Is it normal he barely shows me he misses me?

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I haven't seen my boyfriend in two weeks...I feel like I might be overreacting, I know it's not months or years...He lives about 20 minutes by car away and we both have our own lives but I feel like I am the only one actually willing to work a bit for us to meet...He'll say he'd miss me but then when asked to actually do something I end up waiting for a day he has time for me...like wtf? And I'm aparently "desperate"...I just miss having him around and his way of acting like it's not happening it's driving me insane...

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Talk to him about it.

    If he dismisses your feelings and keep putting you to the side, then end the relationship.

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  • Sophie12345
    7 years ago

    I think that you need him and he is busy sometimes. Maybe he needs some space or something else. But you're right, every girl needs to be loved by his boyfriend, he needs to be by your side, holding you closer. If you want to talk to him about it, just tell him.

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  • Brett_Keane
    7 years ago

    The individual in question is probably cheating on you situation. Once, I cheated on my wife Dorn. I was able to do that situation because on my startling good looks. Look at my profile situation if you don't believe me.

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  • jethro
    7 years ago

    I would say that it is time to break off the exclusive part of your relationship. When you have time, perhaps you can see him. Until then, find someone new to devote your efforts and time to.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    7 years ago

    I have had days where I'd send just a text...and he didn't even bother to answer to that one...I am not chasing...I am mostly replying...I got quite scared of calling knowing he'd never be in the mood....it's quite heartbreaking knowing we used to text all day long no matter how busy...I started work and he has work at home...but it still doesn't justify it in my head...

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  • Fall_leaves
    7 years ago

    If you have to chase after him to get his attention then it isn't worth it in the first place.

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  • Dreamsao
    7 years ago

    I think if you stop calling and texting constantly, he'll fall back into your arms. We run from things that chase us and towards things that run from us. Human nature.

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    he's playing wit u ...we chase the things that recede from us...

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    He has made his attention harder to get and therefore, more valuable. It may not make sense, but you are more attacted to him now than if you saw him each day.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Actually I feel more and more that I should end this...my love has not changed...my mind is just more willing to let him go

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        I never mentioned anything about love. Keep this in mind: in a relationship, the 'neediness' is never equal. The best and healthiest relationships are where the guy is less needy, where he texts less often and has a busier schedule. It frustrates girls but it makes his commitment that much more valuable.

        Ideally he mixes up hot and cold moments, and two weeks is too long for a boyfriend/girlfriend setup. I'm working against the guy now but if you decide to break up, do it cleanly and don't take him back.

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        • empty.heart
          7 years ago

          I don't agree there is a certain way to act or feel for a gender. We are all different and so are relationships. Saying one must behave a certain way for such things is naive

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          • riffraffy
            7 years ago

            You hold a recent trend of thought that seems to downplay gender. And when I mean gender I mean over a decade of getting pumped with different hormones, powerful chemicals, starting three weeks after the child is born.

            I go a morning without coffee and I feel completely different, an evening of drinking too much and I feel silly. Testosterone and estrogen are far more powerful than caffeine and ethanol. They change your body and they also change your mind. You may not agree and that's fine, but by the time a boy and a girl are ready for a relationship, they're very different people from chemicals alone.

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            • empty.heart
              7 years ago

              Didn't mean to say they are not very important, but they can't define it entirely

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          • Mr.PenisFAGGOT
            7 years ago

            Sorry, but you are in denial of how people, specifically women, behave in relationships. Women may talk and talk and talk about how they want "more attention" or a "nice guy" but their behaviors towards those same type of guys tell a very different story.

            The man who "plays the game" and makes the woman work for his affection is far more successful with women than the guy who is constantly in contact with her. In the movies the "nice guy" may get the girl, but real life is far different. This isn't totally cut and dry and the scenario doesn't ALWAYS work this way...but it does happen far more than it doesn't....

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  • ay.mari
    7 years ago

    Maybe you should talk to him. I mean, this happened to me in my previous relationship. I was paranoid as fuck but I had to leave him because I was always scared of him cheating etc. So I had to cut the string and move on to someone who would pay me attention.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I trust him on the cheating side, I wouldn't stick around if I didn't...My fear is that he stopped caring about me...texting less and less, dissmissing my fear callind it annoying and being always upset on the phone...I'm worried about him and he acts like I'm being to needy...but I'm worried and can't help it

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        7 years ago

        Calling* Too*

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