Is it normal i am not acknowledged by my boyfriend's mom.

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Okay so my boyfriend & I are always together. Either he's at my house or I'm at his. We spend more time at his house though it's like my second home. Also, his family goes on little trips often like to a cabin they rent, camping, San Diego, Vegas & so on. I respect them for allowing me to stay in their home as if I lived there & go with them everywhere... but his mom hardly acknowledges me & it's quite awkward that I spend so much time around his mom when we've barely only talked 2 times & that was while she was asking her son a question & I answered as well. Whenever left alone with the mom dad or sister there is an awkward silence unless his sister is talking since I guess you could say I'm closer to her.. Ugh sorry for the paragraph but yeah is this normal to not really be acknowledged by them? The reason I'm feeling concerned about it is because my two closest friends have boyfriends & are best friends with their boyfriends mom... Is there something wrong with me or the situation? Thanx in advance. :)

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  • CheyChey
    12 years ago

    It's normal to some extent. has your boyfriend had a few girlfriends that were introduced to the family also before you? if so the family might be having a hard time investing in you emotionally because they've been in situations like this one before. i suggest you talk to them preferably the mom, tell her you love her son very much and the vibe you've been getting from her, you never know she might be feeling the exact same way. generally boyfriend's mothers take a while to warm up if you get through to her getting along with the rest of family will be a breeze. goodluck

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Don't worry about his dad - men don't talk much to their own kids, never mind their gfs.

    But, you need to get his mom on-side.
    I have a teenage son and can't be bothered with some of his friends who come into MY house and don't even say hello when they see me. I'm lucky to get a grunt as a response! Others stick their head into the room to say "Hi, how are you?" and it lets me know they're there. It's much better to have manners, even if you're shy.

    I also feed his crowd of mates with pizza etc and only the best ever say 'thank you'. I'm thinking, "What's wrong with these kids? How have they been raised?"

    You really need to acknowledge his mom and show appreciation for everything she allows you to do in her home. If you don't - you're toast!!

    Inside she's thinking, "Grrrr, who's this young girl taking my little baby boy away from me? She better be good to him or I'll rip her head off!"

    Most mothers really dote on their sons, doing everything for them and wanting them to succeed in school and their careers so you don't want to be seen as holding him back in any way. His mom will be happiest when she hears him laughing with you - then she knows he's happy with you!!

    Just show some basic respect for her and she will grow to really like you!

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  • CubsLover120
    11 years ago

    You should try getting to know her the best you can

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  • bleach_baby
    12 years ago

    She's probably pissed off that you're spending so much time at her house. Try and split the hosting more fairly so she doesn't feel the onus is always on her.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    12 years ago

    Why don't you just start conversations with her? She'll open up to you, unless there's something wrong with her of course.

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    • ForgetMeNot666
      12 years ago

      I'm shy it's a phobia of mine to talk to anyone really.

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  • twixzy
    12 years ago

    Maybe she doesn't like you cuz you're a total idiot, I mean like, you start your sentence with "okay so.." - that's totally annoying.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Yeah because it's not idiotic at all to judge someone on how they start a post on the internet...

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    • ForgetMeNot666
      12 years ago

      Ohh I'm sorry! That would probably annoy me too. I'm not a total idiot though... My spelling & grammar are good.

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