Is it normal he's so jealous?

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So i've been dating my boydriend for 9months now, he's actually my longest relationship. I'm absolutely infatuated with my boyfriend, I would never think of cheating on him he's really my everything but his lack of trust really bothers and sometimes scares me. I must admit that at the begining it was really cute but now it's just ridiculous. It has gotten to the point where he starts questioning the way i act with my gay friends, wierd or what?! For example tonight a guy that i used to be really good friends with and even call my "brother" or "bestfriend," wrote to me on facebook and simply said "worst bestfriend ever" appointing the fact that i have distanced myself from him since the begining of my relationship but my boyfriend just jumped to the conclusion that im cheating on im. He's not a terrible boyfriend he's super sweet and affectionate it's just when his jealousy kicks in i get scared to lose him but i really dont see what i'm doing wrong..help!

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  • Elliemental
    10 years ago

    I hate jealousy! Does he tell you it's not you he doesn't trust? Just found out my boyfriends tracking my whereabouts! I know I'm hot, smart and funny.....oh n modest lol but insecurity is not sexy! Mistrust is not sexy, n thinking I don't know what's he's doing is just dumb!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I leave the house all the time too, and you spend a lot of time on my computer in the morning too, doing god knows what. Oh, and you went to you "friend" from up the street like one time....

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      Wow if my gf would ever figure out that I was posting here and see my opinion on shit it would be bad news, good luck with this mess Kaiser 88

      and btw girls NEVER have platonic male friends, I would bet both my balls on it that every single one of her friends would do her if given the chance, she is just to naive to notice it.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Bingo.

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      • DanishGirl
        11 years ago

        Hmmmm well then it's safe to say that guys never have platonic girl friends. Basically that's what your saying that girls and guys cannot ever be just friends? I'll have to disagree. Their are actually people out there that value their relationship. This is where trust should come in. Ultimately any relationship is going to end if their isn't any trust in it. The third degree questions get tireless and then it leaves you thinking that the other person is doing something they shouldn't be doing. It's a vicious cycle and a waste of time. People waste so much time worried about what the other person is doing. Bottom line is if you cannot trust the person your with than you shouldn't be with that person. The relationship will never move forward and you'll end up wasting your time.
        Yes my guy thinks a lot differently than me but he hasn't been through what I have as far as relationships goes. He likes to paint a portrait of me sometimes that is not entirely true. I take care of things, as far as dealing with other people, a lot differently. I don't walk around telling people I'm going to break their face. I handle things in an adult matter. It is not the way he would like me to handle things I guess so he in turn thinks it hasn't been taken care of. So I guess the good luck thing should go to him because I won't change how I handle things. I'm not looking to have a brawl with anyone. In turn however, I am by no means naive.

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  • DanishGirl
    11 years ago

    I'm in one of those relationships to except mine has gotten just outright ridiculous at times. I'm just going to say be careful with the whole jealousy thing...It's not right to discontinue relationships with friends that you've had before the relationship. You'll find yourself secluded and alone and missing all of your friends. Friends are so important. If you guys both love each other that just talk about it. let one another know what you expect out of each other and what you want from the relationship...relationships rarely ever work if there's no trust involve. I mean really, who wants to sit there driving themselves crazy worrying about if there partner is cheating on them or not 24/7. Another way to look at it is if they do cheat, than that person wasn't for you anyway...guess who's going to be there in the end if there is an end....YOUR FRIENDS

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      Except when the friends are ones that showed your their dick and referenced fucking you, or the male "friend of the family" who was 100% innocent.... until he asked to see your tits not realizing I was there. It's okay to make someone cut ties with THOSE friends.

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      • DanishGirl
        11 years ago

        never said it wasn't fag...but cutting everyone out of someone's life is wrong..for example you have cut people out of my life that have been my support and strictly my friend just because they send me a smiley face or comment on a post or just simply say hi...you have made it so I have not one male friend and when you were calling my job you were making work very bad for me and ruining my position in that job. You've done a lot more damage in that department than good and that's not what your suppose to do. I'm sorry but I'm so sick of your self-righteous bullshit trying to act like the things you've said and done were okay. There not and the only reason I'm the way I am is because of you. Anyone who knows me well such as family and yes my friends I've managed to keep can see that I have changed and to be honest there was nothing wrong with me. Maybe you need to stop being so critical of everyone else and take a good look at yourself. Usually people who attack other people in any kind of way are people who have some issues with themselves. I'm not going to live my life un-happily and with no social life. You may want to do that I sure don't.

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          So it's okay for you to take away all of my female friends, but I'm not allowed to cut off your male friends? Wow, women logic....

          Oh, and maybe you would have a social life if you left the house once in a while. It's not my fault you don't have friends.

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          • DanishGirl
            11 years ago

            you wanna talk about someone leaving the house...I leave all of the time big guy...and I do have friend right up the street. What about you? you sit on this computer or on your video game all day and night. The reason your friends got cut off is because my friends did. You've managed to take all of my old friends out of my life. It' not normal to come home and be asked if there were other men at the place I was at. You have trust issues and in turn has made me not trust you at all. You think that you have valid points about things but you see the thing is is that you hang on and blame me for what other people say and do. You have no trust for me because your exes have cheated on you. Which you have admitted to me by the way. That's not fair to me. And like I've said before this has become a vicious cycle between the two of us and has caused undo stress in our relationship. Here's my ultimatum you either quit with all of your insane bullshit and stop blaming me for what others do or don't. I guess the decision will be mine than if I want to stick around and be punished for things that were out of my control.

            I'm not in this relationship for it to stay at a stand still and live in the past. If you don't want to move forward than let me know so I can stop wasting my time.

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    Although I don't know the whole story to me it looks a bit like what I have been through with my ex GF. Namely the fact that you are giving other people more attention and deep down want your boyfriend to be somewhat jealous too just to show that he cares which would understandably make you feel better since it would mean he is able to show the same emotions you are going through.

    This is a destructive way to continue with the relationship since you will both start getting annoyed by eachothers' behaviour.

    I think the key is to make clear to him what you do not appreciate when it comes to his behaviour. If he loves you he will try to at least conform to your needs in some way. Just don't try to make him jealous just because you are.

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    Gay or not, your boyfriend shouldn't have to compete with other men for your attention.

    I'm sure you would be upset too if your boyfriend had a bunch of "platonic" female friends chasing after him to get the attention that he's giving you instead.

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    • PapzBSlim
      11 years ago

      I am going to say this to my girlfriend lol. I am jealous but she is way more jealous. I am happy to say that I get my girl's attention when I want and same goes for her.

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    That's some weird reasoning your boyfriend follows. Don't neglect your friends for a guy, it's not worth it. Talk to him about it. You've been together for 9 months, he should be able to trust you by now.

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