Is it normal i am afraid i will never find "the one"?

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I'm an attractive nearly 20-years old girl and it has never been a problem for me to find a boyfriend, but the thing is - I reject everyone, even when I understand that the guy is really great. I am the person who is serious about dating - I mean, I would never date someone who I am not in love with. But all the guys are just not right - they begin to irritate me even with the smallest details, that would never irritate me if they were just my friends and I don't feel comfortable around them. It's not the problem that I have high standards - I am not really expecting anything from the guy - but I don't like anyone at all. I have never loved anyone, not even had the first love. I am afraid that I would never like anyone in my life, because I look at all those people around me being happy together and I can't even imagine myself doing that. IIN?

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    I was with you up until I read your post. I think that you have too high of expectations for people. You should at least try giving a guy a shot to prove that he's the one, because in all honesty it sounds like you have this "love at first sight" belief that completely kills it for any other guy. Try giving a guy the chance to prove that he loves you and maybe then you won't have to worry.

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    • Waterlily
      11 years ago

      Sorry, I probably couldn't find good words for it.
      I don't have belief in love at first sight and don't wait for prince on white horse, the problem is I will find disadvantages in all (even the most perfect) guys, not because I have high expectations but because of some fear.

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      • Anime7
        11 years ago

        Then conquer your fear. Unless you start giving guys a chance you'll have a self-fulfilling prophecy and never find the one.

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  • babe7575
    11 years ago

    Most guys are a waste of time. You are doing the right thing. When a worthy guy comes along, you will know. Maybe he will reject you? But that's life. The right one will come along where both of you love and care for one another. I have the same "problem." I fear I will never learn how to love someone.

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    • Waterlily
      11 years ago

      I understand you so well. My fear is a result of the fear you mentioned)
      I don't even want (and should I say - dream) to date that guy, I want to have these special emotions.

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      • babe7575
        11 years ago

        Yes, fear is whats stopping us but we shouldn't let it. And anybody who says that fear is not normal, they are wrong. We just have to realize we are bigger than our mistakes and whatever else other people want us to believe can go wrong.

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  • Mmmpfh
    11 years ago

    You need to know a guy for a long time to fall in love with him. If you think someone is a great person try dating them for a while and see how it goes. If you're against having sex with these people, then don't. They can leave if they don't like that.

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  • RCBerzerker
    8 years ago

    @dytrog-lol- she says she won't date anyone unless she loves them first. That's her problem! She got it bass ackwards. If the little princess is still monitoring, date the guys you want but love comes way later, if ever. Try not thinking of your own needs and find someone you can both respect and enjoy your time with.

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  • dytrog
    8 years ago

    Nobody good enough for daddy's little girl. Huh?

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  • dude_Jones
    11 years ago

    What if you rephrased the question this way. "Society shows all happy people being in love in movies, songs and pop culture. I disagree with this. What's wrong with me?"

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    • Waterlily
      11 years ago

      You probably hit the bull's eye)

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  • fartonmyface
    11 years ago

    Yea you need to hop off that pedestal and start realizing everyone is a human being and not perfect. Those little things that start to irritate you about someone can be solved and mended in the future. You're not allowing yourself to find out how great one of these people actually is because of a small detail that turns you off. If you're physically turned off by the person, then okay there's nothing you can really do about that. But if it's just a personality thing or something they say, that can easily change once you guys get to know eachother better.

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  • bananawhat
    11 years ago

    Or*

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  • bananawhat
    11 years ago

    I have never dated either nor have a boyfriend. Well, I am only 17 years old but I believe that even when I am 20 years old I may still be like you, single and inexperienced. We have the same thoughts so far. The thing with me is that I do not go on dates. I think they are pretty weird. I would rather hang out and get to know each other.

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    • Waterlily
      11 years ago

      well, I can say - you never know what may happen.
      I still have a little hope:)

      I don't like classic dates either, but there are a lot of guys who don't like them too, I guess)

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  • Lucyg123swag
    11 years ago

    Just deal with their problem as they deal with yours

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    "I would never date someone who I am not in love with."

    "I have never loved anyone"

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    • Waterlily
      11 years ago

      Yes, I have never dated anyone in my 20 years.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        It has never been a problem for you to find a boyfriend but you've never had one, sounds like a problem.

        And with no experience what so ever, coming to the conclusion that you reject everyone is silly, you've never had anyone to reject.

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        • Waterlily
          11 years ago

          1.Yes, it is a problem that is a key to my situation.

          2.I don't want to date anyone just to have experience.

          3.Well, it's fact - they want to date me, and I don't. How the hell I can make wrong conclusions here?

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          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago

            With no experience what so ever, coming to the conclusion that you reject everyone is silly, you've never had anyone to reject.

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