Is it normal he doesn't like me cuz i'm not pretty enough?

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I'm ...something, with this guy, Lee. We met through a mutual friend and we're not exactly friend-friends as theres been sexual tension there since we first met. We have an incredible connection - the only person I know who I get on that well with is with my little brother. The first time I met him we stayed up til 6am talking and we've done that every time I've seen him since. We just have so much to say to each other. He said that he feels the same amazing connection with me. But he just doesn't make a move. He's not an amazing looking guy, although I find him incredibly attractive, but the girls hes dated have been incredibly beautiful. I'm a good looking girl but I veer towards being hot or sexy rather than beautiful - I'm an 8/10, they are both 10s. I know he finds me attractive (our mutual friend has said so) but just not enough. Mutual friend has also said "I know he likes you- just not as much as you like him" (mutual friend is male, definitely not jealous, and being completely honest). Lee is into this other girl Janine - she is, again, beautiful, 10/10, but kind of annoying and not very clever - Lee is quite a critical, cool kind of guy and if she wasn't stunning she's the sort of girl who would piss him right off (objective opinion. I don't have any antagonism towards her, as she can't help that he likes her).

We get on like a house on fire - is it normal for him not to like me simply because I'm not as pretty as Janine even though we get on so well and I'm far from ugly? Would you choose a stunning girl with an average personality over a pretty hot (but not stunning) girl with an amazing one? (not saying I am amazing, just that I am amazing when I'm with him).

I'd choose the beautiful girl -her personalities ok, n looks come 1st 3
I'd choose the girl I connect with, as long as shes still attractive 28
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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    God he seems to have extremely high standards. If I met someone who was an "8/10" and we had an amazing connection I wouldn't even consider anyone else.

    If his standards really are that high, then I personally wouldn't be comfortable with that. I'd feel a pressure to be perfect 24/7. That's just my opinion though.

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  • tellmeimwrong
    11 years ago

    He's obviously playing you so he can sleep with you. Trust me I used to do the same exact thing. I'm an incredible actor and writer so you can understand how easy it is to make girls feel a connection that seems genuine then I'd sleep with them and goodbye. This is only making you feel this way, it's part of it, he's making you unsure about yourself making you more vulnerable to sex because your feeling self conscious. Don't let him win, or ignore me I'm right on this one.

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  • DannyKanes
    11 years ago

    Sorry, but I don't think he's worth your time. Find someone else. You're his second choice and that type of crap's not acceptable.

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  • azestypanda
    10 years ago

    This is not new!

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  • hootiemomma
    11 years ago

    Looks fade. Looks are skin deep. There is so much MORE to a person than looks. If you are just looking for a booty call...ok...looks are fine. If you want a relationship...looks are on the low end of the priority list.

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  • kerk_
    11 years ago

    He might just be playing with you. If your beauty is the sole reason for his attraction toward you, he won't stay faithful to you if you're perfect 10 and after all beauty isn't forever.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Depends on if he's just lookign for sex or not I guess. If I were out to get laid, I'd go with hottie mc big tits. If I wanted a relationship, I'd go for the pretty one with the nice personality

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  • buttons
    11 years ago

    "I need more details to assess the situation"
    LOL

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  • blaster
    11 years ago

    Yeah dunno bout that one , maybe she's just trying to describe herself for us, if she didn't we'd have to ask. But hey , a girl must have at least a rough idea of how she looks.
    Anyway m he sounds like a tool. Girls can still be gorgeous with out being super models , there's so many things that can make anyone cute or hot or attractive. It's not all just looks.
    Sorry but don't think his into you tho.

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    you should familiarize yourself with the mendoza diagonal. a girl can be 'x' amount of crazy as long as she is 'y' amount of hot. but as long as she is above this line, it comes to a matter of who is the better person/ one you'd rather be around emotionally.

    the above is how picking a relationship works, BUT like tellmeimwrong said, he probably just wants to sleep around.

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  • ☭алин
    11 years ago

    So basically you say he is not attracted to you, big deal people have preferences, maybe it's not even to do with appearance, but that he likes you enough not to think of you in that way.

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  • tellmeimwrong
    11 years ago

    Also if a girl is as cocky as you, guys like me and your friend feel obligated to crush you because it's beyond fucking annoying ng. Far from ugly? How do you know? See that attitude would make me crush your whole ego into oblivion.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I'm not being cocky, I'm just trying to give an accurate description. There's no point pretending to be ugly when I'm not, and my looks are relevant to this story. If I was a 5 this would be a completely different story.

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      • tellmeimwrong
        11 years ago

        I know TENS that are so modest, who never bring up their looks. I know girls better looking than Aishwarya rai and don't ever mention it, that's true beauty.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Well, if you knew these TENS on the internet and they never brought up their looks, you wouldn't know that they were TENS, and if they posted a story about some dude not being attracted to them you might assume they were ZEROS and leave an unhelpful and irrelevant comment.

          Grow the fuck up dude. As an incredibly modest "amazing writer and actor" yourself, I'm sure you understand that when you're writing characters, a physical description of those characters is important.

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