Focus on now, cause time does fly by. And before you know it, years will pass by and you definitely don't wanna be stuck in the past.

    I can kinda relate...

    For some time I kinda regretted rejecting a girl, back when I was in 5th grade. I thought she looked like a boy. She was skinny and had a bowl cut haircut. She always joined in in all the boyish things and shenanigans. I felt no attraction at all. Times moved on, I changed schools, years passed.
    And in 12th grade I randomly met her in the street and we sat down for coffee... Even tho I had a girlfriend, my heart pounded as fast as it could and all I could think is how to get her in bed...

    She had turned into an absolute babe. She was still skinny and still had a shorter haircut, but she was dynamite! Part of me wanted to ditch my current girlfriend and get that girl in bed, but I didn't. When I'm with a woman, I commit fully for as long as possible. Besides, I already messed up once...

    I forgot about that girl and went through several girlfriends, before finally reaching the 2 year mark with my current girlfriend. And let me tell 'ya, I don't want to change a single thing.

    My parents did their best to raise a gentleman, not a douchebag.

    Best advice I can give you is to ignore those feelings and focus more on stuff you like doing. Hobbies, movies, music, videogames, whatever...

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  • LKearsley
    4 years ago

    Do what you feel is best for you. However, you must take time and think about it because you are both already in relationships.

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