Is it normal he stopped asking me to hang out?

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I've known my guy friend for a long time just as acquaintances up until the end of last year, then we began talking more and hanging out.

Around the end of March he started offering me rides home if i needed one, offering to buy me food, and flirting and teasing me,etc...

Anyway, we'd hang out on the weekends and watch doctor who together or just hang out and talk.

Then, he got a full-time job working at a video game store. He works 6 days a week, sometimes 7 if they call him in. 5 of those days he works late until 9 or 10:30. If no one comes in to play magic he'll get fired since that was the main reason he was hired, to run the magic tournaments.

Anyway, ever since he started working he stopped asking me to hang out. I've asked him to hang out a few times, but then he'll just go back to not asking me again.

The only time i see him is if i stop in to say hi if i happen to be at the mall, or when i come by to hang out with my other best friend while he plays magic.

When i see him he's still his same old self, super friendly with me, waves at me, and still picks on me.

Is he just really busy and stressed with work?

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  • icanhascheezburger
    12 years ago

    You probably answered your own question; more then likely he's just really busy and/or stressed at work. Anyways I work 5/6 sometimes 7 days and around 70/80 hrs a week on a regular basis and don't feel like doing anything except relaxing when you get a little time off, so it's probably normal what he's doing.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    Yes it is normal, work can get overwhelming, but the real problem is, that you have not made it clear to him your feelings or even made the effort to schedule a time for just the two if you. Make the effort, before it us way to late!

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    dont feel bad. thats just the way it goes sometomes.. thats life! you could try telling him u miss the time u used to spend, and try to make plans on his day off for something special.

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  • rexdarling
    12 years ago

    I work two jobs and barely have time to hang out with my boyfriend, let alone my close friends. Don't take it personally. Maybe you could find a job in the same mall.

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  • tennisplayer
    12 years ago

    Trust me it's normal. U should schedule a time when he can hangout like that extra day when he's free. If not than tell him to call u when he's free. He jut has a very committing job so I wouldn't worry

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  • imustbnutz
    12 years ago

    its normal...why don't you take him lunch sometime, I am suggesting to do this only once though. And tell him straight up, 'I miss you homie' =D

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  • Vetterman
    12 years ago

    I work 12-19 days straight, upwards of 14 hours per day, then 34 HOURS off. I know I value the time that my friends come over and see me, but with work as much as it is, its rare that I have the energy or time to think much of doing anything with them. Sounds like he is in the same kind of boat,

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Things change when you start working.

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