Is it normal friend zone
Is it normal if I friend zone every guy that has told me they like me?
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49% Normal
Based on 53 votes
(26 yes)
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Tyler_D
Yes, normal. Many women likes the opposite. They want that they are the one who says that they like a guy. They want a 'chase'.
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AtomicCollider
I can't believe more people voted "no" on this. This is completely normal. Happens almost every time.
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Pinnacle
I never openly tell a woman that I like her. Small talk with subtle hints is typically all that's needed to interpret if a woman is interested, followed by engaging in some kind of afterhours activity that will lead us to a more private setting.
I learned long ago that not one single woman should merit my full, undivided attention. The moment I started viewing women as merely accessorial up to ignoring all their trivial needs, was when they seemed to start putting me on some kind of imaginary pedestal.
Honestly, it semems like the best a man can do to tackle a modern women nowadays is to not use weak, meaningless words such as 'like' or 'love' with them. I will tell her that "I love steak" but certainly not that "I love her". No woman is interest in a man that can be decyphered in the first 5 minutes.
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mystery7
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Hayze
Friend zone is a term I use when I like a man as a friend but not romantically. It is not a penalty box I choose to put them in.
So I think your problem is *very* normal.
It just is not that common for appropriate men to make themselves known and start befriending me. Maybe I am doing something wrong. I feel grateful that I get a lot of positive attention which is really good for a healthy self esteem, but rarely from anybody remotely likely to receive reciprocal interest from me.
Yeah... I even considered that maybe I am bisexual and that is the reason why there are not a lot of attractive men around. Far more likely explanation is that I live in a tiny Norwegian town and most men in their 30s here are already taken.
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[Old Memory]
"Friend zone is a term I use when I like a man as a friend but not romantically. It is not a penalty box I choose to put them in."
You don't understand males then because to be put in the 'friend zone' IS putting them in a penalty box *unless you are an unattractive female in which case most males won't care*.
"So I think your problem is *very* normal."
Nope. Just because a guys tells her he likes her no matter who the guy is she doesn't like him back. That's so not normal. It says a lot about her and her issues.
"It just is not that common for appropriate men to make themselves known and start befriending me. "
If guys aren't flirting with you and letting you know they want sex it generally means you're not very attractive or you are attractive but you're not flirting back. Guys that do that aren't being inappropriate they are being honest and letting you know exactly what they want from you. Other guys lack balls and skill to do it so they pussy out and try to become your friend first - assuming they are attracted to you.
You really are clueless how guys are.
Guys think with their dicks. They want to get laid.They don't meet a girl and try to become her friend because you both have things in common. That's so naive for you to think that way. They pretend to befriend you because they have no skill in closing and getting laid.
The truth is guys and girls are very different creatures so there's hardly anything in common. Certainly WAY less than a same sexed friendship. Guys always know other guys to hang out with and chase girls or drink and watch the game or whatever if that's what they want.
"Maybe I am doing something wrong. I feel grateful that I get a lot of positive attention which is really good for a healthy self esteem, but rarely from anybody remotely likely to receive reciprocal interest from me."
Just because you're picky doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong.
I hardly date/fuck any of the girls that come after me and I'm a horny guy. I am very picky, it's just the way I am.
I want quality not quantity.Next I'll say don't put your future relationship and happiness into the guy's responsibility.
You girls are so lame about this. It's probably my least liked thing about you girls. Most of you always want a guy to make the first move/connection. It's so lame.If you like a guy go after him. Go flirt with him, smile, talk to him.
Guys love that shit and the more you do it, the better the odds you'll get a great one or at least fuck a hot one."Yeah... I even considered that maybe I am bisexual and that is the reason why there are not a lot of attractive men around. "
Wow you are so clueless!
Guys don't seek out bisexual women and they often don't care. Guys go for :1. Hot looking girls if they can get them.
2. Girls they think they can fuck.
3. Whatever girl that offers themselves to him."Far more likely explanation is that I live in a tiny Norwegian town and most men in their 30s here are already taken."
If you're female and can't get a good guy it's most likely because you don't have a pleasant personality. Even ugly fat girls get guys if they're fun and smile and flirt.
The deal is personality is 99% of dating.
Most guys are scared to approach a girl especially if she's not smiling having fun making herself approachable. When you like a guy, look at him and smile at him when he's looking at you. If he likes you and he has any confidence he'll smile back and maybe come over and talk to you. If he doesn't come over wave him over while smiling or go up to him.It sounds like you're putting your future happiness all on the guy and I've got news for you some great guys won't approach girls because they want the girl to approach him or they're just too shy.
Guys are so horny and lonely there's no reason for any girl to be alone.
So obviously you're doing things wrong.Think about this:
Go out tonight or this weekend and find the ugliest chick in the bar.
Guess what, if she wants to get laid or get a new boyfriend she can because the bar is full of horny desperate guys trying to get laid and some even want a relationship.NO excuse for you if you want to be with a guy.
Seriously.
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[Old Memory]
It's really not normal for you to internally not like a guy just because he says he likes you.
You probably have low self worth and because of that you can't value a guy that values you because you yourself don't value you (much).
What you're basically doing is setting yourself up for failure because you'll only date guys who don't really care about you.
As someone else suggested you might be afraid or feel unworthy of a real quality guy / relationship. That's often common for girls under 25. They're still trying to figure themselves out much less dating and who they want to be with.
Immature girls often do like a challenge.
Mature girls know well enough to accept a great guy when he comes along.Don't know how old you are but you sound young to me and you're a virgin?
If you're not a virgin maybe you've had a really bad breakup / got hurt?
Not normal.
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Energy
I hate that word so much. It's just an excuse for being rejected. I never understood my bros who got all sad and whiny over being "frinedzoned". Just move on man, she's not into you like that.
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Holzman_67
It's been a challenge, being a guy over the years. The girls I am interested in I have had to act not interested in, whereas the ones I'm not interested in are interested in me.
It's a crazy thing, this love thing. Musical artists have been trying to work it out for years, along with the rest of us.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
macaroniheyo
That's kind of like me too. I don't know about you, but I would be scared shitless if I were to go on a date, and I think that's my problem.
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millefeuille
You have your reasons. But I think it's best you explain to those 'friend-zonees' as to why you rejected them. Because some may get real bitter about it and you gotta let them down easy.
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