Is it normal i am constantly annoyed by her?

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I have a friend who is very screwed up. She was apparently raped or molested as a child and I'm not sure what else. The thing is I find myself very annoyed with her. She is constantly talking about how messed up she is, and how it's affecting different things she's doing. If I talk about anything with her, she turns it around and makes it about herself. And if I tell her about something funny or weird that happened, she seems to try to show she's even weirder.

I can't stand her constant chatter about herself. I feel like she's decided to embrace her problems and it feels like she's made them into her personality, rather than trying to get past them. I don't even feel like I know anything about her, just how she's so 'weird' and 'screwed up'.

Am I being insensitive?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Obviously she thinks quite a bit about herself. She would be considered a stage-hog so to speak. Many people do this to some extent or the other, but to do it on a regular basis signifies that she DOES think too much about herself and that she may have trouble effectively reciprocating without a conversation.

    She may be a little self-absorbed and it does annoy me when people feel the constant need to convince others of how strange they are. The idea of constant need to recognize one's individuality in and of itself annoys me, I will be honest with you. If you really can not stand it, I would suggest not spending much time with her. It can be very... difficult to bring this kind of stuff up to people like that.

    Although I'm not one to talk :P

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Man, sounds like a self obsessed bitch to me. Man I hate those people that feel like they've had such a hard life and everybody needs to know about it and the world owes the something because of it! JESUS! Shut the fuck up and get on with your life you whiny little bitch.
    Anyway, stop being friends with this moron dude

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    I had a friend similar to that. She ended up a junkie losing custody of her three kids. I haven't talked to her in a while.

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    Maybe you should try to help her.
    You should point out what she does and tell her how annoying it is. Do it in such a way as to not ruin your friendship, but to encourage her to change (become more normal) so that she won't ruin relationships with others or turn into the annoying brat that no-one likes.
    Try to re-educate her to accept everything at face value rather than finding some way that it applies to her.
    Also tell her that you don't hold her past against her, but she really needs to get over it.

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