Is it normal i broke up becuase my partner wanted sex?

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I'm not a greatly sexual person. Though I have a ton of kinks. I'm not the type to look at someone and automatically say I want to bang them. I tend to identify as asexual since explaining my sexuality is too much hassle. I tried dating someone and we had been dating for about a week. After a week they kept giving me strong signals they wanted sex. While at the same time said waiting was okay. They kept putting me in uncomfortable situations which would normally be set ups for sex. So I dropped them and have been ignoring them. I feel like maybe this was a over reaction, possibly?

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  • jimbo35
    6 years ago

    It's your pussy. Use it or not however you want.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Always put your comfort and safety ahead of someone else's sexual needs. You absolutely never, ever owe someone sex and if you agree to sex, then change your mind, a caring partner will respect that, even if they don't like it. People break up all the time for all kinds of reasons, but sexual incompatibility is a very common reason. You didn't do anything wrong.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    Why should you be with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable?

    The only question raised by your question is that it appears you acted on your perception that the other person was setting you up for sex, but you didn't actually express your discomfort at the time. What we perceive is sometimes not what is intended.

    If your gut-feeling is that they were lying when they said they were willing to wait, then you should go with that. You may not be right, but it's possible that suspicion will always be at the back of your mind.

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  • Kevinevan
    6 years ago

    It's refreshing to see someone who takes a stand and breaks it off instead of indefinitely leading them on. Good for you!!

    Have sex though. It's good for you.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Not at all. I always go with no sex for as long as I want. And while I know it tortures my partner I still would make them climax incredibly hard and they never crossed this line despite their desperate yearning. To make a partner feel sexually pressured and uncomfortable I remember now it did happen to me once and was awful I should have left. You didn't over react partners shouldn't do this to you. Also what are your kinks

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    you did the right thing. and next time this happens you will also do the right thing. in fact you have always done the right thing. i advise to to always follow your advice.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Spare the world: Stop dating and join some celibate religious organization.

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