Is it normal i am with a girl i don't really like?

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Well I write this because I really need help. I have been in a going out with this girl for over three months now. I never really liked her. She and i known each other FOREVER. So the first time she asked me out i had said "no". After a few more times i said yes because i felt bad. Well me and her are still together her and i cannot find the heart to break up with her. I don't want to be an asshole and for one of my best friends to hate me.Is it normal?

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  • *AlphaDoll*
    12 years ago

    Tell her the truth before it goes on forever, the more time you take the worst it becomes then you'll end up breaking her heart. She will appreciate your honesty, so sit her down and explain it to her.

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  • Ono
    12 years ago

    If she has known you a long time then she will probably see through any made up reason and resent that you're lying to her why youre breaking up. I'd try being mostly honest, tell her the truth, but be gentle.

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    • flutterhigh
      12 years ago

      This.

      The fact that people think lying and using worn out cliches is a good idea for handling a relationship is the reason the divorce rate is a clean fucking 50%.

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  • Aurora93
    12 years ago

    Lying to her is worse. And the longer you leave it, the worse it will be.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    If you don't like her then you are doing the wrong thing by dating her.

    yes you tell yourself it will hurt her to break up but... it will hurt her MORE to lead her on when you know you don't want her to begin with.

    it's better to break her heart now... if you do it now it will hurt but it will hurt more to wait and do it later.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Tell her the fuckin truth.

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    It is not healthy or right . I do it to though .

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  • xogirlygirlxo
    12 years ago

    if you dont like her as a girlfriend, but as a friend, end the realtionship before she gets to deep in emotions and loves you, just say that you want to end the relationship but still be good friends

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    Here, from the sounds of it you should say something like this "I'm so sorry, I understood your feelings, and I'd hoped that when I went out with you I might start to have romantic feelings for you to. But it didn't happen, I'm sorry, but I can't do this. I tried, I honestly did. I know you don't want to hear this, but I don't want to lose such a dear friend. So, can we still be friends?" Best nicest way I could think of of letting someone down, but honestly. Theres no way to go about this without breaking her heart. Good luck

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  • Wonderlost
    12 years ago

    These things happen a lot, we are only human and are subjected to making a lot of mistakes. The only thing I can truly advise you to do is break it to her gently. Tell her the truth, it may be painful, but most things are. Just try not to do the same thing again.

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  • graphic_nature
    12 years ago

    The sooner you break up with her the better, or before you know it two years will pass by and you'll still be thinking "why am I still with someone I don't like!!"

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    it's not you it's me, you deserve better, say that and stay friends

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  • bleach_baby
    12 years ago

    Make up some reason u cant be with her that makes it look like it's not your fault. The standard 'Im going through some difficult stuff and I can't be in a relationship right' now might work. Or just stop making an effort and do gross shit like wake her up by farting on her (my friend actually did this to an ex, wtf) and hope she breaks up with you.

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    • flutterhigh
      12 years ago

      Yeah, anything but honesty, we all know that being conniving is way better.

      :|

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      • bleach_baby
        12 years ago

        Go ahead and give him some bullshit fairytale platitude - my advice might actually work without hurting this chicks feelings :)

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        • flutterhigh
          12 years ago

          Setting aside your second (hopefully sarcastic) suggestion, keep in mind that this isn't someone he wants to sever ties with. What happens when he wants to pursue a relationship with someone else? She'll feel even more dejected and confused. He's already made a dumb mistake by humoring her with a halfhearted relationship, and the only way to redeem that is to be sincere with someone he cares about. In a gentle manner, of course.

          Sometimes truisms are truisms because there is truth in them.

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