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I love my boyfriend. We have been together for just over a year and i think he's perfect for me. But i'm just not attracted to his body? It was nearly a reason i didnt go out with him, i dont like hair. It freaks me out and h is really hairy. He had a gorgeous face! but when we have sex i like it when he keeps his clothes on? What shall i do?
Not true, you can't help what turns you off. Plus love doesn't seem to be the problem here, it's an issue of physical attraction.
Well love kind of is an issue here, the original poster said she loves him, so it does come into play. I agree though, physical attraction does factor things a bit though.
What you have to do though, original poster, is think about whether or not this is a determining factor of breaking up with him or not. I think if you really love him, then you'd move past small things such as hair. This should not be a huge deal... (but you know women). Also sometimes people that stay in relationships like this eventually cheat when someone really attractive comes along, so it would be better you think about ending it if your the kind of person that would be tempted.
Also you said his face is gorgeous, so it doesn't seem all bad. Idk, sounds like you need to just get over it.
Sexual compatibility is a HUGE part of a long-term relationship and if you don't think so, you are fooling yourself. Eventually if you don't like sleeping with him, it is going to start tearing at your relationship. I think that you should first talk to him about it and see if you can't come up with some sort of a solution together (laser hair removal?..), and if not I would explore the possibility of opening up your relationship. You deserve to be with someone that you are attracted to at least some of the time, and he deserves to occasionally have sex with someone that can accept his hairiness. Otherwise you will both be unhappy. Plus you may find that sex with others helps you appreciate each other, provided that it is set up in an honest, caring and respectful way. Never underestimate the power of sex. Of course it's not the only thing to a relationship, but it's hella important.
Set him on fire. The hair should go first; then put it out. Do it quickly so he's not injured though...
I've never really been one for hair either, but my boyfriend has a lovely fluffy tummy. It strangely amuses me.
I thought it was impossible, but I love every ounce of that man!
My girlfriend turned me down, five times, with the reason that I've a beard, and it makes me look - I'll quote the girl - "burly and old".
I shaved, and she liked it, we went out, became a pair. But when I got lazy and grew it out, she tolerated, because she CLAIMED she loves me.
Six months later, I shaved, she cried. "THIS ISN'T YOU ANYMORE."
Now that, lady, is love.
does he know you dislike his hair? i mean it's not like he can't remove it.
although personally i hate bald chests. hairless chests make me think of teenaged boys who don't have manly hair yet... and that's a turnoff
You should love your boyfriend for who he is, "warts and all". If it really bothers you that much, you should break up with him.
Suck your daddy's dick u bitch! If u wud love him in real, u wouldnt care about his looks or anything!
what's with all the mean posts? love and physical attraction don't always go hand in hand. she's dating him for his personality and who he is as a person that is THE EXACT OPPOSITE of what a shallow person would do. I personally can't get aroused unless i'm attracted to a guy's personality and feel that special connection (even when they're physically less than perfect) so sex doesn't always have to be about finding your partner physically perfect. As long as the sexual chemistry is there and they love each other i don't see what's wrong with her or him. That being said, I would just ask him to shave but if you do this be prepared for him to ask you to make physical changes as well.
Damn im not into all tht fur either...but whn i met my love i didnt care...uu should ask him if he would shave a bit or suck it up cuz chances are he'd be offended
That kinda makes me lol Teehee, guys don't like girls with hair and guess what guys, hairy men can be pretteh nasteh. (Not always) But i'd say that's normal
love is a strong word. let me think you like his face but not his body . do you like his dick. i think you should try something new. like lesbians or just tell that ape he hairy
You should love him for who he is. If you despise his hair, look else where. On the other hand, he can have it permanently removed. You can pay the bill. My husband has a lot of hair on his chest and some on his back. It gets every where on the floor. It is gross, but I accept him for who he is. I don't mind some hair, but he has tons. I shave it off him when it gets really annoying. He doesn't mind. But his best quality doesn't have anything to do with his hair.
I don't think it's normal to date and have sex with someone that you aren't physically attracted to.
Bin him!
I love a short fat baldy guy!! Totally not my type but I can't help it :o)
At the end of the day it is a problem and if he loves you as much as you love him than be would understand. Try and be sly about if if you can so you don't hurt his feelings. If you guys are relaxing one day get on top of him and massage his chest or something and play around and then say.... I. Very tempted to shave your chest and laugh, say it will be something fun to do and it will lol and once you do say iuuuu baby you look sexy and have sex and he may start to like the LESS HAIRY him. Nothing in giving it a go, in the end you never loose anything lol xx
Totally understand.. My girlfriend has packed on a solid 40lbs in the past year and ive lost almost any physical attraction to her.... Sounds shallow but its hard to maintain respect for someone who loses their self respect in a physical manner
Are you on the pill?
Scientists says the hormones in the oral contraceptive suppress a woman's interest in masculine men and make boyish men more attractive.
No i'm not on the pill :/ and its not little soft cute hairs. I would be okay with that, but they are thick black and he trims them so they are prickley for me to touch. I have tryed to convince him to let it just grow because i think it would look nicer but he hates that hes hairy to x