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I work hard, work out, have money a nice house everything you'd think a girl would want but I still can't meet a nice girl! I've dated a few this year who have been a total waste of time. I watch other people at dinner and want what they have. Any other guys had this problem? Where have all the nice girls gone?
Maybe you aren't looking well enough.
Do you flaunt your body and wealth around? I'm assuming you have wealth as you mentioned money. If so then maybe pull back from letting that known so the more shallow people don't come knocking.
Anyway, I'm sure there are nice girls around you that you've just overlooked, man.
Women use men for their money and play with their feelings and when they are done soaking them for what they wanted , they kick them to the curb.
Women will tell men anything he wants to hear , she will even say she loves him , even though it's a bold face lie , in order to sponge , mooch , free load , pander , gold dig off of him.
Women exchange giving them sex for money , but once the money stops , so does the sex and so does the phony relationship.
When men stop feeding them money , the women kick them out because they dont need them anymore.
Most women can't survive or function without a man feeding them money.
Women think men are their ATM's.
All the nice girls are taken.
The only ones left for the taking are gold diggers.
Nice girls don't exist, but there are some who pretend to be nice to get what they want.
There are nice girls out there. I had the best girl ever. Just getting back into dating again now. Takes some getting used to.
I agree, although there are some who are very hard to find, i've notice that the more liberal the place the less "nice" these women tend to be, Feminism is the biggest fault of the modern women.
So you are looking to "Loose" everything you worked for...
I know, it won't happen to you because you will find a 'nice' girl and settle down into the American dream.
Well if you must persist into such a course at the very least do not choose an American female. Take your time, do your own research about the virtues of foreign women...note not all are virtuous. But at least you can step back and compare the differences in 'actions' by women of different cultures and pick your poison with better results.
With that said I only have experience with American, Japanese, Korean, Irish and Polish women. American being only Black and White women. I know men who have Philippine wives and Chinese wives. Yes they are all completely different and 'do' share commonalities with other women of the same culture. From all those listed I'd put American women at the bottom of the list.
Yes I agree. The last time American women were worth being with was probably back in the 1950's well before I was born.
With foreign women the odds of finding a good one are way better than home grown.
Most of my relationships have been with foreign women (Hungarian, French, Cuban, Russian, Greek). The ones that were NOT foreign were the most problematic.
How was your experience with Polish women? I find them intriguing.
One other note.
The good thing about modern times and the Internet is word spreads fast and people can support or prove most any claim right/wrong in no time.
I've read on many forums that men are catching on about American women and giving them the 'pass' for LTR/Marriage etc. These days good women, like those of the 50's etc who hold on to real values, are feminine and are okay with it, yet still educated, beautiful and loving deserve the world. My wife takes care of me 100% she's old school in her ways, I don't take advantage of her but instead spoil her... Its good to see more men choosing quality women and quality women getting the men they deserve.
"These days good women, like those of the 50's etc who hold on to real values, are feminine and are okay with it, yet still educated, beautiful and loving deserve the world.
My wife takes care of me 100% she's old school in her ways, I don't take advantage of her but instead spoil her... Its good to see more men choosing quality women and quality women getting the men they deserve. "
EXACTLY! Well said.
The good thing is men have finally started to see the light that the "American dream" is really just a dream and not reality. Sadly plenty of men paid dearly for their beliefs, thankfully I'm not one of them. I do my best to give any men I can solid advice as to what marriage really is today. You end up getting labeled as "bitter", but it's the reality of what society is. Too many guys (who have a lot to lose) have no idea what they're getting themselves into today.
OP, focus on your own enjoyment of your own life. Don't let anything or anyone stand in the way of that. Life is just too short for anything else. If you are hinging your happiness on the "white picket fence, kids, and the perfect family" you better chose very carefully because if it's the wrong one, you will not just get to "walk away".
Glad to know people like you are helping to spread the word!!
I agree people label me as bitter or jaded etc. Fact is people like us are just telling the bitter truth.
Like you, I tell every man that will listen and even those who won't about what awaits them if they pursue the "American Dream" its a trick and a Nightmare for any many that gets suckered into it...
Keep up the good work!!
It's a sad sign of the times that people label us as "bitter" or "jaded". All we're doing is giving realistic real world advice. Time is on men's side. Not women. There's going to be plenty of "liberated" yet childless, miserable, lonely women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s in the coming years. They'll stick to their guns as to the cause being "men can't handle me" or some other stupid irrational reasoning.
