Is it normal for your fiance of 6 yrs be concerned that his ex is sick

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First let me start by saying that my Fiance and I have been together for almost 7 yrs and him and his ex who cheated on him, lied to him and stole from his family have been broken up for over ten years. She came into our relationship when i found letters she'd written him and received phone calls from her talking about him then she showed up to my house in another city to talk to him and get a ride from us while he was supposed to be taking me to the airport. After finally getting fed up i put down my foot and told him i did not want him speaking to her because she had gotten married but told her husband my Bf was trying to get with her and so both my Bf an her husband got into a physical altercation. Because of this i felt she was only causing problems and she needed to be out of our lives. then today out of the blue while talking to him about our relationship he tells me she is in the hospital and dying. Is it normal for a man to cry over his ex when she's been so destructive and manipulative thru out their relationship and ours?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    You can't completely shut of your feelings for somebody. It doesn't work that way.

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  • 12eahtsdrateri
    8 years ago

    I think they are tears of relief

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  • yamiyami
    11 years ago

    wot is not normal dumb the guy clearly he is not over the ex!

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    Seven years into the relationship is not really the time to be dealing with issues like this. If your BF's interactions with the ex were really bothering you so much over this time, then you should have left him, or at least set an ultimatum. You bear some of the responsibility for this because you have been accepting of the behavior for so long.

    Your BF sounds like he is very emotionally invested in this woman, and with her dying he will have to grieve her, and no doubt that will be upsetting for you to see.

    Your choices right now are pretty much the same that they have been for the entire seven years that you have been together. You can either stay with him or leave him. You can't change this. There is no way you could ever make him "realize" that his feelings for his ex are "wrong" while he is with you.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I think that he should have kept his feelings for himself. There was no need to share. People should know better than that.

    The good side of the story is that she won't bother you again. Try to be supportive even if you feel that he just shouldn't give a damn. You'll score points in his esteem.

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