Is it normal i’m having second thoughts

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I’ve been with my boyfriend since I was 19 I am 27 now. He’s the first man I’ve ever been in relationship with. We have been on and off our entire relationship. We share a 3 year old. The past 10 months we have been together and living in our first apartment. He’s a great guy. Does things I ask of him, doesn’t have a temper etc. At first I wanted nothing more than to marry him, but something in me has changed. I get annoyed that he texts me while I’m working or that he wants to talk on the phone while driving home from work. I have no interest in having sex with him. I have never had an orgasm. He lasts literally two minutes. His excuse is that it’s never bothered me before. I was much younger and inexperienced then. We don’t kiss-we’ve never have, cuddle, talk about life things, plan dates, travel, basically feel like roommates. We don’t even have each other on social media. I feel great when we are apart. I don’t think of him. I feel annoyed when he comes home. I feel terrible because he doesn’t do anything to hurt my feelings. Is it the “ 7 year itch” or I’m just not that into him.. anymore?

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  • LloydAsher
    5 years ago

    You have a child so just tough it out with him. It’s just a rough patch of a greener on the other orchard variety. Just stick to it and you’ll be happy in the end. 🙂

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    • Columbusbiguy
      5 years ago

      Never, ever remain with someone because of a child. That is not a reason to stay. Many counselors will tell you this is a bad idea. If this is the only reason you are together, what satisfaction will you get?

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    • Cuntsiclestick
      5 years ago

      I don't like kids, but I do know that kids aren't stupid. They'll eventually figure out their parents don't love each other and are only together because of them. That will just fuck them up mentally. I've known people this has happened to.

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  • charli.m
    5 years ago

    A relationship is work.

    What do both of you do to strengthen your relationship on a daily basis?

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    You need to talk to this dude!

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  • mauzi
    5 years ago

    Fake, obvious lead up to cuck porn, gross. Side note if you have no interest in sex and he's done in 2 minutes that would be awesome, loop hole for asexuals that are still in love with men plus it's a compliment tbh

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  • Columbusbiguy
    5 years ago

    He will not change, even after counseling, in my opinion. The mere fact he said to you that it never bothered you before shows no willingness on his part to acknowledge your issues, and they are your issues, and thats ok. He may play along in counseling, if you can get him to agree to it in the first place, but any real changes are not likely to be sustained. If you are that miserable, you should definitely do somethibg about it, you are too you, and there are many people willing to give you what you seek. This was your first real relationship. There are not many people anymore that stay with their first relationship for life.

    I am not advocating dump and run. I think you shoukd do the counselibg thing to begin, you will know where you stand toward improvement, or creating an exit strategy. And be honest, simply saying you are not happy is not enough, you must tell him you have thoughts and considerations of leaving. Let him know it is serious.

    Best of luck.

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  • Grunewald
    5 years ago

    Communication still seems possible and you are not at each other's throats: that's a sign that there's life in this relationship yet. You can work towards contentment and improvement; you maybe just need some more help. I agree with Lloyd as regards your little one. Maybe try a counselor? It might just help turn things around in ways you hadn't imagined possible.

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