Is it normal he doesn't love me

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I met this guy through my ex and fell in love with him almost immediatly. It was immediatly apparant we had an incredible connection to the point that my ex took me aside and told me he wouldnt stand in the way of me and this guy being together because it was so obvious even to him. me and the guy then ended up having sex but right after that i had to move away for work and we didnt see each other for nearly a year - then we met up and now we are best friends. but he doesnt want to sleep with me. it felt like things were different with us the first time we met up again, and i no longer felt it was apropriate for me to show my attraction to him but over time it got so unbearable i felt had to so i told him i still wanted to get with him and i asked him what happened and he said things just changed and its not like that for him with us anymore. but i still feel the same love i felt for him when we slept together almost 3 years ago and it is killing me. i dont think im great or anything but we get on so well and share so much i dont understand why he doesnt love me and im so depressed about it.

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  • AwkwardLemonJuice
    9 years ago | pl

    You don't understand?.. Well it's very simple my dear.. He does not have those feelings for you.. Well not anymore, that's how life goes. He could be all crazy about someone else, i mean really who knows?. Move on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I like how you got 7 thumbs up for just repeating what I said.

      I know he doesn't have the same feelings. In fact, you know that because I know it and I told it to you. What I was asking, is why.

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      • Karmasbitch
        9 years ago

        You seem obsessive, for one.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Yeah. I changed certain details of the story to make it less recognisable if he happens to stumble across it - it hasnt been going on as long as I said. On the other hand, it's very difficult to fall out of love with someone when you're also so close to them, if it was any other guy I'd just stop seeing him so that I could move on, but it feels unfair to withdraw my friendship just because I have feelings for him which he doesn't reciprocate. So that makes it tricky.

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          • Karmasbitch
            9 years ago

            yeh.. I dont know. Id proably talk to the person about it, until its concluded.

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  • EccentricWeird
    9 years ago

    (Note: If some girl/boy just broke your heart, or you're insecure about your penis size, then trust us, it's normal. Please do not ask again.)

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    • RegGuy
      9 years ago

      I chuckled when I read this.

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      • EccentricWeird
        9 years ago

        Most people just say "lol".

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        • RegGuy
          9 years ago

          I am not most people. *lofty sniff*

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          • EccentricWeird
            9 years ago

            You're a snooty guy, Reggie.

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    Yes, unrequited love is a normal and common experience.

    It doesn't matter how amazing and compatible you are, if he doesn't feel it, he doesn't feel it.

    Move on.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    I'm sorry he is no longer seduceable. Sounds like a wonderful fuck. Life goes on, I guess.

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    Darn those brain chemicals! You desired one another because you couldn't have each other and... who doesn't want what they can't have? I hope, for the future, you've learned not to put so much weight into impulsive desires.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      The double negative in the middle of your comment is confounding me. I'm literally mesmerised by it. Do I not want what I can't have? Can't I not want what I do have? Want I not can't who I do who?

      ...wuh

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      • Freedom_
        9 years ago

        Ass, ass. Titty, titty.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    People change. That's all I can think of. Or maybe he's gay now... It's possible, isn't it?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    it's sad but he probly wants to play the field

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  • Merica7460
    9 years ago

    If he's single and won't fuck you it's most likely because you got ugly, fat, the sex was terrible, or you are super clingy to the point where an orgasm isn't worth it. I'm being 100% serious. Hope that helps :/

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Hey, thanks for the comment, I appreciate the insight - I think you're probably right, I made it too clear that I want a relationship and he doesn't. I know it wasn't that the sex was bad (when I told him I have feelings for him, it was actually because he was reminiscing with me about how good our sex was), I'm lighter than when we got with each other but otherwise look the same, and he's never had a girlfriend before because they always want more than a casual thing and he doesn't, so that makes sense. Sounds obvious but it's always easier to understand when someone else says it, so thank you! Peace out

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