Is it normal he said he has no feelings for me?

Okay, so the other day I went on my first date with a guy I had hit it off with at a BBQ. He insisted on a very expensive meal, and then as we were leaving told me, "I will be honest with you, I have no feelings for you, and I don't want to misguide you and hurt you." I was crushed, but we continued our date. He insisted on getting coffee, climbing a mountain, and sitting at the very top alone for hours looking at the stars and talking. We told each other all about our past relationships, and our insecurities. When I suggested we go, he said he wanted more time. Then, we walked all the way home, and he took me out to a delicious dinner. When he finally walked me back to my door, I felt quite close to him. Throughout our date he was so protective and gentlemanly, paying for everything, helping me over each barrier, and pulling me away from traffic. He wants to go out again, and yet, we call ourselves "friends". What do you think he meant by having no feelings? Could it be that he really only likes me as a platonic friend?

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Based on 38 votes (21 yes)
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Comments ( 26 )
  • XxBlackSheepxX

    maybe he's not so much into stars but into "rainbows" if you catch my drift

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    • theabider

      Maybe you should spell it out for me, just so I can make sure.

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  • joybird

    Wow!! An honest man!! Never heard of one before!!

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  • He sounds like a really great guy! And if he treats you this great only as a friend, damn!

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    • Fair point. I guess I should be happy, instead of puzzled and confused. :)

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  • SenorHuevos

    maybe hafeeng a sancho weel make heem jealoos, y i kno joos the hombre, ME! SENOR HUEVOS!! AYYYAYAYAYA

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    • If you could speak better English, I might consider it. :)

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  • He said he's not interested in you romantically and you're still questioning if it's anything more? Don't over analyze it; it's women who don't say what they mean -not men.

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    • Thanks. Good point. :)

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  • bubblyblonde1999

    Honestly, in my experience, he really does have feelings for you, he doesn't want to come on to strong and he's just trying to get to know you. I wouldn't worry about it.

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  • regisphilbin

    interesting posts

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  • dmwill

    Maybe he was hurt by somebody recently and is keeping his distance

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    • Yeah, he did tell me that, actually. You are extremely perceptive.

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  • ccjigsaw

    I don't know if I understand this, I'm a girl btw, but my boyfriend being a guy sems to know what he's thinking. He figures the guy is playing you. He says the guy "Knows the techniques" I don't really get it, but you might want to consider it

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    • Thank you. I don't really get it either, but I your bf might have a point.

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  • SoccerStud88

    probably some mindfuck line he read from a dating book. when he said that, you instantly became more attracted to him.

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    • Wow. I never thought of that possibility, but it did kinda sorta work. I never thought I really liked him, until he said that. Then I felt crushed...

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      • SoccerStud88

        i know. i've read/tested/experienced way too much about attraction between men and women. Men are easy...hot chicks turn us on. Woman on the other hand have many different triggers that you gotta hit. i almost feel evil, but it definitely comes in handy for me :)

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  • he might be "using" you for companionship, so what? just pay your own way and enjoy his company and date others too

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    • Well, I tried very hard to pay my own pay, but he doesn't let me. I don't know if it's because he sees me as more than a friend, or if it's because he is Russian, and that is how men treat women there.

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  • Um, he's 20, and in college, so that's highly doubtful. :)

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  • tonsoffun300zx

    maybe he is married and just wants an escape from his home life, if so he dosen't need sex just a friend.

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  • flax

    So you went to dinner twice? Before climbing the mountain and after?

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    • Yeah. Funny, huh?

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  • equanimity

    He could just be using you to pass time.

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    • Perhaps so...:(

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