Is it normal how i dread society and life?

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(age 21) First, I don't think I am depressed because I have never been a type-A "seize the day" type person. In high school, I had only a few friends and throughout the course of high school those few friends came and went because I had a hard time keeping friends. In high school, I had a C+ average because I never had the concentration and willpower to study and listen in class. I almost had perfect attendance, I just couldn't learn and had no interest in anything. When I graduated, I started at a junior college and it became worse, I didn't have any friends at all, and during my first semester I even signed up for a couple of classes that were of interest and even in those classes I couldn't do the work and I didn't have the motivation to attend class regularly. I failed all four of those classes. For the next two semesters I failed about 85%% of the classes. The others I got a D, or low C. All my life I had trouble making and keeping friends because it bothers me how most people (especially people under 30) are not very polite and are insensitive. When I try my best to be sensitive and caring they don't seem to care. I eventually quit JC and started working at McDonalds to occupy myself since I wasn't going to school. I feel the job did help me some with concentration and tasks. And I do think my mental health improved at least 30%% by not attending school. In early 2009, I would constantly have negative thought "attacks" that would make me angry and want to hit a pillow. I don't have that now. Now I got laid off because my store isn't doing enough business right now. Is my situation normal? I currently have no interests and have trouble concentrating on reading and sometimes home/work related tasks and I have no friends, even when I tried attending a Bible study group and talking with the people. I guess a part of me feels confused that all throughout public school we are taught that "the world is our oyster and everyone is on your side". Well, by the time you are 18 or 19 you learn that we live in a world where nothing is fair and people won't budge unless it's something for them.

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  • Cherrybombpieee
    10 years ago

    The story was long so i didnt read iy and the comments are also really long whats up with this thread

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  • Zeropower
    13 years ago

    I really don't know if its normal at your age.I am 53 and I now believe most people are shit and they really only care about themselves,they may act like they care but deep down inside they always have a angle.and only do something if it benefits them. When i was like `16-22 I was like a young cat or puppy going out into the world and finding new and exciting things like meeting girls,get laid, parting,gambling,anything exciting.Now that I am older I have been around done a lot and don't do much or have interests in people anymore. I look for more things to do by myself or quiet comforting things and really don't need people and don't like a lot of people

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  • ali_roxx
    13 years ago

    Yea, life is hard because we didn't ask for it. So, we take it out on others by being uncaring, etc. But, I think that it's normal to be depressed and not want to keep people in your life. I understand that. Even if you're not "depressed", at least you are being yourself and staying aware of things. Keep doing your thing and don't worry about what's beyond your power.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Have you thought of attending a trade school? It might hold your interest more than the JC classes. That's what I did after graduating high school. I then went back to college around 30 and got my degree...I was much more settled then. I would also look into being treated for depression.

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  • denalgas
    14 years ago

    The world is your oyster, but only if you get your ass into gear and go out into it to forge a place for yourself. You can't just sit around and wait for wonderful things to magically fall into your lap. Sure, it's tough to motivate yourself to do something you don't give a shit about doing, but if you don't do anything, it's unreasonable to be surprised when nothing happens as a result.

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  • PoisonFlowers
    14 years ago

    I have to disagree. I think that you are affected by a sort of chronic depression. It's quite common for people to feel that such feelings are a part of their character because it's hard to say when they first became apparent. There's a name for this type of depression, but I'm not sure how much it would actually help you to know that. It's characterised by an almost everyday low mood, a decreased ability to concentrate and to feel pleasure amongst other things.

    You probably suspected this anyway, which is why you mentioned the negative though attacks, lack of concentration and interests and the state of your mental health. I'm glad that you feel better than before.

    Why do you think that you could not find any friends even though you attended the Bible Study group? Perhaps you just didn't meet people you could relate to (especially since you say that your attempts at being caring towards others aren't reciprocated.) If so, don't stop trying. Just one person on your side can make all the difference. Also, the world needs more people who care! So don't stop. Maybe the world isn't fair and many people are selfish, but that doesn't mean that things have to be hopeless.

    Do you have any family with whom you can talk to?

    I know how you are feeling. I'm currently on an "emotional high" (well, in conparison with how I usually feel anyway), but the lack of concentration is really messing me up too. The thing that is holding me in place is that I've got some people who (sort of?) care. I've managed to find and keep two good friends, so I'm lucky, especially how I'm not very talented in that department. Even so, I definitely know what you mean about dreading society and life. Just remember, things have gotten better and they can do so again.

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  • fivetwozero
    14 years ago

    This is normal. I'm 18, I've been in *somewhat* of the same situation. I have a much stronger ambition for my life though. I've created my own purpose, in my opinion. What have you wanted to do since you were very young? I do quick a bit of self-study and I've come to respect and embrace selfishness, relating to the point you made at the end of your post. If I you can find a way, attempt to establish a positive attitude towards working for yourself and you only.

    As for JC, after high school I quickly realized I could care less about other people and making friends. I was a light introvert through some of high school, so ignoring people in JC was much easier. I think you focused on other people too much while in school.

    Not that you asked for it, so I apologize if I'm overstepping a boundary, but I would suggest:

    1. Finding an interest that has always excited you. Don't give up on that focus.

    2. Take this interest and build on it. Find potential career paths.

    3. Find the motivation needed to push you forward in this interest.

    I really hoped that help; this is perfectly normal though by the way.

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