Is it normal for your rapist to ask you to date?

Yes rapists are horrible people and he doesn't respect you and wants to keep abusing you. You should block him everywhere! Get a restraining order if he keeps bothering you!
Abusers always pull the "ive changed"-card or tries to act like they have. Just the fact that he makes fun of the rape shows he hasn't changed and would easily do it again.
Do NOT fall for any of his games, don't let him get in your head. Tell him to fuck off and then block him.

I think you should get a restraining order, because this guy is not your true friend. A true friend would have heard, and respected you when you said, "no"!

If this were me I would block them on all platforms and I would block their phone number.

Not pure? Ruined?

Naw dude.

This guy seems like a real shitbag and you don’t seem like you want to be around him. I’d ignore him all together. Leave that shit in the past.

If you got the law involved I would not contact him at all. You should never talk to him again about it. Contrary to what your therapists will say the best thing to do is stop thinking about it. You arent gonna talk it out and you see it differently. You gotta just never think of it again and every now and then itll pop up and you'll say "oh yeah I forgot about that. Oh well, long time ago"

You havent been destroyed. I think you are looking at it the wrong way. Its not the rape that has messed with your mind its the way you perceive it. The more you talk about it the more you'll think about it the more you'll feel sick about it. Dont let these therapists say you need to confront your feelings. Just stop thinking about it

First and most I'm sorry your childhood was taken by someone who should have gotten his ass whoop so hard that everytime he closed his eyes he see my 14 inch boot kicking him in his face!!!!! Second its truly is not your fault regardless how you look at 11 or flaunting. thirdly NO kick his ass to curb block him from your life and fine a nice young man that will love you regardless what happen, we all have a past it's the future that defines us,you are beautiful and a sexy young lady that's your hole life is ahead of you go make it yours, cause I'm not an education man but everytime you look at this person past and pain will come up .so my advice move on he's a looser and a rapist!!!!

Look, I don't think I even need to say "fuck this guy" but fuck him. Have nothing to do with him.

What I really want to say is that you are not "ruined", less "pure", or in any way of less value whatsofuckingever. Thinking that way is just allowing the experience to continue to rape you.

I have been with women who have been raped and I absolutely promise you they were not damaged goods or some bullshit like that in my mind. It's not people being just trying to be nice. Most men seriously don't think that way.

In fact if it was a woman's only "experience" I wouldn't even see them as not being a virgin. Nonconsensual encounters absolutely do not count and even consensual encounters do not "ruin" you. You are a person, a human being, and all that matters is what kind of person you are and who you want to be, none of that other BS.

Anyone who wouldn't want to date a "raped girl" is probably the sort of person who would rape a girl. To be honest, the only effect this is even going to have on normal men is them going the extra mile to make sure you're comfortable, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. You can be every bit as special to someone as you want to be. I promise.

I'm really mixed with this as I'm really mixed with my own rape. Like the OP, my rapist was known to me. He was my first serious boyfriend and we had been talking marriage and stuff. I had planned on losing my V-card to him EVENTUALLY. I did NOT like the way he forced himself on me. This messed me up even more because I had huge rape fantasies at the time. For me, the imaginary rapists were always strangers and never anyone I trusted.

I broke up with him over it but I let him get me back after a little over a month. Things were better but then he did it again. I was PISSED and very disappointed with him when he did it again because I knew it was over for good. My parents didn't know what happened but they knew it was something serious. When I asked to go stay with my cousins out of state they let me. I lived with my cousins for a year. While I was gone I heard my ex was trying to track me down as he wanted to win me back again. I was still hurt and upset but part of me was hoping he'd find me and romantically get me back.

After I got back I met and dated another and then met my husband. More stuff happened with my whole ex situation, but anyway, of all my exes, I miss him the most and wish he didn't mess it all up for us.

He is the guy I stalk on the internet. He spent time in prison for domestic violence. He lost his looks and hair and got a bunch of tattoos. No surprises here but I still really want to 'accidentally' bump into him and catch up. So, like the OP I get the longing for closure but I also get the warnings from the other people here

Virtually every kid who's ever lived has done at least some stupid stuff. Sometimes messed-up kids do things that are so screwed up that their victims have huge problems dealing with the immediate trauma and long-term consequences of it.

I can't really agree with your assertion that someone who rapes will inevitably do it again. Sexual predators do exist, but most people are capable of learning that their past actions were unacceptable, gaining some appreciation of how their actions affected others in a negative way, and changing their attitudes and behaviour.

But from what you say, it sounds like the guy who assaulted you still doesn't accept that what he did was wrong. He was a stupid thirteen-year-old kid when the incident happened, but he's twenty now and he should have developed some degree of emotional maturity. It sounds like he hasn't. If he was at all empathetic and capable of feeling shame, he would be doing his best to avoid you completely. It's possible he has strong psychopathic traits; people wired that way are incapable of feeling ashamed about anything they do, and in their heads, other people exist only to be used.

It would be extremely stupid of you to have any contact with this guy, but surely you realise that already. If you feel drawn to him, that could be because psychopaths are very good at manipulating people. But you might consider whether it could be the case that you're so heavily invested in your delusion of being an "impure, ruined girl" that you're actually looking for confirmation of that.