Is it normal he suddenly cut me out of his life?

I know this may be another shitty post about dating but I'm in the need of some answers.
I have been seeing a guy for a month and a half and I started to really like him. I thought he felt the same. He initiated every conversation we had and we would talk for hours every day. We slept together a few times too, but he made me believe we were more than that.
We were talking the other night as usual and he suddenly stopped answering. The next day he didn't talk which was unusual. The day after I sent him a message, he answered, I replied and he didn't answer. Now we haven't talked at all in two days.
He's left me hanging. He made me believe we had something but he's very suddenly cut me off. I haven't done anything for him to not talk to me. I feel so miserable and upset that he's chucked me out of his life. I feel like bursting into tears because he's yet another guy its gone horribly wrong with. I don't want to ask him why because I don't want to look desperate. I feel so awful. Why has he done it? Will he ever try to get with again?
Is it normal that he decided to stop speaking to me instead of just telling me he doesn't want to carry what we have on? I can see him online on our messenger now so it's not any phone problems.

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41% Normal
Based on 79 votes (32 yes)
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  • mixwell

    Its only been 2 days jesus dont be soo clingy already.. If he doesnt reply in a week Id say just move on. Actions do speak louder than words.

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  • Araikita

    I certainly agree with @Mixwell above comment about the number of days. It has only been 2-days! In 2-days maybe he was feeling under the weather; cold, etc. Now if he is just avoiding you after a week, and not taking your calls I would worry. Sounds like he "wants" you to miss him. Toy-ing with you, or worst just playing relationship games of seduction. [ Love'em than Leave'em]. For you, hope this is not the case.

    With that said lets talk about real things to chat about. Even if it has only been 2-days with no contact and you are use to daily talks, lots of interaction in your relationship, we can't escape how we feel. Because it bothers you so, there must be something to it. It would be okay to reach out to him to ask....why the avoidance lately? Is anything wrong with him? If he refuses to provide a response, or gives you total BS* response without really responding, I would find a new mate.

    Not easy to have your emotions toyed with, but you can and will overcome this. What helps me is to ask one question of myself..........."Do I really want to be in a relationship with someone who does not want me?"

    I usually come to a NO answer pretty quickly. It only took me a Year...:)

    Hang in there. I love questions like this. Relationships are so important but the hardest [ emotionally ] to deal with and no one ever has the answer for when you have a broken heart.

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    • EccentricWeird

      Your post is very long.

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      • Araikita

        Yes it is. I know no other way to reply....:) Happy Friday!

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  • Araikita

    It has been a week now, has he called? Have you called him? Was he sick with a cold or something? What happen? What have you discovered since your post?

    Hope all is well

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    • To give you an update, we haven't had any communication. He hasn't tried speaking to me. I haven't tried speaking to him since last time I did, he ignored me.
      I'm still disappointed because I believe he owed me an explanation after a month and a half of seeing each other rather than he completely disappearing on me. I still have feelings for him but I think I'll survive! I know I deserve better.

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      • Araikita

        Thanks for the update! I was so curious as to how it worked out and how you were coping.

        Yes and Yes [surviving this and deserving better].

        You will survive this.

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  • watashikara

    Maybe its similar to the situation at the end of "The Amazing Spiderman"

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  • mashean

    It seems like he is just using you as something to rub up against. Best thing you can do, is move on. Try and find someone who wants to see you, not just text you when he wants sexy times.

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  • shortandtothepoint

    Such sudden rejection not normal.

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  • thegypsysailor

    I don't presume to understand the way you young people relate to each other by texting and tweetying, etc. I find it very impersonal and shallow. It therefor seems normal that terminating these exchanges without much care would be the natural end to such an impersonal and shallow interaction. However, that does not mean that you all should be cruel to one another, though that does seem to consistently be the eventual outcome.
    Try dumping the electronic relationships for the real face to face kind and perhaps things will have a different outcome.

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  • CheekyBabyFace

    I've had a guy friend do this to me and it sucks so badly. Unfornately only time can heal that wound.

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  • Fall_leaves

    People lose interest. That's life. He's not worth holding onto, if he wanted a relationship you two would have been in one by now. Theres a good chance you're not the only girl he's talking to, even if he says you are.

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  • Aliceee93

    It must feel awful :( maybe it's moving to fast for him? Or he's worried that he might get to close and lose you?
    I think what I would do if I was you is tell him how you feel and ask for an answer as to what he wants and then you know where you stand.

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  • Crusades

    Relationships are stupid. Occasional sex, one night stands and quick fucks are normal! It's stupid to limit ourselves to one person only, when there are thousands of potential good fucks around us all the times. It's only natural to explore, an not look behind. I'm all for diversity.

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