Is it normal for your bf to constantly check up on you?

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So this is the story. I have a bf that I have been with for 3 years. In the beginning it was rough he cheated had all his lil girls on the side but eventually changed. I stayed with him and has not cheated from the first time at least I dont think. Well recently he has been checking my email and everything else as if im going to do something. I really dont care if he does but after a while it gets annoying i mean if i wanted to cheat i wouldve done it already so why does he do this?? is it normal?? help please!!

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    it means he is still cheating on you.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    I wouldn't care if my man checked all my stuff, because I have nothing to hide. It's the ones that don't like being checked up on that are doing something they aren't supposed to be. So, start checking his stuff and see how he feels about it. Also if he deletes his history and/or messages anywhere then he is hiding something. I don't care what people say, if you delete it then you are doing something wrong and you should cut the crap out before you lose your significant other. Hiding stuff is a form of lying and lying gets you nowhere but alone

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  • ladytron17
    13 years ago

    It's called projection. It's a defense mechanism. People often assume that other people are also doing what they are doing. He is suspicious of you, because he's doing things behind your back. He's cheating, or being dishonest, and feels like you're doing the same

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  • belial
    13 years ago

    Hes a cheater!

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  • belial
    13 years ago

    People who don't trust others usually are like that because they know what they are doing. For example, people who steal/screw people over think people are always stealing/screwing them over. Same will apply with cheating unless your behaviors have changed to support his suspicion.

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  • Ralphie
    13 years ago

    Guys start checking up on their girls when they feel guilty. He's worried you might find out he's still cheating, or back to cheating, and wants to have ammunition for the inevitable fight. Or just wants to be able to be the first one to "attack" so that you will be thrown off and not catch him at all.

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  • n0rms2
    13 years ago

    it just sounds like you aren't giving him re-assurance he needs and he's reacting. also, you need to set boundary's with him again. sometimes this gets lost along the way. everyone needs privacy and space to grow and just be a human being. re-claim it.

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  • MrHammett
    13 years ago

    I have a friend with a boyfriend who's acting in the same way than yours & i think that an attitude like that, only shows a insecure man who don't want to be cheated, because he know what it is; what you can do is talk with him about it, tell him that you're not going to do anything like that because you love him, if after this he still doing all that stuffs, its going to be hard to continue the relationship until she can feel secure about him & about you. The bes for you 2. greetings

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