Is it normal have mental breakdowns over little things?

I think that you have some good qualities because you have a good heart. There's one thing though, your kindness is disguised for self acceptance. I think that you make it a point to be nice to others because you are not so nice to yourself. If you put more time into making sure that you are happy then you will not be concentrating so much on what others think. Try to find little things in yourself that you can find some comfort in, like this.....say to yourself...., I do silly things and everyone does silly things, I am not the smartest person in the world but I am smart enough, If I make a mistake that's okay cause everyone makes mistakes..... I don't think it is abnormal behavior however it is not healthy behavior. write down what it is that you do not like about yourself or what it is that makes you upset, then say it out loud and follow it with a positive affirmation. I don't really think that what you are looking for is a answer whether it is normal or not, but I think you need some help feeling good about yourself, you should start feeling better about yourself, there's no reason not to, unless you are holding yourself back. I am not trying to badger you, I can relate, I beat myself up all the time when something happens that I don't understand, so I tell myself "it is going to be okay and I will figure this out and I do not deserve to beat myself up about it" the more times I did this, the more it became second nature. I didn't stop caring about things altogether, I just realized when there was something I couldn't control, it wasn't such a good idea to beat myself up about because I want to be happy.

sounds like you have a problem with people pleasing. nothing wrong with wanting to be like and do things well, but i dont think going to pieces over this is very good, since sometimes people dont click and it can be out of your hands if someone likes what you have said or done.

Is it normal? Yep. Is it healthy? Probably not. I used to be like that and realized that it was a way of my body and mind telling me I was depressed. I decided to focus on the little things because I couldn't identify a problem in the bigger picture.

I do that alot too..i think it's normal. :)

I totally feel the same way and I would love to know how to overcome that and of course insecurity/jealousy problem as well. Maybe we just have our times when we feel that we are just not good enough or atleast I know I do. Or maybe that no matter what we do it just doesnt even matter good or bad right or wrong. Im a Christian and I have even prayed about this problem but I feel that it must take more than praying cus the problems are still there if not getting worse.