It's not that men couldn't "handle" you sweetie, we couldn't give you the nonsense of "equality" and still be the man in the relationship.
Sorry about that. Found me a "dumb" woman who miraculously understands that I make the important decisions.
Hi, yes Polish women are very intriguing. They are loyal, and keep the old traditions of women in the home while at the same time hold a job outside the home. This is not to say they should be taken advantage of or made to work and take care of everything in the home 100%. But they willingly take the responsibility with pride of taking care of 'their' family. The have a healthy sexual appetite, can cook, are good humored, and generally pleasant. Only thing is, which is just a fact is, they don't age well imo. At 45-50 they their genes take over and they show their age more than some others. But to a man in love with their wife, she will always be beautiful....so its really not a big deal. Russian and Ukrainian women are the same way.
IMO Ukrainian women [having worked with a few] seem more willing to adopt the American-Western attitude..which is not a good thing imo.
Thanks for your reply.
Sounds like Polish women are similar to Russian women or any Eastern bloc women for that matter. My experience with Russian and Hungarian women was pretty much as you describe.
I think the majority of western women have been poisoned by the worst aspects of western cultural values and attitudes as well as some of the worst aspects of feminism.
What I found with Russian / Eastern bloc women is they recognize that men and women are different and they embrace that difference. They are not afraid to express their femininity.
They embrace their sexuality in an enthusiastic and uninhibited way (the best sex I have ever had was with a Russian woman and a Hungarian woman - though not at the same time ;-)
With western women it seems there's often an undercurrent of competitiveness and an avoidance of their natural femininity. It's almost like they have become men in women's bodies.
Just adding my agreement about the Russian women, with a warning - the one I had was unstable and as mad as a hatter. Not saying all are, but be careful with how much "crazy" doesn't actually translate over emails and messages.
This generation of "Woman" are screwed and i have no right to say that seeing that i'm only 18 but seriously they are..
Well...My boyfriend died in 2014 and I have also struggled to find a new relationship. One obstacle has been comparing a potential partner to the one I lost. But you can't do that because everyone is different, and it's not fair to either party. Also have you considered that you're not quite ready? Personally, there have been times I thought I was but when it came down to it, I just really wasn't.
The most important thing you (and I, for that matter) need to remember is that there is no rush. You will find that person exactly when you're supposed to.
By the way, a random bit of totally unsolicited advice: I would avoid online dating apps/websites because *usually* the kinds of people on them are toxic as hell. Stupid, superficial girls and guys both only looking for hook ups.
Couple of short points:
1) Learn to laugh. Not just laugh, but see humour in life. Women, ALL women, like guys that make them laugh.
2) Watch a movie called "Shallow Hal". I'm not saying go around looking for "Elephants and Giraffes", but more often than not the attractive women are the ugliest on the inside, and the "more plain" women have the greatest personalities.
3) First date - never mention money, property, etc. and modify your answers to her questions accordingly - so "I own a successful IT company that has a turnover of 10 million a year" becomes "I manage a little IT place". If you can, borrow someone's "decent mid level car" for the evening, don't rock up in your Maserati! Describe your massive multilevel mansion on 5 acres as "a house". Not only does it (eventually) make you look like less of a braggart, but the gold-diggers will be put off.
Hope that helps.
"I work hard, work out, have money a nice house everything you'd think a girl would want but I still can't meet a nice girl!"
Do you expect a nice girl to just want your outer shell for who you are? your money? your nice house? If not, the biggest question of all do you got a nice heart? Can you look past the showoff and recognize a beautiful person? If yes, then let your wisdom do the searching not your belongings.
nice girls dont really care what you have they care who you are.. maybe having the mentality u seem to have isnt attracting women because its negative. youll find someone.. as a woman if you can make me laugh youve got my attention. you dont want a girl whos only dating u for whag u can provide
"as a woman if you can make me laugh youve got my attention"
What? You want a clown?
Thanks for your reply. You are right I have been negative. I can barely laugh myself let alone make a nice girl laugh. My beautiful girlfriend died in a car accident July 2014. I am still not ready to be part of a relationship. I thought I have enough to offer a nice girl and could go from there but I'm simply not ready.
get rid of your limitations and open your spectrum to all ethnicities, social classes and ages, the more open you are the less hard of a time you will have narrowing down the right match.