Is it normal he suddenly wants me back?

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This is a follow up to the "My dad kicked me out post". since my dad kicked me out I have been switching homes. He would hint every so often he wanted me out till when we got in a fight about my mom he kicked me out. He blamed me for the divorce now is asking why do you not come home"? I do not understand,itand I do not know what to do. I am living with a pal of mine now so should I go to my dad that pushed me away or stay? I fealt bad getting kicked out but if I go back he might treat me the same. I am already an adult but can not find work.

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  • jucedaguy
    11 years ago | pl

    Your mom used to do all the shit stuff for the un-appreciative prick. The only reason I am sad to say, he wants you back is to look after him like your mom used too.
    I am sorry to say but your dad seems like a demanding douchebag. Your mom no doubt is doing fine.

    I am not saying that you should cut him out altogether, just don't pander to him. It is the best you could do for him. Make him learn that other people aren't there for his every whim.
    Sounds harsh of me. But I have had a similar experience with my uncaring un-appapreciatve father. He was a self righteous pig who expected his every whim to the letter, till my mom left and he finally learnt how to grow up!

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    • intellectuallychallengedmaybe
      11 years ago

      I agree. I went thru a very similar situation. however, my suggestion is to CUT HIM OFF COMPLETELY. your father sounds like he is affecting your self-esteem. abandoning him and forcing him to look at his own faults should teach him a lesson, but you have to be very strong. this is what i did to my father, and i dont regret it not one bit, because he stayed the same until the grave. if i had continued communication with him it would have only dragged me down. good luck and dont give in. another side note: do everything you can to make sure you don't marry someone just like your father. twists of fate are weird like that. good luck.

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  • charli.m
    11 years ago

    Your dad sounds like he's a bit messed up right now. If you have no where else to go, I'd say consider it as a better alternative than homelessness. Is there any way you can have a rational conversation with him?

    Explain to him that his relationship with your mother is not your responsibility, nor your fault. That he cannot keep attacking you for it. You are the child in this situation, not the adult. The adults hold the responsibility.

    I know you've said you can't live with your mother, but if your father is emotionally abusive, surely she's a better option until you get yourself back on your feet?

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    • UhhhOK
      11 years ago

      Nicely executed. Good logical answer.

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    dont go back. he made the mistake to kick you out. now he must payfor it.

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  • intellectuallychallengedmaybe
    11 years ago

    I went thru a very similar situation. however, my suggestion is to CUT HIM OFF COMPLETELY. your father sounds like he is affecting your self-esteem. abandoning him and forcing him to look at his own faults should teach him a lesson, but you have to be very strong. this is what i did to my father, and i dont regret it not one bit, because he stayed the same until the grave. if i had continued communication with him it would have only dragged me down. good luck and dont give in. side note: make a new life for yourself and be happy about doing it. do it without fear or guilt. another side note: do everything you can to make sure you don't marry someone just like your father. twists of fate are weird like that. find your true self, then find a mate. good luck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Were you molested?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      No they are divorced.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        "Were you molested?"

        "No they are divorced."

        Hahahahaha...wait..what?...i don't....huh?

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  • cuteasabutt0n
    11 years ago

    Maybe give him another chance even a few days maybe hell come around and if not you can always move back our again

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    • intellectuallychallengedmaybe
      11 years ago

      her father sounds like he's addicted to being selfish. giving him another chance will only give him another fix.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I need to pick up the rest,of my stuff today but he suddenly says nwvermind come back home.

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      • intellectuallychallengedmaybe
        11 years ago

        he's using you to get revenge on your mom. its sadistic in a way. your situation will change when you decide not to let guilt and fear affect your decision/life. you need to make decisions out of sheer happiness, desire for a better life, and confidence, without fear. make the decision that you want something better for yourself, make a plan, stick to it and do not deviate from it. your goal in life is to be happy, and your father is an obstacle to that goal that must be removed.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          How so would this be making revenge on my mother?"

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Do you have gold so I could isnt message you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thats the thing I dont like going bak and force and I was told it look like he grew up but I fear if I go bavk he will take it as "see it was all her fualt not mine ". However I know he also kicked me out since he cant afford me and the person im staying withnow can.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    he sounds confused and in pain, he sounds lonely and want forgiveness, give it to him,
    Living with him or not living with him doesnt matter, he wants peace of mind about your relationship, blame you about mother? this is him lashing out blindly so he doesnt have the pain of looking at himself, be open and loving with father you dont have to share a roof to achieve this, i think you could say :dont be silly" if he ever brings the divorce and you up in the same sentence, father is a long time dead sorry to bring this up, good luck

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