Is it normal i can never get out of bad relationships?

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I seem to have this bad habit of dating guys and sticking with them even though it's not really working. I'm super tolerant, and it seems like in every relationship I end up getting used. I try my best to keep my partner happy, I'll cook them dinner, take them out on dates, clean the house, random presents, I never say no in.. aherm... bed. I'm a ridiculous people pleaser and I know it!! But it hurts to let people down, and I feel good doing nice things.. I just wish once in my life I could meet a guy who would do anything for me to...I'm currently dating a guy for 3 years that does nothing for me, and I do so much for him!! It's driving me crazy. Is it normal that I keep doing this? Both men I dated did nothing for me and I worked hard to keep them happy. Does anyone else stay in these kind of terrible relationships for years?

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    It's not normal. And you are in a very unhealthy relationship.

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  • SofiaA
    10 years ago

    What you're doing is normal, I've done it before so I know how it is.
    You can't always give them what they want its not fair you have to let them please you and make you happy. Find a guy that will appreciate that aspect in you!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Leave them little pressies.

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  • Strat
    10 years ago

    The part you left out is how many times you have played the helpless female in order to lure another man to save you only to dump him in favor or your beloved asshole.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I would have to have guys interested in me to play that role.. I work full time in an environment made up of 95% females and the other 5% married men, I don't think I've ever had another shoulder to lean on, let alone the time to find one.. I'm sorry you've had a bad run in with females though. Or is it that you've formed an opinion after watching to much TV and assume girls are this way? Either way, keep looking with your chin up, and don't don't be like me when you hit a bad relationship. And don't be like my boyfriend when you find a good one. Out of curiosity, do you live in the states? Just cause I see a lot of guys post on here about "Friend zoning" and women that use you etc... but I'm kind of curious if that's an American woman thing, because around here there are actually a lot of nice girls. Not to say they're all nice, but if you were actually looking you could pick out some good ones

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      • Strat
        10 years ago

        I'm an older man and when you live a few years there are some things you just get tired of,one of them is the love and devotion for jerks routine,there are men out there who would treat a woman like gold but they are ignored because they lack the bold,brash assholiness and loud mouth swagger that women cannot seem to get enough of.....these men come with a price,infidelity being the most common, and I don't understand why women who choose them don't just pay the price in silence instead of asking people if they normal or doing the normal thing when they know better.

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        • ccjigsaw
          10 years ago

          Hmm..well I know what I'm going through isn't a "good" thing, I thought it might at least be common. I'm just not good at breaking up with people.. If he cheated on me it would be much easier. But when he's not doing anything infinitely wrong I just can't do it. I didn't choose him because of asshole swagger either, I go for cute guys, and we started dating in high school. He was so shy and adorable. Didn't have any friends, could barely speak to a girl. That's pretty much my type, shy nerdy boys n.n The irony was that dating me gave him confidence and he changed.. erg. It's not all bad though, which is why I stay with him. I'm %100 sure that if I was single and met a nice guy I could be with him forever. I'd have to be single though, cause lets face it. I girl who's dating another guy and dumps him for a "nice" guy isn't a very nice girl.

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          • ccjigsaw
            10 years ago

            Woops guess I'm not anonymous anymore lol

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    Have you ever confronted him about this?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I have, lots. I tried again recently though, I said "If you're not going to act like a boyfriend then you're loosing your boyfriend status. We're still going out, but until you can prove to me you can be a good boyfriend, we're not going to be doing anything outside of being normal roommates." He's been awesome for the past 4 days! He even said he realizes he takes me for granted! n.n Yaaayyyyy lol

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      • Short4Words
        10 years ago

        Good! I'm happy things are going better.

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