Is it normal i can't have a girlfriend i am lesbian ..?

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I want your help ...
i want to have a girlfriend if i know a girl is lesbian and i like her i will not wait a sec ..
BUT i don't know any lesbian in my life
Every one think i am straight .. i want to have a girlfriend but closet girlfriend i don't want people know that i am lesbian people will look at me like i am Strange phenomenon > < !
is it possible there is no lesbian in my country and i am the only one i sometimes feel like that!!
i don't care about the statistical percentage i want u to talk with me i really really need to talk about this i need a solution ...
ps : i am beautiful girl and i am the most of guys' girls type but about girls .. ! if every girl i knew and i had been into her have a boyfriend so how can i try to get closer !! am i the only lesbian in this country! wt could i do ??

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lestara07

11 years ago

I'm a girl to and its normal. I'm straight I think but I still want to kiss a girl but I dnt anybody I did have a best friend who I could of kissed but we fell out, shall I get back together so I can kiss her?

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- ukp
  
  11 years ago
  
  Sure, why not?
  
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Papers

11 years ago

It is totally normal. You can't change your feelings. It is happening to you and if you are lesbian then be proud of it. You love women, who should blame ya?

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GoraIntoDesiGals

11 years ago

Maybe leave Syria? It's at war now anyway and Al Qaeda may take over from Al Assad. Not a good outcome for a christian lesbian if you ask me...

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BlueAlice

11 years ago

I don't believe you're the only lesbian in the country, but I'm really sorry that you're in such a bad situation.I reckon that any Syrians there could be would also be in hiding.

OKCupid.com is a great site for meeting people, if you can access that from Syria

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- 1000yrVampireKing
  
  11 years ago
  
  Does that site actually work?
  
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  - kinda
    
    11 years ago
    
    yes this site works ... and thank u BlueAlice :3 <3 even if i didn't find any in my country :(( mmmm :P! , so yes DannyElf but it is abt how known and common is that site where u live ..
    
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    - 1000yrVampireKing
      
      11 years ago
      
      What?
      
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      - kinda
        
        11 years ago
        
        hahahahaa lol where do u live ?
        Danny is common name in syria .. u r american or wt ??
        
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barbara.ella1999

11 years ago

I am bisexual we can talk if you want... barbara.ella1999 at live.it

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- 1000yrVampireKing
  
  11 years ago
  
  You are 12?
  
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- 11yearoldlesbain
  
  11 years ago
  
  Im lesbain how ol are you
  
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ExcessiveBDSM

11 years ago

You aren't the only lesbian. Every one must be in the closet. Homophobic country?

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- 1000yrVampireKing
  
  11 years ago
  
  Not necessarily homophobic it might just be that the gays do not talk about it. Even if some non homophobic areas some people will still not like to chat about sexuality.
  
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- kinda
  
  11 years ago
  
  yes homophobic country ... wt to do ?
  do you have any advice ?
  
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kinda

11 years ago

thank u guys really ! i don't have this problem now ...
ur comments helps really <3 <3 <3
i found a groups of lesbians and it ends up 4 me choosing a girl.... i like her and she likes me ....
i think lesbians likes me and i have million options loool ^.^ and i like this girl that's it .. thank u indeed

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imawierdo

11 years ago

so do you have crush on anyone(a girl) at all...

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- kinda
  
  11 years ago
  
  i had crush twice in my life and i let it goes or i make it goes .. i still feel in love till now but i think it is not hard now, i can deal with it as friendship ...
  I dated guys i didn't love one, it was not bad dating guys but it wasn't good i think it was all friendship not love at all (i was feeling single when i dated guys)
  i felt attractions to many girls in my life but those two drive me crazy and i felt i can't stop thinking about them... (i met them in different time in my life i wasn't in love with two girl at the same time )
  now i don't have a crush to any girl but i feel attraction to some girls but not that strong feeling but i can say it is pure feeling...
  i think now it's clear that i have lovely feeling to girls and now(recently) i can say i am lesbian ,i haven't had any thing with a girl i was forcing myself to not love females, now i feel i don't want to be single at all ,i want to be in love and i feel not good being single anymore if u know that feeling
  
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  - imawierdo
    
    11 years ago
    
    You sound like a lovely person so ur not unlikely to be loved. Im sure you will find ur special her someday. Dont give up hopes. If I may suggest, next time if you ever like a girl, try dropping her little hints and search for any response. maybe this next special person might feel the same way and respond .
    
