Is it normal i am annoyed at my friend for liking me?

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My friend told one of my other friends he liked me. But that was more than a year ago so I thought it had changed.
We went on a night out as usual but he was getting annoying. He kept putting his arm around me, any excuse to hold my hand for a few seconds and flirting.
At the end of the night he walked me home for safety reasons but then he just invited himself in my house which is rude. I then make my body language read awkward and bored so he might leave. I went on my phone but he kept coming over and looking at what I was texting, which was private! He had me stand there and talk for four whole hours because he just would not leave. He then walks into my bedroom, extremely rude and asks me to put on a dvd so I did so. All I wanted to do was go to bed so I wouldn't be tired at work the next day!
I think he wanted something from me that night but I didn't give him anything. He had me watching a dvd and talking all night then left when I went to work. Insisted on walking me there, embarrassing. I then had to do a full day of work with just over 24 hours of no sleep.
is it normal I am pissed off? He now texts me an awful lot inviting me places. I've got other friends, responsibilities, other men to see and sleep to get! So annoying!

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    Some people need the obvious pointed out. He probably didn't read your cues. If you want someone to leave, it isn't impolite to ask them to go. You could also tell them that you need your sleep and he can't stay. Don't put on a DVD and hope he gets the message. Make it clear. There is nothing rude about it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thats true. I just feel awkward telling someone to leave but if there is a next time, I will tell him to.

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    If a guy is in your place like that, it isn't because he wants to have a friendly chat or watch some DVDs. It's mind boggling how you could just hang around and pretend that this wasn't happening.

    The guy was probably saying to himself, "Well, if she isn't kicking my ass out the door, she must like what I'm doing. Might as well just keep pressing on and see if anything happens."

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I knew exactly what he wanted from me but surely he could of got the hint if nothing happened within a couple of hours and my body language clearly read I am annoyed.

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      • q25t
        11 years ago

        Yeah....most guys don't get body language all that well.

        Especially if he was interested in you. Then he basically has blinders on and only sees what he wants to.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        I doubt he got a hint at all. You need to straight tell him when its time to leave.

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    These are the kinds of things that just drive men half way to the crazy house. Mixed Signals. You allow him to an intimate place but act cold.

    I have a few similar stories. Once a girl called me out of the blue and invited me to a concert, but then acted as you call "awkward and bored" the entire night. SHE invited ME! Makes no sense.

    Another time a different girl invited me up to her apartment after a date to play a game of chess. I said, "OH chess... that's fun..." with a wink and a smile. But when I got there it seemed like all she REALLY wanted to do was play the game and then she said thanks and asked me to go. I left disappointed and confused.

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    • q25t
      11 years ago

      The first example was good there. The second I think is your fault for making assumptions.

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    • lizieralizard
      11 years ago

      she obviously gave u far too much credit for being a human being instead of a perv.

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    • lizieralizard
      11 years ago

      Yea i can see how that could be confusing. girl says hey lets play chess and omg, she wanted to play chess!!! wtf?

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    • malkiot
      11 years ago

      A girl could hint invite me over for chess with ulterior motives... I'd just sit there and happily play chess :/

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    I'd just kick him out. Be even rude to him. He sounds forceful.

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    tell him your a lesbian...worked when i told my "clingy" best friend i was gay...

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  • lizieralizard
    11 years ago

    you only have yourself to b mad at. try this next time: "thank u so much for walking me home. I would invite u in but i have 2 work in the morning. goodnight"

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    dont you expect the boys to like the girls they want to have sex with? why cant u be friends first?

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    • Sailor_Cosmos
      11 years ago

      I know that sometimes friends can become lovers, but usually if you're put in the friend zone by a girl that's where you are going to stay.

      Some guys are stupid enough to think if they stick around long enough she will like them...they are better off accepting the situation for what it is and finding someone else willing to have a relationship with them.

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  • malkiot
    11 years ago

    I don't really understand why you let him do those things.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Me too.
      I should have just told him to get out.

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    But seriously, don't lead him on. Many girls do that to guys without even realizing it, and it makes us go crazy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I don't see how I was leading him on since he was the one who practically barged into my house and just wouldn't leave. He did actually comment at one point saying that I look bored and he hopes he isn't boring me. I answered with hmm. And he still stayed another three hours unwelcome. Overstaying his welcome is an understatement.

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    Just fucking tell him that you need your space. He should understand. If you need to tell him you just want to be friends, but don't tell him that it's annoying you because it might hurt his feelings.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    You should have to him to go home.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I feel so awkward telling someone to leave.
      If I were in his shoes, I would have just left because I would have realised it's impolite.

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      • Terence_the_viking
        11 years ago

        I get what you are saying but now look at the situation you are in.

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