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Im 28 and he is 29, we have been dating for almost a year we know everything about each other and we are close with each others families. He will not have sex with me. He's not religious he's also not a Virgin. I weigh a measly 135 I'm 5'8 my boobs are a size 34D and I am in law school. Why doesn't he want to have sex with me? I just dont understand it.
Just say to him "I want to have sex with you".
That way he'll have to give a straight answer
You asked in your original question: "Why doesn't he want to have sex with me?" Then, it seems that you don't even approach him and show him that you would like to have sex with him???
Only if he REFUSED your sexual advances, it would be justified to say he doesn't he want to have sex with you. It is not normal if he doesn't show any sexual interest and if he doesn't seem to feel horny at all but it is a different story...
If you only wait for him to make the first move, he can wait as well. If you say that he doesn't want to have sex with you, he may say that you don't want to have sex with him.
DO you mean that he won't physically touch you at all? Even non-sexually? Then he obviously has some psychological issues. Or did you mean he just won't have sex with you? Because maybe he's just not ready yet or something. Contrary to popular belief, not all guys are desperate/crazy for sex. Why'd you include details about your appearance? Get over yourself.
Maybe he doesn't find you sexually attractive, maybe he is secretly gay, maybe he is asexual, maybe he is self conscious about his size. Who knows... Ask him
Go masturbate for him! Im shure he loves to see that, he will take the next step
He stays with you and respects you and you want to complain? Tons of females would like to be in your shoes.
Some women having sexy body or boobs could have ugly face. If you're not ugly, then it means he could have some erection problems, would have few experiment or just having fun with another women. Maybe he is a latent-homosexuel who uses you as a proxy.
Sometimes women need to take charge and grab what they want. I say this in a positive way. I know real estate agent that knew when I was around her I was kind of excited it was pretty obvious. She took her index finger and poked on my penis one-day sand are you excited to be around me. I told her it's obvious and I told her it was her fault but I had a major erection.
She asked me if I would show it to her in her real estate office. I took her in the bathroom drop my drawers. And whipped it out. I made no bones about showing her what she wanted to see. You need to let him know what you want to see. If you're really good looking and he knows it if he has low self-confidence level it might not ever happened he might be afraid of good-looking women.
When nobody's around Citgo Klastorin and offered to jack him off. Telling you get excited when you see a man ejaculate. See what kind of response you get out of him
Contrary to popular belief, not all men are interested in sex. He may not have enjoyed sex in the past or has lost interest in sex. There could be many reasons for him to not be interested in sex.
If you have had sex with him numerous times in the past and he won't touch you, he is most likely finding his loving somewhere else. If he just has never slept with you and won't, try a little strip tease, kiss on his neck a bit and see if you can get him going. Maybe he needs some excitement to be in the mood to act on his desires.
I don't think that's normal at all- he's never made a move or anything like that, and not mentioned at any point that he was not intending to be sexually active?
It could be that he is asexual, but I find it odd that he won't address the elephant in the room - or at least told you early on if that's the case. It's up to you to talk to him about it, just ask. You'll never know until you do.
"I weigh a measly 135"
Cough...
"I am in law school"
People hate lawyers....alot.
From my perspective, it is not normal that he does not try to have sex with you. If he refuses your sexual advances, then it is even worse and there must be some serious issues in that case.
However, let me ask you a question: have you tried to initiate sex with him by letting him clearly know that you want to have sex? For example, by direct approach, physical or verbal...? If no, then maybe he thinks that you are not ready for this step (i.e. having sex). It sounds silly and as I said it is not normal that he is waiting but you know nowadays guys are fed all kinds of bullshit, for example that they should wait and that they should not rush into sex because their female partners might feel objectified and degraded and they might jump into the conclusion that "all he wants is sex, not me as a whole person" etc...Frankly speaking, I am allergic to such statements and advice, but then again, some guys can be influenced by them and take them seriously. That is why I would recommend more direct approach...and if he refuses, then it will be a clear signal that something is clearly wrong...
Ask him. Both of you need to go get tested before this happens also. He may be hiding something. He could be using you as a cover up for being gay? Maybe he committed himself to not having sex with you until marriage? There are countless reasons and you need to ask him.
He must be a shy person probably...Many guys are like, is he isn't, then u have to start, try ur best, get him horny. After doing all this, if he still does not fuck u, then there might be a problem.
I wanted to know how i should approach him with the question. He's not not a follower he is very spontaneous and outgoing. Hes not into guys.