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    - kinda
      
      11 years ago
      
      Thank you for your support ^ ^ u make me feel optimistic
      
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      - imawierdo
        
        11 years ago
        
        np:)
        
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iluvcum52

11 years ago

If you can afford it, the next time you go on holiday cum to USA and see what sexual freedom is like. When I grew up I was gay and it wasn't nearly as accepted as it is now but there were many lesbians, gay men, and a lot of bisexuals partying together either at swinger clubs or at private homes and that was in the 70's. If you go to a swinger party most women will be bisexual and a lot would rather just have sex with women.
Now in most big cities there are areas that are mostly gay, and I have seen women kissing women and men kissing men on the streets in sidewalk cafe's. And in places like New York city there is the Gay Pride Parade every year and also San Fransisco, and I have always hooked up with gay people and gone to a hotel room and had great kinky gay sex after the parade or to a gay bar with a party room in the back and I have some lesbian friends that do the same thing. In fact one of them met this a wonderful woman and she just happened to be from the same place as her and they have been together for 19 years. but every year they drive 10 hours to go to the Gay Pride Parade in New York, City.

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poopey-eyeball

11 years ago

Have you tried Craigslist? Put an ad up for discrete fun. I am a bi-sexual guy and I dont want anyone to know that I like to have fun with guys too. I put an ad on Craigslist and you wouldnt belive the responses I get. Also (i dont condone it) if you try to find a married woman she will keep it discrete. And she will definately be fun! Good luck

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- kinda
  
  11 years ago
  
  i want love not only sex ,it is not about fun.. emotional attraction is the reason that i am lesbian... and this "ad" sounds not good at all.. it feel like i am a lesbian slut...
  thank u any way.it seems impossible, i can't have a girlfriend without taking big risks and any way i don't care .. but in this society .... ahhh!
  All i mean is that I do not want a girl if i don't love her personality...i don't know if u understand me, i am talking about love not sex
  
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  - poopey-eyeball
    
    11 years ago
    
    How can you have sex without love? You didnt answer!! Put an ad up on Craigslist you might find love in lust...That dont make you a slut...It makes you HUMAN!!!!!! quit being a pussy and go for it!!
    
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shade_ilmaendu

11 years ago

What country do you live in? :/ I'm lucky enough to be in the U.S. where that kind of thing is generally accepted.. even then I know a lot of people afraid to come out or who are at odds with their families now... I can't imagine what it would be like in some of the more fundamentalist places of the world..

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- kinda
  
  11 years ago
  
  i live in Syria , bad luck!
  this thing here is not accepted and not even expected...
  
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  - Iiin
    
    11 years ago
    
    This probably means ur a muslim , and its kinda not acceptable there to be lez , I have never heard about our met any syrian lez girls , ive been in lebanon , and I know how this thing goes .. Good luck , it will behard . Btw how old are u ?
    
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    - kinda
      
      11 years ago
      
      actually, i am christian..
      and Beirut/Lebanon is two hours&half far from here where i live .. in Damascus
      i am 21 years old..
      you..! where do u live ?
      
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      - Iiin
        
        11 years ago
        
        i live in tripoli, lebanon ! ive never met any bi or lez there !!!
        
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        kinda
        
        11 years ago
        
        i know lesbians from beirut from the site
        OKCupid.com
        that the guy up there give me ..
        but no syrian lesbians -.- just straight guys from syria -.-" But this site may help u in lebanon there is lesbian girls :) hope i helped mmmmm if u r lesbina ?!!!
        
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Avant-Garde

11 years ago

Go to a gay bar or a LGBT support group.

Good Luck!

