Is it normal guys get turned off by my health problem?

I have abnormally low blood pressure. Because of this I don't drink much and I wear warm clothes because I get cold before anyone else. It's not like I need medication for it, I just deal with it.

This has caused some problems with me and the men folk.

I live in the north east coast so the weather can go from pleasant to cold rapidly. And when I'm standing out there only slightly under dressed I start shivering. It's involuntary. And I'm the only one too. I get a lot of "Is there something wrong with you?" It's just such an obvious reaction and it makes me awkward.

And not drinking brings up a slew of tiny issues that add up. Like I'm not a fun person. And I can't really meet guys at bars (or when I do it's just really awkward.)

When I get cold my core body temperature lowers. (I'll admit mild hypothermia isn't a stranger to me) I'm used to getting cold so I don't always notice it. But my last boyfriend did say he kinda dreaded holding my hand cause it was normally freezing. Hearing that hurt. For awhile I was afraid to touch him in bed.

As far as health problems go low blood pressure is not that bad. But it is a little obvious. So people notice. Sometimes I just want everyone to know that I'm normal and my daily life isn't hindered in anyway.

I'm young, I've been told that I'm pretty, I can get a few laughs with my wit, and I'm capable of love. But when I think that a part of me I can't change (a part of me I don't see a fault in) is extremely undesirable, it brings me down. is it normal that they avoid me?

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35% Normal
Based on 71 votes (25 yes)
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Comments ( 26 )
  • penpal21

    A real man would not be even remotely bothered by anything you've written. Keep looking and you will find the right one.

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    • RoyRogers

      This

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  • lulzpool

    Where do you live on the east coast? I'm abnormally warm. You can be the ying to my yang <3

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  • cp123

    I can't see why a guy would avoid you for naturally being a "cold" person. You most definitely can find a guy who will love and accept you for the way you are. Also, you can still go to bars, just order a cranberry or orange juice... You can be a fun person, even if you don't drink.

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  • I like it when a woman doesn't drink. You being colder and need some warming is just a better excuse to cuddle with you and warm you up all the time! :) I truly don't see how those two things could have brought you problems with guys, I think of it as the opposite of problems. The men you were with can't appreciate anything, their loss. You're perfectly normal, don't worry about it. I'm sure you'll meet someone who thinks like I do about what you think is a problem.

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  • ygrowup

    A great guy won't hardly even notice or will be put off by it!

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  • dappled

    God, that sounds familiar. My first proper girlfriend suffered too. She always had the heating set to mad temperatures that made me uncomfortable (I'm generally slightly too warm). It took us ages to realise that if I was too warm and she was too cold, we were automatically each other's temperature regulation, and we just needed to become more limpet-like. I hope you find that too.

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  • sandinmyambergerbuns

    i would go to a doctor about this blood pressure problem. its a medical issue so you should get medical attention

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    • I have talked to a doctor. It's not a serious problem. But when you get uncontrollable shakes and are cold to touch people assume that it is. I'm pretty healthy, I just get cold.

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      • MissClaire

        You just havent met the right person yet! It will happen, you sound lovely!

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      • You know what they say, " cold hands; warm heart"

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  • DemonicFortuneCookie

    Move south.

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  • fullhouse

    You seem to have low self esteem. Wake up! There's nothing wrong with you. So you get cold easily n dont drink, is it abnormal? No! I like the thought of holding a girl's cold hands, it's not an issue at all! Be strong, You are what you believe u are

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  • pixie_dust

    I think you need to, first work on yourself. Don't even worry about or anticipate dating of or a significant other. You ought to try to eat healthier while at the same time start SOME kind of exercise. By healthier, I mean, no processed foods, drink green tea or dandelion tea or something like that, find fruits and veggies you like. Once you feel better physically, you will have energy to do something like walking or SOME kind of physical activity. If you feel lonely, a dog would do wonders for you. And as far as finding a man, it'll be a lot easier, you'll have more than you want once it shows you care about yourself. Caring about and taking care of yourself and/or self confidence is one of the sexiest and attractive things there is, more than looks.

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  • hungamungabinga

    when you meet the right guy he will love you for you. and plus he'll cuddle with you to warm you up:) keep you head held high:)

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  • SAEH

    I would love to warm you up baby

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  • They should want to warm you up:3

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  • Pooter1111

    Put on a jacket and some socks

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  • jman2.0

    Move to florida

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  • bubble135246

    A man is very cruel if he dislikes a girl because of her health conditons. Keep searching for a nice guy :)

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  • misguidedghost999

    Come on. Something is very wrong with the average man now a days if this causes problems. Youre perfectly normal and I dont see a problem with it at all.

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  • TyLee

    I have the same exact problem. I am always cold and my first boyfriend didn't believe that I was shaking from a health problem he thought that I was lying and actually had a problem. Things ended pretty quickly. Also the school nurse said that she didn't believe that I needed to choose an indoor gym class rather than an outdoor gym class. People still think how I shake and shiver in the cold is weird. The truth is that I have the same thing as you and it has really annoyed me more than people would imagine. This is a bit unrelated but I also had liver problems last fall from malnutrition (which makes the cold situation much worse) and my boyfriend was really put off by it. Well I guess I understand because the white part of my eyes turned yellow which is gross, I never had any saliva lol but still. We ended up breaking up because he didn't like that at times I didn't have enough energy and didn't enjoy things like drinking... (keep in mind my liver was failing) Anyway as for the cold situation I know what you are going through but a decent guy wouldn't care about things like that. You need to find a guy who respects you and your temperature needs lol

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  • blackfish

    Sorry I meant to click no, don't worry about it. Maybe you should consider some medication to raise it up a bit, but otherwise, don't waste your time worrying about something so small. :)

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  • chaosdragoon1

    If anything, that gives a guy an easy to cuddle with you, lol. I know I would like that.

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  • piman

    Find someone with a similar problem! Then you won't get judged.

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  • Tisgranum

    I think you worry more than there is an actual problem. You're kind of jinxing yourself by putting stoppers out there; my guess anyway.

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