Is it normal for your boyfriend to pressure you to lose weight?

Like 90% of all relationship problems, this would probably be fixed with a calm discussion with your partner about the topic. Not an argument. Tell him you feel a little pressured and insulted. Asking "would you feel sad if I left" comes off more as a guilt-trip or a threat than a real discussion.

Hmm, he doesn't need to be offensive about it.. maybe he is a jerk.

But understand something -physical attraction is a very important factor in any relationship. if you still want your bf to have sex with you and enjoy it, maybe you should lose some weight.

I've had the same problem before -one of my exes after a year together gained weight. And I'm a sports and fitness freak.. not because i wanna be a jerk or want to find flaws, I just can't have it any other way. We broke up because of that.

Physical attraction is what draws the partner in. Personality is just a bonus. Don't act like you guys don't care about physical attraction.

He's looking out for your health. You should listen to him.

(I posted this after only reading the title. It's the first thought that came to mind.)

I don't understand his problem, your still the same girl thats all that matters. But if it makes you feel better you should lose weight, for yourself! I would never bring that up to someone I've been dating for two years. I could understand his frustration however, he probably misses you being skinny, but still I don't see how you could possibly even judge someone you've been with for that long. That's not a good sign. Leave him, then get in killer shape to rub it in.

Firstly your parents should not be forcing you to eat to the piont you are becoming so heavy . Secondly if he really loved you he would love you fat or not its not the look that matters it is mainly the person who does . What is going to happen when you old and wrinkley ? is he going to stop loving you becuase you are full of wrinkles and say " sorry baby it does not work I want a soft women with none wrinkley skin " . In any case being over wieght is not healthy and you should try to lose the wieght . Him teasing you about being fat is really imuture though and shows he just a worthless child who is shallow and will proboly dump you for anything else so I would say dump him becuase he is not mature enough for a relationship .

Are you planning on losing the weight though? I don't think it's unreasonable for him to be concerned about you gaining weight, but I do agree that he's going about it the wrong way. You should sit down and seriously talk about it. If he's in shape himself, maybe you could come up with a plan together to help you lose weight. I would be a great relationship builder.

No, he's being an arse. If he can't love you despite your shape then he doesn't love you enough.

There really isn't a nice way to tell someone they're getting fat. To me, it really depends on how much weight we're talking about here. Did you gain a little tummy fat, or have you full on changed your whole body? He's right that it's not good to be unhealthy. Of coarse it's an insult to hear that, but he's telling you how he feels. Instead of taking it as him not loving you, why not just abide and get fit? It definately wouldn't hurt anything to lose weight. I would make him diet and workout with me though lol He can reap what he sows and drink a green health shake and work out his jiggly buns to xD

I don't care what anyone here says.

It is one thing for him to show concern for your weight. But it is a completely different matter if he is teasing you and making jokes about you. That is not showing concern, that is being hurtful and trying to force you to feel low enough about yourself to make you lose weight.

Imagine this if you had kids. Imagine giving birth to your child and gaining baby weight and being made fun of while you are caring for his child. That will hurt you much more. People who abuse you will continue to abuse you and yes, insulting someone about their weight and hurting their feelings is abuse and it will not get any better, even if you lose weight.

You need to leave him. If he cared for your health, he would educate himself concerning good dietary habits and exercise habits and he would attempt to include you within his good dietary and exercise habits, rather than attempt to shame you into loving yourself enough to show more concern for your health. This is not a good person to have around when you need emotional support, obviously, he is attacking your self esteem.

This will not improve unless you put your foot down and tell him that he will not look down on you unless he is willing to help you up off of the ground. If he continues this behavior, leave him. His love and respect for you should NOT be contingent on your waist size, I don't give a damn what anyone here says, no man that truly loves you will be disrespectful to you like that. You don't do that to your partner for any reason.

if he's teasing you about your weight, he simply doesn't know how to express his concern maturely. that being you are fatter and less appealing to the eye.

no,he should love you for who u r,unless he only is being supportive,but if its pure forcing then no

I wouldn't leave him, he seems to love you. In my opinion, it seems like he's saying it for your benefit rather than him just being a shallow person. If he's used to seeing you skinny, and then stress causes you to gain weight, then he's obviously going to want you to return to the way you were when you were skinny and stress free. Also, stress eating isn't the healthiest thing to be doing, and he may want to stop a potential food addiction.

Based on what you've put, he does seem to care a lot about you, and he probably just wants you to be healthy:)!

Well he bought a nice car, now it needs a service.