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- kinda
  
  11 years ago
  
  we don't have such a thing :(
  
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  - Avant-Garde
    
    11 years ago
    
    :(
    
    Do you have any gay friends that might know of places to go and meet other gays?
    
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    - kinda
      
      11 years ago
      
      i don't have gay friends, i have one Guy friend i think he is gay he is feminine(not that strange he looks normal, he has elegant guy looking and nice body ,but he is mean just like girls do exactly like a girl ,and he do feminine strange things sometimes i think he is cute^ ^) but i never asked him if he is gay, i felt it's not my business...
      i don't know any lez and me&my friends r feminine.. and i like feminine type of girls..
      (i mean:normal looking girls i don't mean those types who thinks about the look very much i hate those silly types although that i sometimes looks like one of them but i am not really i am very emotional girl not empty inside like them) ahh anyway! of course i like smart girls...
      that is a problem coz i like those typs that look straight just like me very straight looking(but i do crazy thing like in my hair cut and earrings and tattoo i like strange faction but wt-ever i do i alwz look like straight girl maybe because i am very kind
      anyway i think all i need is to try, i have to be stronger, i think i used to resists my feeling to girls all the years before being sure i am lesbian, and that's that i am getting through.... i am sure now that i need love and i can't have it with a guy
      long story .. not supported country... i think i am afraid more that i have to be
      i will live my life simpler and i will not make this a big deal .. if i found it impossible i will leave my country anyway it is better to leave my country in this unstable political situation in my country...
      
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      - eats,shoots_and_leaves
        
        11 years ago
        
        mabe you could find a LGBT dating site for syria, there are probably lots of closeted lesbians near where you live but use the internet for dating and staing covered, that's what I would doo. (gay btw)
        
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squeallikeasacofpigs

11 years ago

Jesus, who the fuck taught you English!??!?!?

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  11 years ago
  
  shut the fuck up i learn it myself :PPPP
  
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  - squeallikeasacofpigs
    
    11 years ago
    
    You fucking moron, you haven't learnt it properly! You're writing worse than a fucking 4 year old.
    
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    - kinda
      
      11 years ago
      
      that's silly.. i know that if i am talking to u face to face u will answer me differently, you men r super useless... big guys,empty heads
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        11 years ago
        
        You taught yourself english?
        
        That is cool. Haha English is a hard language to learn, Especially by yourself. Haha
        
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      - squeallikeasacofpigs
        
        11 years ago
        
        HAHAHAHAHA IDIOT!!!!
        
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- purpletrain
  
  11 years ago
  
  That's rude. It's clearly not her native language. That much is obvious. English isn't an easy 2nd language to learn. Do you speak a 2nd language? If not, I don't think you're in any position to judge dude :P
  
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  - squeallikeasacofpigs
    
    11 years ago
    
    English is the EASIEST 2nd language to learn you precious little bitch. And yes, I speak fluent French mother fucker, so get the fuck off your moral high horse you stupid old hag.
    
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    - purpletrain
      
      11 years ago
      
      My my my, someone has a potty mouth. LOL oh dear, it's quite pathetic to be honest. What are you getting so riled up about? This is the internet, genius. You calling me a "precious little bitch" is hardly gonna hurt, but please continue if swearing helps you release the pent up anger you're quite obviously harbouring. Congrats on speaking fluent french. I myself speak German. Since you speak French, you'll understand that languages aren't easy for everyone, so there's no need to be a snob. And no, English isn't the easiest language to learn. Just because we don't have genders doesn't make it easier. Other languages have a few thousand words. We have 50,000. And the many words like read, read and red which are either spelled the same or pronounced the same can be confusing for someone who's trying to learn English. But I digress, there's no need to be rude. If you think someone's an idiot, roll your eyes at the computer screen like the rest of us.
      
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      - squeallikeasacofpigs
        
        11 years ago
        
        Hahahaha, you stupid old fucking hag, get a life, nice fucking essay there, your life must be so fucking interesting. Have a great day dickface
        
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        11 years ago
        
        If you consider a paragraph an essay, you'd be wrong, but whatever floats your boat I guess. You have a great day too potty mouth.
        
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