Is it normal he got what he wanted and is not happy about it?

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need some advice on how to deal with the situation. I am not ending my relationship over this, for those of you who go for the extremes.

ok so I've been in my relationship for over two years now. I've never been a Barbie looking girl, I've always been on the heavier side (size 12 to be exact) and I'm not ugly either, pretty good looking chick. My boyfriend met me like this and it never seemed to bother him, until he started going to the gym. He stated commenting on my weight, a lot! It wasn't until this February that I got soo sick of his jokes I committed myself to the gym and healthy dieting. I ended up loosing 15lbs so far and it is very noticeable. You would think he would be happy for me right? WRONG! because of the attention I've been getting at school,through Facebook and instagram he's being more possessive than usual, its actually starting to really annoy me. Is this normal? He says I've lost enough but I'm actually looking to loose 25lbs more. I might have started for him but now I'm more motivated than ever and I'm planning to keep going. How can I get him to support me? He brings me so much junk food when I'm trying to stay on track, I think its ridiculous! Any advice??

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    You're right, it is ridiculous.
    I've also heard guys say they don't want their girlfriend to be overly attractive because they are jealous of other guys hitting on them.

    Really what this comes down to is the guy is insecure and doesn't seem to trust you either.

    If he did trust you, he wouldn't be concerned about you having attention from other guys.

    You should continue to work out and he will just have to deal with it, and if he can't, that will be too bad for him.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I would really like to know why you said you don't want to break up with this guy. You two hardly seem compatible and he does not seem very emotionally grown up, whereas you seem to be quite grown up and secure with yourself.
    This is obviously bothering you, or you wouldn't have come on here and opened up. Can you actually imagine that his childishness will just go away and everything will get magically better?
    Sorry, that's just how I see it; good luck.

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  • Vivien5
    10 years ago

    I think that he is in the position to be afraid that he might lose you and that's why he is acting this way. Jealousy may bring someone to the edge of dispair and that's why you should talk seriously with him and tell him that it bothers you the fact that he is not supportive and encouraging in the decision of being more healthy. You should also tell him that you are not changing your old habbits just to atract other guys but because it' better for your health and mind. Tell him that you are not going to replace him and he should chage his attitude. If not, then he's a douchebag and you should leave him as soon as possible. Any other guy would feel great to have a beautiful woman beside him so why wouldn't feel the same?:)

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    You're not ending your relationship over this? I would, and I don't think that's jumping to extremes. I think that's standing up for myself and doing what is best for me.

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  • GOODCHILD
    7 years ago

    I wouldn't make fat jokes about my gf that's fucked

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    I powercrapped myself today

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    If I were you I would not just break up with this guy but put on my running shoes and run, run fast and far away!

    ... and then go have a delicious healthy salad and some lean protein.
    ;-)

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