Is it normal i can't let go of him?

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I've been best friends with my guy friend for four years now and we've been through a lot of ups and down since he battles with depression. He's been dating a friend of mine since we've known each other so I never really got a chance to express my feelings towards him in a more meaningful way because I could never do that to my other friend and I see how much my guy friend loves her. But you can't deny your feelings forever (and believe me I tried.

Sadly now they have broken up for good this time and don't speak anymore. My guy friend cut contact with everybody and now no one knows where he is. I was always the one to bring him out of his depression and this time I've been cut out too. I've been excluded before but he always comes back.

But recently we found out he may be suffering from BPD (borderline Personality Disorder) but we cant be forsure because he refuses to see a psychologist. I can't help but worry about him.

Everyone keeps saying I'm being manipulated and that I need to let hiim go because of this disorder, but I cant seem to do it no matter how hard I try.

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    I think from the way you described your story that you are good for him and should continue to be a great friend because it sounds like he really needs someone like you. Maybe someday he will see that you and him could be more than just friends too. Of course, a few hints might help too.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    People need to stop self-diagnosing themselves or others with psychological disorders.

    Maybe he needs to let go of you (but you're so wrapped up in how you feel about it, that his needs have not occurred to you yet). I know you mean well and all, but sometimes people just need some space.

    I think you need to stop obsessing over him.

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    • kismetie
      12 years ago

      I didn't self diagnose him, a licensed psychologist did and I'm not obsessing over him.

      I don't know if me saying I had feelings for him caused you to think I'm obsessing over him, but I'm not and as a friend I'm just worried about his well being.

      And personally I'm just going to ignore what you said about being so wrapped up in my own feelings that his needs haven't occurred to me yet, because that isn't the case at all and I wouldn't expect you to understand from the little I typed above.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        Are so.

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        • BlueAlice
          1 year ago

          How old were you the first time you chose to have BPD, [Old Memory]?

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        • kismetie
          12 years ago

          Are so? Really? -.- What are you five?

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