Is it normal for your girlfriend to get annoyed/upset by everything

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My girlfriend throws tantrums and ignores me whenever I do the slightest things. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells with her. And she causes me to spite her.

- When I have an opinion about something, though it's just an opinion, and not true feelings, she'll judge my character.

- I emailed her a song, though we said goodnight, and she told me how she loved it. I thought that was the end of the conversation at that last email of her telling me she loved it. But she got annoyed because I didn't reply to her last email. Why would she get mad if that was something she wasn't expecting in the first place?

- She told me to answer a question, and I answered. And this was a question on a site where many people answered. Most people answers were similar to mine but she got upset with me for my answer.

- I was late coming to talk to her on the phone, and she got pissed. I ran late because I was talking to her a bit before I went to shower, and I told her I'd be back in 15 minutes. I came back in 30 minutes because I showered, got dressed, cleaned the bathroom, and checked one of her emails. And she still was pissed.

- She gets mad when I find things funny that she doesn't find funny. And I get scared to laugh at what I use to laugh at before I was with her.

- I said I thought I saw a comment on a site where I thought someone called her a slut, and she was pissed because she felt that's how I felt about her.

It drives me crazy! I feel crazy, and I feel like a bad person because she always feels offended!

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    That's a perfect example of an unhealthy relationship. She's too easily offended, it doesn't make you a bad person if you never said/did anything bad to her. My brother's ex was crazy too; she'd flip out and punch him in the mouth over anything. He finally broke up with her after 3 years. Do what you want, but I think it would be for the best if you separated.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    Eject. Eject now before she sucks any more life out of you.

    It sounds like she has an unrealistic script written up for exactly what you should do, say, and think. and when you deviate from this script she thinks it somehow means something important, and therefore she has to yell at you for it.

    What are you getting from her that is so worth this childish drama? For she IS being childish.

    I would honesty just eject from the relationship
    And be prepared to block her online

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  • iLikeCarrots
    12 years ago

    BITCHES BE CRAZY'

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  • -WhySoSerious-
    12 years ago

    she's got you by the balls mate.

    Get her the fuck out before she declares full ownership of them.

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  • flax
    12 years ago

    Get rid of it.

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  • Garglemysac
    12 years ago

    Sluts are crazy, but it beats jacking off.

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    • TareBear20
      12 years ago

      haha ^_^

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  • aurora23
    12 years ago

    i know someone who was in this sorta situation, his gf didn't really trust him around friends(of the girl sort) but i think it was 'cause of her own guilty conscience. Anywho, tell her what you think! If it gets worked out, great, if it doesn't then find somebody better for yourself !

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  • kyanviado
    12 years ago

    She needs to go before its really begins to affect you mentally like mania or depression.

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  • moomus
    12 years ago

    She's insecure about something. Whether you stick around to find out what is up to you. She might be scared of losing you so she acts this way as not to feel a fool if you do end it? Catch 22 I know, but it happens. But the other replies are right and you need to do something about it. Either talk to her and have a proper heart to heart or just walk. Depends on how much you feel for her.

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    Yah, I think you two need to separate. It'll be for the best

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  • westcoastdude
    7 years ago

    Hey man, she acts like my ex. Note the word "ex". I can feel your pain, I went through it for a year and a half, because when she wasn't acting like that she was actually quite cool. Turns out she had Borderline Personality Disorder. It's quite common for women - around 1 in 25 have it.

    Either way, her behavior isn't childish - it's emotionally abusive. Normal people do not react to insecurity by hurting another. They state they are insecure and deal with their feelings. A woman who bullies and demeans her man because she is insecure shows an emotional development level of a child.

    Good luck. Like others have said... Eject.

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  • hoping4best
    12 years ago

    And i agree with what moomus has said :)

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  • hoping4best
    12 years ago

    I think She's feeling insecure and may be wants more attention from u. If u love her, if u feel for her and really want to make things better between you n her..then have a heart to heart conversation with her. Make her comfortable, lighten up her mood, n then ask her what is it that is bothering her? Ask her whats it she feels missing that if present would make her happy. Ask her does she love u enough. BUT do this only if u love her enough :) if Not..walk away!

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    Unfortunately alot of people end up in this situation, men and women alike. Most of these people aren't even aware they're doing it. It's called controlling, and if you put up with it thinking she's a catch then she's successfully brain washing you. You have to tell her, and not in a way that will offend her. Play on her heart strings and really let her know how your feeling. Aka make her aware how it's affecting you

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  • qwerty1212
    12 years ago

    Shes insecure,i use to be the same way or probly srill nut im trying to stop

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    Oh god she seems like an insecure whiny brat. I'm sorry but theres so many great girls out there whom are single and would love a boyfriend like you

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  • TareBear20
    12 years ago

    She's a bitch! Leave her ass in the cold.

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  • Sweetz
    12 years ago

    If you stick any longer you'll be her ventriloquist puppet. She'll control you however she wants.

