Is it normal, i can't seem to forgive my mom & all family?

My family had a FAMILY REUION this summer. I come from big family, and yet no one bother to call me and invited me to the family reuion. Plus, they also took family pictures with out me. When, I asked, that I'm the darkest in the family, how could they not see that? Asked, why did I have to find out on Facebook? I saw bunch of my family pictures, having good time. It was like, someone just stab me. What's even worse, that my mom had just called me, week before the reuion, and yet she didnh't say a word to me. When, I called my mom, asked her what's going on and what's with family reuion gathering? Why, was I not been told? All, she said, that she wasn't in charge. When, I said, it shouldn't matter, whoes was in charge, were all one big family,and yet not a one person called. Asked why didn't she tell me during our phone call, week before? She and everyone else made me feel, like I didn't even exist anymore. This isn't the first time, they've done this, and I'm pretty sure, it won't be the last. I know, it's been two months, and I should grow up and forgive them. People tell me, life is too short just forgive them and move on. I try to take there advices many times and swalled it, but when it's been happening way too many time, it's kind of hard not to stay mad. Once, I found out who was in charge of the party, I sent her message, saying; if you didn't want me to find out, than you shouldn't advertise it on facebook, for national world to see. For a teacher, not so brite,to know what WWW stands for. So, is it normal, that it still hurts me and just can't let ago. Any advice?

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Based on 40 votes (34 yes)
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  • _justwondering_

    Sucks and no it's not normal to you but maybe there was, a, good, reason, they, left, you, out. Years ago you'd never have known, but now facebook has spoiled, the, secret,.,,,.

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  • randomjelly

    It was pretty rude of them but here is my problem with all of this...you said you were the only one that didn't receive an invite and that this wasn't the first time this had occurred. There comes a point in time where we have to stop and reflect back on ourselves. It's much easier to point fingers and blame everyone else but perhaps you should stop and think that it might be YOUR behavior that is the actual problem. Perhaps you are not enjoyable to be around or maybe you are too sensitive or bring a negative vibe. Just a thought.

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  • Leela

    Answer to the very first comments of this site. if you don't understand,or feel for them, then just leave the site. Save the space for others, who really needs advice. There is a reasons to have this site. And, I'm glad, that it is. There are people who just want advice, or to read what others are saying, feeling, and to know, if it is normal, to tell themself, that they are not alone. Maybe,they're people who are scared, hurt, abused, lonley,sad,depressed,or it's the only way to communicate, or ask for advice. They just want advice and maybe just a friend, to talk to.

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  • americanhoney

    I'm just, not sure, what to say anymore, to the people, on this, website, who don't understand proper, punctuation.

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    • calthropstu

      I'm not sure what to say anymore to people that insist punctuation and grammar are important on the internet.

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  • gowila

    Person above my comment, shut the fuck up.

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  • calthropstu

    too little info. It almost sounds as if you know why you weren't invited. I know why I'm never invited and I'm perfectly cool with it. Family isn't all people crack it up to be.

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  • E123:]

    I understand you man.
    I know..

    First. Become successful have a lot of money and great job

    Second. Get Merried and don't invite your family but only friends.

    Then. Have kids and now tell your family about your life. TuT

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  • BabyBeluga

    Wow, that must have really sucked. :(
    I would forgive them in the long run but they deserve to know how upset you are for a while, otherwise they won't even think what they did was wrong.

    I'm sure they won't forget you again if they see how much it hurt you, and they will see the error of their ways.

    I wish you luck, as for now, to deal with the pain I suggest hanging out with friends and doing some hobbies you enjoy, take your mind off it... you did nothing wrong and they deserve to be the ones thinking back on it.

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  • anya07

    Its quiet normal.i have been in the same situiation and its very easy to say forgive and move on.It has already been a year this their attitude hurt me and I cant still forgive them.I thought i was bad person cause i cant forgive my own family unless we talked with my boyfriend and here is what he said <Think who is bad you or they?>So think you havent done anything wrong.Do what I did.I love all of them very much but now i am not so close th them as i used to be.I have friends,bf,I dont feel myself alone and I am not so sensitive to think about it all the time.I visit them maybe once a month,talk to them if they need my help I help but i cant forget its always in my heart

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  • sperminator

    Affirmative, dis is normal!

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