Is it normal for your friends to think your obsessed with them?

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they never tecniocally said the word obsessed but heres the story. i have 2 bestfriends. one is a little closer to me than the other. the first one we do almost everything together and the other one we hang out alot but not as much as the first anyways my friends both have serious boyfriends and i never had a boyfriend from the fact that im shy and really reserved. my secound friend had a boyfriend 6 months before my 1 friend and in that time theres been times when we had plans to hang out and she would tell me her boyfriend wont let her go. (her bf is possesive). id get really mad at her and shed finally stop. it always bothered me that at school she only hangs out with him and puts him first and it always made me feel used like she doesnt appreciate are friendship. one day she said to me why do u always treat ur friends like a boyfriend. i never thought i did until now when my First friend now has a bf and im again feeling like im being scheduled. when we hang out she will be like my boyfriends comming to get me at 8 when we only had 2 hours of hanging out when im used to hanging out with her all day. like i feel like she cares about him more than me. this one time i asked her to party and she said she couldnt because she was hanging out with her boyfriend. i feelt like i lost my friend kinda, that just becuz hes a guy she cares about him more than me because to me i feel you should truly care about all your loved ones 100% i know its werid to feel this way and i never had a boyfriend so i dont understand why there so obsessed with them. i feel betraYed because i was in there life first and i feel will be long aafter whn there gone. my first ffriend ssaiid i expect to much from them i dont understand this becuz i though that was a good thing. she said i need a boyfriend to care about becuz i care for them too much . do you think is norormal to feel this way? do you think that me not understanding about there relationships is normal and do you think that the reason i treat them like that is becuz i need a boyfroiendd but since i dont like the gushy touchy feely stuff that comes along with relationships thaT i turn to my friends. (makes me feel awkward and unconfrontable) like i dont wanna date someone unless i truly like them other wise it feels like a waste of emotion and time and they have to feel the same way .should i get new friends or just more or just deal with it? i dont now what do u guys think?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    i think everythings fine and you have these friends in your backpocket, you need to make more friends thats all, its easy to do if you dont put too much pressure on them, these 2 friends you have now will always be yr friends try not to lose them by being angry about their bfs who they love

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  • Ichybeaver
    11 years ago

    Bros before hoes

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Is it normal for your friends to think you're obsessed with them?

    Yes. I can see why your friends would think that about you.

    Young girls (and even women) tend to get very wrapped up in their romantic relationships and neglect their friends, especially during the lovey-dovey stage. Guys are a more about "bros before hoes" but that whole friendship-before-flings doesn't work for girls. So, it's normal that your friends neglect you while they're in a relationship, even though it's a bit rude on their part. You will probably do the same the first time you've got a boyfriend too.

    You can't expect your coupled up girl friends to dedicate their time to you once they're in a relationship. If you do expect it, you'll only be disappointed.

    Make more friends so that you have a variety of people to hang out with when some of your other friends are wrapped up in their romantic relationships. Or, get used to relying on yourself for companionship and entertainment.

    p.s. If you ever submit a story this long again, use paragraphs; it is very inconsiderate to expect people to read a giant wall of text. It also reduces your chances of anyone reading it.

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    • Dazzle
      11 years ago

      Yeah, I read half of it and approximatively got what she meant, but it's an eyesore.
      Anyway, some guys are like that too and leave their pals behind to stay with their girl.
      It's annoying, but their choice, all you can do is be understanding and leave them alone.

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    • curiouskate101
      11 years ago

      it was hard to write because i was on my phone

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        No problem. I was pointing it out as a tip for your next story, if you make one. :)

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