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  • Inspector019
    12 years ago

    def not normal...she has insecurity issues that only she can fix. If you can't be happy with how she is now...then you should get out of the situation. There is no way of knowing if she can or wil change. She is how she is, so if you can't accept that. completely (I wouldn't blame you if you couldn't)..then don't risk it in hopes she will change. Chances are..she won't.

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  • admirer
    12 years ago

    Usually, if I'm just truly over someone & everything they are even though none of it may be bad -I'm just over it-, I ignore them.
    I act exactly how I feel. Disinterested.
    I won't bother to respond to anything & I don't get upset over this, that or the other because I simply don't give a fuck, you know?
    This doesn't sound like that. This sounds more like cries for attention -any & ALL attention- that you can give to her.
    My bet is on insecurity.
    I suggest you follow Moomus' advice.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    If I can assume she's older than 13 then I think she's sick to death of your niceness and is trying to get rid of you. She maybe doesn't want to hurt your feelings in case you curl up and die, so she wants you to finish with her.

    I think she's behaving like this deliberately as neither of you can be getting any joy out of this relationship. You should want to be with her, not walking on eggshells.

    Agree a trial separation for a month and see how you both feel after that.

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    • xxMJSxx
      12 years ago

      Yeah, she's older than 13. She says she likes nice guys, and can't stand guys who are aggressive. It's like, with an aggressive guy, she can't take someone who'll stand up to her. With a nice guy, she kinda likes having power over me. I don't know. When I do things wrong, she does things that force me to fix it because she'll make me feel bad with her attitude.

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        What she says and what she really wants are two different things!! She's telling you that so that she can have it both ways. It's a big responsibility to control someone's life and she's a fool to want to control yours. If she makes a mess of it, you will blame her - and rather than face it, she will dump you.

        Looks like you're on the way out anyway. She doesn't want a doormat. Women want men to act like men! It's why men always ask, "Why do women love b@stards?" Sensible women love nice men and want to marry them. This fool you are going out with is testing your limitations, just as a child does with a parent. You need to impose some discipline as if this is a naughty spoilt brat. Do not answer her calls, emails, texts, etc and watch her crawl to you for a change.

        You are a fool to put up with this crap! Go out with your mates and have a good laugh at her behaviour.

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        • xxMJSxx
          12 years ago

          I'm usually not a doormat when it comes to girls, and I don't usually put up with stuff from them. But with her, she's different, and we've been together for a year now. She makes me feel like I'll miss out on a good thing if I don't be with her. Sometimes I know we should've been broken up but I'm scared of regrets. It's just hard to be with her, and not be afraid for our future. Her mother fills her head with nonsense about men and women, so she grew up with bitter feelings towards men. Because of that, she judges my character based on those guys her mom talks about. And I hate it because I'm nothing like that. I'm not perfect but I consider myself different from guys who women consider pigs. I try to take a woman's feelings into consideration but with her it's just nonstop things that you have to consider, and it's annoying.

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          • joybird
            12 years ago

            She may have convinced herself and even you, that she's a real catch but she doesn't sound like it to me! You are still in the early stages that is lovey dovey so God help you when she really feels that she's got her claws into you.

            You are never going to change her, or change her beliefs so don't waste your time trying. If she hates men why would she go out with one in the first place? She may of course be a secret lesbian - which would explain a lot of her behaviour.

            This girl is going to marry a real b@stard that beats her up and cheats on her! Wait and see!

            Trust me when I tell you that you'll miss out on nothing if you're not with her, nothing except abuse. You need to think more of yourself! Just coz she's arrogant doesn't mean she's any better than you. You are supposed to spend time with people who make you happy and feel good, but it doesn't sound like she does either.

            I'm sure if you ran this info past your own mom, she'd tell you the same. You are wasted on this spoilt brat. Get out there and meet a decent girl with no issues, and one who appreciates a good man. This is a total waste of your time!!

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            • xxMJSxx
              12 years ago

              We're both 21, which is young. I don't know what's in her head when it comes to her actions but I know she has to know that she has issues. I know I'm not perfect, and I've told her almost all of my insecurities and flaws, and she's accepted them. She encourages me and says she wants me to be happy, and everything isn't all bad all the time, but I still feel uncomfortable with being myself. It's just complicated and confusing because I don't want to make it seem like she's some witch but she's difficult as hell. I'm the type of person that likes to be there for people, and take them out of the dark, but she's who she is. I want to do something with my life but I'm financially in a tough spot, and I have to work where I can. She expects me to be some overnight millionaire or something, she wants to be financially secure with a guy. She likes the finer things in life, and acts like if I never became rich, I'm not worth her time. She said a nice personality isn't all she needs. And that hurt because I was offering her my personality in the beginning of the relationship to make her feel joy. I want to travel the world, and do things for the girl I'm with. But I also would like someone who just loves being with me ,regardless, even if fancy things excite them. She acts as if you have to have it all to have love, and that's not me. She's cried over me, saying she just wants me to love her but she makes me afraid to. I don't try to mold a girl into an ideal, she does that with me. She liked me for me in the beginning but I feel like she eventually expects me to turn into her ideal guy. I never wanted to change her, I just wanted us to mature together, and grow from eachother. I wanted us to understand what we don't understand about eachother.

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